Show Some Sound Advice on Shaking Hands By Fl Florence ll Howe we H Hall ll An old rule prescribes that two ladles ladies living JIvIng in tho the some same town or city shall not be Introduced formally unless the consent consent con con- sent of ot both has been asked previously pra A distinction Is very properly made mado between bc- bc tween formal ormal and informal introductions The latter should bo be made whenever when vcr It Its itIs ItIs Is s necessary to avoid awkwardness Thu Thus It if f two ladles s are talking together and anda a man comes up to speak to one of them she will m present him to her friend If It ho stays long enough to make tho the situation uncomfortable for tor tho the latter If Ir he only makes a 8 few Cew remarks before beCore leaving no Introduction will be necessary It is a mistake to introduce a a. newcomer newcomer newcomer new new- comer to a a. whole roomful of or people She will not know which Is fa which but will be almost cort certain to bow to the wrong person per- per son Eon If It sh shy h Is hll a distinguished stranger whom al ill I h to meet neet one two taro In Individuals Individuals In- In als may be brought up at ot a a a time Or the company n may form torm a a. line tine e each h person presented In turn by the ho hostess te or her deputy In J. J this case It is Js not necessary to repeat tho the name of ot the guest of honor each time since every everyone everyone everyone one knows who she is II It Is IA a a great mistake to assume a a. stiff Burr Burror or formal manner when one onA on Is Introduced to another person The latter will be apt to feel teel hurt or aggrieved He will infer Inter that his hlll acquaintance Is not at all desired A lady should always be gradous gracious gra gra- dous cious yet not effusive She should main maln- maintain maintain tain a certain reserve since she Is dealIng dealing dealing deal- deal Ing with whir a person who Is a stranger althou al- al al although thou though h In time he mI may become a friend When When a man Is la introduced to her it is not necessary for tor her herto to rise nor to shake hands unless some special reason exists for doing so 80 It is I usual for two men to shake hands when the they are introduced A lady always rises when another woman Is la presented to her It Is not necessary for her to shake hands unless she he wishes to be very veo cordial It is tho the ladys lady's privilege privilege lege leSe to offer her hand If It she sees seer that thata a n. man has extended his she he will usually usual take it In order to save him a feeling ol ot awkwardness Older women omen who like young oung people usually shake hands when girls are introduced to them and It In Is kind to do so At assemblies and balls baJI the patronesses receive the guests with a B. curtsy shak shak- shaking ing hands only with their friends While this method of or reception Is sometimes adopted at private houses on very formal for tor- mal oral occasions as a n. rule a hostess hostell shakes hands with all the guests In her own house This form of or greeting Is III essential to true hospitality according to our American view |