Show Come to- to toITA TA I-TA A VE YEN VEN N H EAR EART'S 1 1 T S HA ji With Jf Betty Blair Affairs of the heart and kindred problems ONLY will l bo 00 discussed In this department Lett Letters Questions and requests for advice nd should be addressed ed to MISS B BETTY J BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S IIA HAVEN VEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE Write legibly upon only one eldo of or the paper It Is necessary that you ou append the right name namo nod and address but these will bo be held In strict confidence and will by no means menns appear In print Letters requiring personal reply must be bc accompanied by stamped self addressed envelopes cn Ed I A MANS MAN'S CO CONFIDENCES Dear Miss 1 Blair Recently I was called cast to visit health m my mother r whose On the train rain I met md a 3 very err charming young oung lady We sat together tog on the thc observation car went to the diner to together together to- to gether she insisted each time on paying paring for her own meals and had d a acry cr cry pleasant time I told her I was uns a married man and poke often oCten of oC my wife In the most glowing terms Since Sinco my mr return I have wanted to tell fell my wife about this pleasant ac- ac which lasted no longer longcr than the trip but she is very cry J jealous and I am un afraid unpleasantness unpleasant unpleasant- ness would follow Collo I dont don't want sant her herlo herto herto to lo be Imagining Imagining- things that were not true I did not by even the tho slightest suggestion make love 10 to the young lady and I am sure m my wife wICo would suspect that I did V r I How flow can a man tell ell his hh wf wIle ie of oC these little harmless experiences in a pally sort of way and have ha complete understanding on her part Or maybe maybe maybe may may- be ho he should refrain from telling tellin her to tell her and cv even even n from wanting But Dut I do want ant ant to tell her A AMPLIFIER If Il wives insist on showing jealousy over their husbands' husbands confidences the they must expect to forego this friendly unburdening of hubbs acquaintanceship acquaintanceship acquaint acquaint- acquaint I with other women If every time friend husband speaks pleasantly pleasant pleasant- ly to another woman or carries on a friendly conversation or as ns in your own case finds companionship in fri a a friendly traveler tra he finds himself raked over the coals for it he will quite likel likely keep his confidences to himself thereafter A little preparation based on what you you yourself would like under the same circumstances would doubtless be a nice thing Ask your our wife Which would you ou rather that I tell you ou everything of interest that occurs in my mv life me or that I refrain 1 n from doing doing doing do do- ing s so so Every wife viCe vif who loves her husband will vote for the telling Then is time to spring the condition condition condition condi condi- tion that she listen with friendliness and an unsuspicious mind that she refrain from u ugly l jabs at nt you that she try to remember that under the same circumstances she would probably proba bly do the same thing The ground round is prepared then for forthe forthe forthe the seed of perfect confidences to be sown on both sides You may need to invite your wife's wiles confidences She may not have the pleasure in telling that you rou have ha Her daily work may begin to take on new interest when she does docs it with a view to making a word picture of something of interest interest interest inter inter- est about iL it The telling may come to mean the nicest part of what would otherwise have no meaning other than the daily grind Encourage these confidences with each other and learn how fine and intelligent a thing marital companionship companion companion- ship can con become Only persons who have mastered the art of self-control self can live together happily il A DILEMMA Il Dear Miss 1 Blair I I am engaged to one bo boy and in love with another What AM I to do It will hurt my mr fiance terribly for me meto meto meto to tell him But nut how boss can I go through with Uh ith arrangements when all the time it is somebody else for whom I am longing I feel such a cheat such a hypocrite but this has happened without an any seeking on my part It happened to both of us the first time we met Each time we have hae met at parties and md dances since the feeling has steadily grown Irown I have Yc not had an any dates ates with him el we arc are in a crowd I together we Just naturally gravitate Ir In each others other's direction We Vc dont don't have JI to use words In fact we Ye scarcely carcel talk t all But nut his eyes tell the stor story arl Im I'm