Salt Lake Telegram | 1929-07-19 | Page 23 | Your Children

r Fe YOUIt- YOUIt 1 j C IJ I I II I Ii If IE I i Olive O obert aberts r. on O C 1 1929 bu NEA NIA Service Inc Ine The longer lonser I I. live Un the more necessity sity I see for or children ha having play play- m mates tes that suit stilt them d. d Over and over ovel and over o ocra a again in I observe e children being shoved sho aside Imposed upon and ridden 0 over roughshod by willed stronger com com- panion l and Its It's neither right nor fair rah This ver very r thing we ar are discovering discovering dis dis- dis co covering Is Js the great greatest st contributing factor to that cruel and nd unhappy thing inferiority complex We e can talk all we like liko about children 1 learning to take tike their own parts uta and developing en spunk tg te cope with their more determined neighbors s but it doesn't work work work- that's all there Is Js to it not if the Difference is is' great gleat and the he b gap P. P hard hardt t to breach The stronger will go on getting stronger and the less Jess assertive will get mo more e submissive and less Jess confident conti- conti dent as time goes on on B Because cause he lie will Ili M soon n take it for fOl sr granted nt d that the other has all aJl the rights and he hell he'll be contented to take tale what's left lett AVOID THE BULLIES It saw I a n group of ot two yo little girls playing together constantly and just as constantly her chi choice e of ot games had to be waited oi oi 01 first firstin in the candy store had to have ha most slides slides' down don the sliding board and flaunted her good cl clothes th that t shed she'd bullied her mother er into letting Jetting her wear before the longing e ey es' es of oC helmore her hel more J modestly dressed companions It if if I saw this day after aftel day Ia and my child was was' the foll follower I should take her away from the thc willed stronger child if ic f p possible nn and find a a. playmate playmate playmate play play- mate for 01 her whose will wUl matched matche her own and who would increase her hero heron o n o confidence own n self respect and Certainly r shed she'd be happier I If U I Iliad had a i. i boy who vho played with another r bo boy da day after day and who was as permanently Uy unhappy because the ether boy could do things better than he lie could and made him feel leel his Ills InC Id I'd break bleak up the association asso asso- cIati elation ii and sc search ch for tor a playmate who ho could ouid not ot do too many things too well and wh who would give gJ my own son son a chan changeT e to develop Comp Competition li- li tion Uon is good good- but it can also be his dis WHEN STANDARDS DIFFER Oftentimes s it Isn't a n matter of ot being bein- er or less Jess clever J but ut the fact act that some children are trained to be thoughtful and kind kindt t to others the culture and refinement refinement refine refine- ment of oC the up carefully c child often cannot compete with they the thc y young ung steam roller whOse se tutoring about other p peoples people's feelings and rights may have haxe been somewhat t casual It isn't fall fair to children to teach them consideration on anti and then turn them thein over oel to the others othel's to take what treatment they can eun get I firmly believe that this follower follower follow er cr business is a thing True we cant can't all aU be leaders but wise wisee le e and selfish leadership alto al'- al' ate are two t different things