| Show GIRL DISILLUSIONED IN EMOTIONAL FERVOR BY LONG ENGAGEMENT L Boy Doy Butters His Own Beans Beans' While Posing as Friend j Corsage or Bouquet for Wedding edding F Persian Part-Persian Kittens B By BETTY BLAIR There There are many reasons why young people should not nottie nottie tie themselves to long engagements One of the chief of these hese is that disillusionment comes and there is nothing as asIn asIn asin In marriage to fall back upon to draw them together in a deeper union of mutual ambitions and plans for future building ii Dear Miss Ml Blair I 1 have been engaged to a boy boylor boytor for lor two years When we first started going together I was very much In love with him as he was with me mc and we would have been married then but the depression depression de do- kept us from Irom ilI it il I have seen him almost every everyday day or night during the two years we have been waiting and recently recently re rc re- re a big change has come over me mc I cant can't account for it myself I cant can't muster a thrill any more when I hear his voice voiceover voiceover voiceover over the telephone as I on once e could nor even with his kisses I still respect him more than any my boy I know and would feel leel sad sadil ad adit il it he were to go completely out of ol my life He is now urging our marriage and I keep finding excuses but butI I cant can't keep this up much longer The trouble is that I think maybe I do really reany love him but that I dont don't know it Is there any way I can find lind out for lor sure How do you account for lor what has happened to me mc Do you ou think my real love for lor him is dead Please help me to solve this problem If it you can TROUBLED It is 15 my ray opinion Troubled that because of ol your Our long engagement you have experienced almost the same thing that married people experience In the disillusionment you feel regarding re ro- ro garding g the romance of your love affair alfair The has gone and since you rou are not yet married you OU cant can't begin to lo build together for lor that more stable thing that does follow in well mated marriages It has to do with mutual interests with building the fine line details of ol a future together with planning ahead for lor the things you cant can't yet afford allord It is these interests interests in in- terest these dreams this making the dreams come true that binds married mar mar- ried ned people together in a union that even disappointments make stronger One reason why I strongly disapprove prove of long engagements is that when the change in emotional feel teel ing log comes as it will there is not the tie that keeps two people working for lor better things Disillusionment of the spells for them a loss of ol l love vc And there the the-reis is s nothing for lor it il but they must either separate or marry for lor honors honor's s 's sake kc an and carry with them through life lile the mistaken notion nolion that something finer liner than anything they have known in married life lile died before marriage There are cases of ol course where love and respect really die Where two people find lind they haven't enough in common to hold them together through life lile In cases of ol this kind the thing to do is to break the engagement engagement en en- I en-I rather than go through life suffering the misery of actual Judge your own case for lor yourself Do you have interests and tastes in common with wilh your fiance Can you see ec into the future with pleasure Inthe Inthe in inthe the idea a that you two may accomplish pl plans ns for lor a home and all that it entails entails en en- tails taIs together II If so so take a months month's va vacation from Irom your fiance liance Neither zee see nor hear from Irom him during that thai time Get far lar enough away from Irom the tr trees es to view the beauty of ol the thc forest lores and get the right perspective Then come back and see what your reactions reactions reactions will wUl be You will know better then what to do and must act accord accord- Letters questions and requests requests requests re re- re- re quests for lor advice should hould be bead ad addressed to MISS BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S IIA HAVEN VEN TELEGRAM SALT LA LAKE K E CITY Write legibly upon only one side of ol the paper It is necessary that you ou append append append ap ap- ap- ap pend the ri right ht name and address address ad ad- dress but these will be held in strict confidence and will not appear in print Questions involving in in- advertising tion cannot be answered gave he her advice about how she could win me She has told me several times that she likes me very much and andI I have heard from Irom my friends and hers that she does I think ver very much of this girl and of oC this friend I dont don't know all that they talked about but I found lound out enough about it to tell that he was getting very personal about matters malters concerning me Now Miss Blair I have talked to this friend since that night and he says sas th that t what he talked about will vill be for lor my good But from Irom all aU indications it isn't I haven't seen this girl since and I Ido do dont don't t know whether she will take the advice that he gave h her r. r I like her very much and do donot donot I Inot not want to lose the friendship of oC this boy Will you kindly tell me what you think of a friend who would give a girl such advice and also of a girl who would take It ItI I am thanking you very kindly in advance DISCOURAGED I think you have been too content contento to o let your friend pl play y the John Alden Alen Al- Al dc den en part while you in true Miles Standish fashion stood by and looked on n. n This wasn't fair lair to anyone concerned concerned con con- the girl who was doing the waiting act with you ou least of ol alL She was as perhaps an unwilling tool in a game ame of ol which she wasn't told the details And most certainly the girl whom you ou liked best thought poorly of ol th the plan ilan if she suspected that her Instincts In In- in regard to your Your feeling for lor her were really true Perhaps she thought you were afraid to take up the he issue for yourself And no girl girlis is particularly impressed with wilh a boy who hasn't enough confidence to tell his lis own story It seems to me the only thing for lor you ou to do now is to make a grand coup Say to your boy boyl friend with all LI the confidence in the world Now look here youve you've managed this thing ling long nough enough and I fall fail to see any ny results for Jor my particular benefit Now ow let me show you what a real man can do You know the braggadocio bragga bragga- docio ocio sort of ol voice and manner boys take ake with wilh each other all aU in fun lun Let yours ours be tie that manner yet yel with a meaning back of it that cant can't be mis- mis taken In addition say Now you be gal gal- ant lant to the girl Ive I've been doing my duty uty by and Ill I'll try my luck with the he other Sounds like a lot of hard bargaining from the girls girl's point of ol vIew but beneath it may be real affection and a real desire to make both girls happy PERSIANS PART FOR FOB GIFTS kittens need new homes three homes three of them Call for them at 1400 HOO East Ninth South street or phone J. 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