sure mine be betray betray betray be- be tray me He lie knows knous I am engaged and Im I'm sure he would do nothing until or unless I first pave the thc way What I t shall I do ito I am Yer very fond of the boy boyto to whom I am an engaged en lie He is fine and wholesome and he lie has my great respect but I have never before known anything like the feeling I have for this other boy box I can tn think of nothing but him day dar and night Can you rou help me mc AT SEA Infatuation sex attraction can net act in n exactly the same way as ns this which you describe as love fo for the other boy Only time can de define ine the difference between them You can help time by asking yourself many questions Does Docs this his bo boy have the characteristics that would make for permanent happiness between us Are our tastes in common common cornmon com corn mon Arc Are the larger things in life lie for which we shall both be seeking in accord Is his disposition one that will vilI find harmony with mine When you ou have answered these questions to your satisfaction you will know whether you are arc impelled by b love or something inferior and fleet fleet- ing Until that time dela delay your marriage mar mar- Finally if it itou you ou learn quite definitely definitely deli deli- that it is the other boy whom you love tell your our fiance so In dc- dc laying aying the marriage tell him you arc not quite sure of yourself that you OU want to be given more time The knowledge will be a blow to your fiance if he is trul truly in love with you But better that than that you jOU should marry marr him loving someone else A LARGE PORTION Dear Miss Blair If It when serving serving- refreshments lat latin late in the evening a hostess offers you rou more food than can comfortably be eaten what is the best thing to do Many times portions too large arc are set before you oa and you jou ou eat and eat rather than offend orren your hostess Will you ou also give me mc the name of oC a good up- up date to-date book of oC Thanking Thanking- you fou in advance LOCO In this day of at dieting the hostess doesn't expect her guests to eat anything anything anything any any- thing that their diet restrictions for for- bid Too many calories is all one need iced say to be excused from eating too many many- manyA A nice compliment for forthe forthe forthe the food is always in order and arid this sincerely given must suffice for or the portion that remains uneaten See Sec in inthe inthe the he library books by Emily Post Anna Steese Richardson and others and choose from rom this glimpse the one you OU would like later to buy COLOR SCHEME I Dear Miss liss Blair mair I am going to have my m- house refurnished refurnished but I am not sure about m my taste lasle when hen it comes to combinations I of color in wallpaper rugs ruG's an and so on I dont don't know an any decorators decorator's rules and andI I cant can't afford arford a decorator Can you rou I II LOUISE help me mc The salesmen in shops where you buy your our materials will be of great assistance in helping you choose and combine colors But if you would have some background of choice for yourself go to tc nature Take the colors colors colors col col- col- col ors of a scene you have admired adapt these colorings to your furnishings arrange arrange ar ar- ar- ar range them in the proportion you find them in the natural vista observe the general rules of delicacy and texture and you ou will have an unfailing color scheme if you dont don't know a single decorators decorator's rule Its It's a perfectly fascinating game Take Indian summer days for example exam exam- pIe plc days on which we could live out of doors The deep delft blue of the hills the be pale yellow ellow of the sk sky the golden colden brown of the earths earth's carpet I the trimmings of crimson yellow ellow and arid andI orange what orange what a combination Yet you r I must of course be selective and andI choose the few tones that in your I mind dominate the landscape A carpet of the dusty gray of the road slip-curtains slip o of the jade green of the leaves curtains of the yellow jellow of the goldenrod plumes wallpaper V the jade gray-blue gray of the sky you sky you cant can't go wrong if you follow natures nature's r decorating scheme I NOTE TO i MISS UNSHAPELY V j A stamped self addressed envelope with your request will vill bring to you ou our circular on Dieting for Health Follow instructions and get the books listed from the public li library Ii- Ii brar to assist you ou In your our problem of putting on weight where needed GRAPEFRUIT DRI DRINK I For an early morning drink and easier to take than lemon juice and water is some grapefruit juice and hot water vater |