| Show MENACE OF GOSSIP 4 i. i IN IN HOUSEHOLD OF o r- r WORKING LATE LA TE- TE WORKING MAN ii L Legality of Divorce and Remarriage Problem Friendship I T Between Adolescents Should Be Varied and Wholesome By BETTY BLAIR BLAm People of starved emotions and inhibitions need to check to make sure that the safety valve isn't leaking in the wrong I spot Gossip and other queer qualities are fostered in such leaks Give the emotions a chance for Wholesome outlets and get rid of distorted traits Dear Miss Blair I am a man of ot great patience and usually of ot average intelligence intelligence intelli intelli- gence and understanding of ot women wo woo men but there is I something gO going g gon 1 I fl on now right in m n f-au f my own household house house- i-aix i hold that has me meI f I 1 1111 1 baffled I I My work demands de de- de- de M mands that toward to to- 1111 iii I ward the end of ofIl Il I the month I go goback gol I N 11 l II alter back fi to dinner my office and andu d u pore over the ac ae counts The new codes and md the necessity of at cutting down on my overhead to make any kind of ot a living at all while they give my better ho hours rs cause a greater hardship on me However it is not about bout this that I am writing My wile wife has a ver very Close Iose friend at least she calls herself friend but to lo my notion she is a meddling med mcd- busybody Whenever my work has demanded that I put in these extra hours this friend drops drop over to console my wife wICe S My wife is for the most part fin intelligent understanding woman weman wo we- man but it would take a superwoman superwoman superwoman super- super woman to stand up under the barrage of suspicion with which this supposed friends friend's words are loaded Here is h a sample of her conversa con- con versa ion as my wife repeated it to me the other morning after a II late evening I had spent at the theoffice theoffice theoffice office in the heat slaving for our living How perfectly awful that Jim has to work ro so late fn In evenings Dont Don't you worry about him Men arc Bre so queer you know I wouldn't trust the best man that lived Jived Wh What lt Till 1 o'clock Inthe in inthe inthe the morning How perfectly awful awful aw aw- ful full And you staying home and worrying about him all that Urn time c. c Well Wen I think youre you're awfully sweet to be so good natured about it ft Have you seen anything of at that brunette woman The one Jim used to like Bill said he saw her back in town She was in a taxi about 1 I o'clock yesterday yesterday yester yester- day morning Oh no of course nott not noti Such a thought never entered entered en en- my head And so on ad I dont don't know why my wile wife tolerates her She Is pretty entertaining but buta a born gossip and meddler Is there a cure for lor such SO MUCH NO NOMORE MORE It would be a 3 big undertaking on your part or your our wife's to try to reform reform re reo re- re form the gossip but most certainly you could take steps to discourage her from coming to your house ho or oret at et le least t to determine the course of the conversation while she was there Make it a point to go out after aeter dinner din din- ner ncr some evening as if YOU were goIng going go go- I ing back to the office Give time for forthe forthe the little to arrive b gossip by appoint ment Then after she has had time timeto to get well started casually drop in Apologize for for- forre re returning so early Say you hope she has had time to get in her good work of ot filling your wife's wiCe's mind full of thoughts of ot the brunette and of the motive for your late hours as it U m makes kes your home life Ule so much muen happier When sh she bristles and wants to know what you ou mean nean have a plain talk with her Tell her of her fine qualities but remind her pleasantly that she is in possession of ot one that definitely places her among those Who cant can't arrange normal emotional outlets cutlets for themselves and nd so take their satisfaction in ruining the lives of other people through the outlet t of h gossip She may hate you for it but she wont won't ont forget it and she will never gossip to your wife wile again She may think seriously of arranging her own life Ufe on a plan that will admit of ot normal normal nor nor- mal mOll wholesome emotional outlets And that will be something DIVORCE AND Dear Miss Blair How soon after atter a divorce Is granted can either cither one of the parties concerned remarry A Asas says sas right after B says not until the final decree is given six months later and C says not until six months after atter the final decree is r Riven ven Which is right If one of the people concerned was married right the interlocutory in in- decree in state and came back to Utah to live would that be considered egal In Utah Thank you EX N Six months after the Interlocutory interlocutor decree has been granted if those concerned have lived up to the terms of the decree the divorce becomes final and any time thereafter they may remarry legally in Utah A marriage mar mar- contracted any time before this first six months has elapsed in this thi or any other state is illegal megal since the people are not divorced until the first six months have passed passe The Illegality would be true in this or any other state UNDECIDED Dear Miss Blair I am ala not having a vacation th this s summer and for the first time I Iam Iam am sin glad of it A nice young boy six months month older than I has come corne cometo cometo corneto to our neighborhood to visit his aunt We have met him as the 4 aunt had our family to dinner and since then the boy and I have been very friendly Last year at high school chool I went steady with a boy who is away for the summer but we write to 10 each other This visiting boy seems jealous of the boy to whom whore I write and has hIlS tried to 0 kid me into stopping the corr correspondence Lam Iam I am only 16 16 but he says 1 he be is ix 1 Letters questions question and reQUests requests requests re re- re- re quests for advice should be addressed ed to MISS l BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE CITY Write legibly upon only one side of ot the paper It is necessary that you ou append append ap ape ap- ap pend the right name and address address address ad ad- dress but these will bi be held in strict t confidence and will not appear appel in print Questions Question involving involving involving in in- advertising information information tion Lion cannot be answered going to marry me before he returns returns returns re re- turns to his home in another state and he wont won't have me writing writ ing lag to other men Of at course urse what he says is allin all allIn allin in fun tun but still I know he would like me to be his girl and no others other's I like him too but he wont won't be here during the school year and I dont don't want to stay home from all the parties and things Of Ot course course I expect to write to him too but do you think I should give up the boy who will be here Or Is it selfish sel set fish to go with him just to get to togo togo toto go to to parties JUDITH It would be very selfish to go with the home boy just jUt to satisfy your yen for parties but if you go with him to give him as much of ot your companionship com corn as he gives you of his and to create a mutual friendliness and good time that is good reci red Dont Don't give up your home friends for t this is new found friend Teach him to be so big heart hearted that he will admit ad mit of ot your having many friends himself included At 16 n no girl should be asked to eliminate from her life all the pleasant experiences she should have through wholesome companionships with boys bos She should know many boys and so 50 learn to choose wisely from among them when the time comes that her emotions emotions emotions emo emo- stabilize themselves and she ahe want wants only one for tor a lifetime com panion |
