Show t HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN HAVE L 1 i Conducted by BETTY BLAIR Letters questions and requests for advice should be addressed to MISS BETTY BETrY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE Write legibly upon only one side of ot the paper It is necessary that you ou append the tho right name and address but these will be held in strict confidence and will not appear in print Questions involving advertising Information cannot be ba an an- an Lett Letters rs requiring personal reply must be accompanied by stamped self-addressed self envelopes Ed BERATES BOYS Dear Miss liu Blair I simply cant can't understand d boys boy The They expect a a. girl to ro go o all the wa waIn way In making a a. date dale or in bestowing friendly favors ors I said Id I would sla slaIn stay slay In forever before I would c call cail U a a. bo boup boy boyup boyup up and kid him into asking me mc for a adale date dale but I finally lly changed my mindI mind I found that the girls who had dates date called the boys up and and practically lI made mad the appointment themselves s. s Then lI I did the s same me thins thing but I hate I myself for it ft The boys are no DO lon longer er gentlemen they're Just pl plain lil saps ups They dont don't need t to worry about bates late elates J because there are Me plenty of or girls eirls to call them to do Is to make u 1 All AH they have c up their minds beforehand which girl fit will wilt call them first then no matt matter how many may y call caU first he tells them all aU he be It Is dated L Then Its It's Juat to too bad for him If the right girl down doesn't call nt ut all For then ho he actually has hasto hasto to go 0 to all aU the effort of asking a girl lrI himself one one- who h hasn't mt called him previously and been turned down What t a a. soft lIfo life for the boys boys' Soon they will all be learning to trim hats hata aIon with their knitting Well this Isn't m my Idea of or a J. J man I may call these poor fish Just to keep from sitting at homo home and bilin biting my fingernails but when It comes to loving one of or them Id I'd as soon falin fall fal fallin in love with my grandmothers grandmother's mo mop ra rag raff Modern Modem boys bos have hn-c no gumption IN ARMS Whose fault Is it if the boys have been taught to wait for tor or the girls to can call them In your our mothers mother's day ay such sucha a thing would have bave branded a a girl gir immediately as lacking in self Why need the boys trouble about dates when there are so many to take the trouble for them And to think you would fall faU in jn line with others in spite of or your our dislike for such a method methodi Couldn't yo you have found something better hatter to do at home or elsewhere than biting your fingernails Something Something Some Some- thing that would have been more profitable and that would have left lef more finished results I cant can't help thinking that there mus must b be many girls whose Interest in going places places' with boys is not so ke keen n but that other interests supersede them providing no boy has put tin lin an appearance appearance appearance ap ap- ap- ap or a bid I cant can't help thinking there are arc girls galore who would never think of calling a boy boyto boyto boyto to date dale him for anything unless it be a girl girls girls' party to which they were sup supposed ed to invite the boys And I Ican Ican can cant can't t help thinking that the interests of these girls are that they have good times without the boys and are yet gracious and pleased when the latter seek their company These are the boys who never knit or trim hats for or the simple reason that they have never been driven into a corner where knitting or trimming hats was the only thing left for them themI I t to do and still survive FORTY ORTY ANNIVERSARY Dear Miss lUlu Blair Wilt Will you kindly fe tell me what the forty fifth anniversary e 51 signifies I n I f J I e s I 7 KATIE Thank you The forty filth is the sapphire anniversary an an- Costume jewelry of synthetic synthetic syn syn- stones may bo be used as gifts in case one cannot afford the genuine sapphire which is quite as costly as a diamond Sapphire colored velvets and silks trimmed with gold or silver th threads eads and used for couch pillows or Jr sapphire colored pottery or china in vases ases or coffee cups a picture with a sapphire sea you sea you have really quite a 3 variety of gifts from which to S THE TIlE WEDDING DRESS Dear Miss Blair Is It proper for tor the bride t to wear a white bite lace bee wedding drew dress with veil Inthe in inthe inthe the winter months My ly mother thinks I should have white velvet but hot I want lace Thanking you BRIDE e 4 A white wedding dress and veil are appropriate at at any time of the year It may be of satin velvet chiffon silk lace or brocade B By Byall all means have havethe havethe havethe the lace dress if it that is is' what your heart longs for Look at the lovely wool laces before you de decide ide WOMANS WOMAN'S PHILOSOPHY S Dear Miss liss Blair I am certainly getting a laugh out of my sister She belongs to io more uplift and 2nd clubs than Uan an any person I know She falls nUs for ever every traveling psychologist that comes t to town lawn so she can learn to understand her children and bring brine them up In th the right way and while she 1 Is b attendIng all nil these meetings and clubs dubs her circa are re running wild My ly mother mo the has remonstrated with her and a so so have e I. I i It lit 10 trying to io learn lelm how to bring he her children up from a psychological background b she is letting them Impose Im ha- pose on her badly She never says say dont to them and when she saydo says say do I I wont they say Then sh she doesn't Insist I think she doesn't us use use plain common sense My mother sayi says her philosophy o olife of life Ufe was to do the best sh she could ou d with the sense she he developed through he her own experience As A. children we were obedient We had never heard of or com corn and we lived normal healthy lives and respected our parents These new tangled Ideas put pat other Ideas Into childrens children's heads and drive out common cornmon com corn mon man sense AUNT JESS Ill I'll wager your ant and sisters s didn't interfere with her up bringing of 01 her own children either cither What could cause more confusion in ina a a mothers mother's mind than at her from front her relatives Leave her alone and let lether her work out her own methods She wilt will learn to profit by byler her ler own mistakes if she is left to herself to see them But your o r criticism does something to her that antagonizes her into an extreme lion ion of other case It is quite true that a little knowledge knowledge knowl edge is a dangerous thing but we we arc are con confident that your sister has inherited inherit ed enough of the good common sense of her ancestors ancestors' that when left to the solution of her own problems she will know how to use it It TOMATO TOl JUICE COCKTAIL Dear Miss BI Blair lr Will yon you kindly give rIve m me a recipe for tomato Juice cocktail Many thanks hanks HOSTESS The following recipe is enough for fori six cocktail glasses Two cups strained tomato juice 4 teaspoons of ol chopped parsley 4 teaspoons of chopped chives or chopped mild oni n r. r teaspoon tabasco sauce 3 4 teaspoon Worcestershire sauce 1 teaspoon tea tea- spoon poon salt 1 cup lemon carbonated beverage Let chives and parsley stand In tomato omato juice for three hours Strain and add seasonings Chill thoroughly and add lemon beverage which has been een chilled Shake or stir and serve serven in n glasses surrounded by shaved ice SMART COIFFURE Dear r Miss 1 Blair Must the smart coiffure this year be bea a smooth looking wave wavel I see so 10 many freshly coiffed heads that look that hat way and mine simply wont won't be be- have I plaster it with and audit It behaves like grass grus waving In Inthe inthe the he wind Please help WINNIE It is the smooth-looking smooth head of hair that hat is this years year's contribution to chic Winnie The hair must be soft and every very hair in place This calls for a prime condition of your scalp and hair You cant can't get that by sUcking slicking on n a little brillIantine You must be conscientious Brush your hair massage masage mas- mas sage age your scalp use a tonic every everyn n night for a week then twice a w week k kall all 11 winter The main thing is to brush it and brush it and then give it a few more strokes |