| Show t TS R-TS 1 1 HEARTS HEART'S HA YEN J i m With BErrY BEIT BLAIR y Affairs r. r of the heart and kindred kindled problems ONLY will wW b hi be hie discussed e In lD this department i Lett letters Letters- and requests for adyle should b hi be addre td to to 4 MISS BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN RAVEN TELEGRAM BALT SALT LANE LAKE I Write legibly upon only one aide sIde of the pap paper r. r I. I r It Is that you append the right name flume anI and Address but k these will WUI be held In strict confidence and will wID by 11 no m means ans appear In print Ed I INVITATION INVITATION- t REFUSED INVITATION Dear Miss IUs Blair We are two girls fitly who came to the eU city t to work and who have taken an apartment together torether Not lone long ago lo two boys boS whom we have met md and land liked and who have taken us out oat sty ley era erat times Invited us to a dance We went vent with them to the dance and afterward af at the they wanted ii to toga toco to co to their heir their apartment for tor refreshments refreshment The They h had d never Intimated such a thing before before before be be- fore and ADd we were puzzled Just Jast what to todo todo todo do as our acquaintance with them though short snort had led us us to o believe they were perfectly respectable boys boy After talking about It for far a II few min mm sites tes we decided not to go Co The boys bOI seem leem t tp o be mortally offended of fended over our decision We Ve have haven ten n them several leveral times since and d the they do donot not even speak The They act ad as asIf If It wr WI had doubted their honor We felt leU that it was not a nice thing to todo do to go ro to their apartment at that time of ot night no matter how fine their Intentions were Wert so 50 we didn't go ro but bat we are sorry that it IL has cost as us their friendship Did we do right or ar wrong Please tell us s also just wh why the boys bop are so 10 angry with us COUNTRY 4 GIRLS The fact that you did not accept the Invitation of ot your our to ac ac- company them at ut a late hour to their Apartment for refreshments was of course a a. direct Imputation against the morals rals or at least the good taste of or these y young ung men and nothing hurts so O much as to be found out Nevertheless you did just right to refuse the Invitation If these boys had been genuine about the motive of or their invitation like gentlemen they would have seen your our point of ot view and accepted your refusal with ith good grace If they had hadnot hadnot hadnot not known better than to offer this invitation in the first place it should not have taken much persuasion on your parts to ha have ve shown them that it was quite outside the pale of the accepted ac ae- thing for you to go to a a. mans man's apartment at any time Ume of the day whatsoever But if It I am not mistaken these boys are ore not different at heart from others They will hate to think that you came so near to discovering their motives but they will in the end respect re reo re- re t you all the more for your sound social asocial judgment Men may grumble at this sort of ot thing to make an Impression Im tin pre on but at heart they are as old fashioned and conventional as you ou and this is just the sort of sound Judgment they honor and r respect If It they refuse to 10 be friends with you you'll it itIs Is 15 s only because they they- know they they- are ore wrong and dislike the idea of fostering foster foster- lug ing a friendship p built on that basis Frequently however such friend friend- shIps chips turn out to be the finest in the world where people accept each other oth er Cr as 85 they really are without an any false notions about their at ity S INVITATIONS BY PROXY Pear ear Miss 1155 Blair I have hae been heen keeping company with n young oune man for about three months i am vin the city and have not nde lade many friends but lot my boy friend knows bows a good many people lie He is Invited out outa a great deal and his friends friends- always always' ask ak him litin to bring me rue So far I have always gone one and they have me treated me fine But Miss 1 Blair after I have been Invited to the same place two or three times and these people ople seem to like me and we weare weare weare are perfectly well acquainted dont don't you ou think they ought to call me and ask me to to- their homes home Instead of always giving ivIng the I invitation through him bIns I am beginning t to wonder whether they really desire my presence pres ence or just Jost Invite me b because I happen happen hap hap- pen to be the girl rid their their friend Is tak take ing out PROXY One does hesitate about always accepting accepting accepting ac ac- Invitations by proxy yet I 1 cant can't help thinking the invitations that come from your friends friend's friends are genuine and these friends do sincerely went your company Per Per- hape you have not been so so- situated that you could return any of these Invitations by way of a a. little party In your own apartment You may not have accommodations to 10 do more than invite your friends Inor in for tor or afternoon tea yet it is Imperative that in some way you show your appreciation to the people who ho have been so kind to invite you to their homes and to repeat these Invitations with no other acknowledgment on your part than a a. verbal expression of gratitude You must in some way establish yourself as oS a social unit before you youcan youcan youcan can expect to receive direct lions There are many Inexpensive team rooms operating where you could arrange to have your friends come if Sf you haven't the accommodations lions In your own home Plan to entertain the people who have been so 50 kind to you and see how soon they I respond by the direct invitation to you HER IIER C CHRISTMAS GIFT Dear Miss lw Blair I am making m my sweetie a a. silk shirt for lor a Christmas Christmas gift Will VIII you yoo please tell me rue me whether or not men are wearing their shirts mono mono- now or not I would just Jast love ove to put pot a monogram o on as I have bave such a a. lovely on one c combining all his Thanks for the information 4 REDHEAD It l Is quite correct for men to wear their shirts shirts' monogrammed But the monogram is not being worn in such sucha a conspicuous pl place as formerly but buton buton buton on the lower part of the sleeve Put Putt it t on by all means men if it you can do It beautifully DINNER DANCE ETIQUETTE Dear Miss I Blair Last week my husband and I went to toa o a dinner dance We were not seat seat- seated ed together at the table as I thought we should have been Instead he was Wu seated by one by-one one orie of the young the young lady sec sec- of his his finn firm and md I was seated by one of the employers who never dances Daring the dinner the couples started to dance my husband danced lanced with his dinner partner He continued dancing with her ber until unto the dinner was cleared away then he asked me inc for a dance I was Iwas was 90 so angry with him by br this time that I refused to o dance with him Consequently I sat at out most pf the dances during the evening I gave him hall Columbia when when when-we we rot got ot home and we e argued ab about ut the matter for a l Ion n time He Insists that hat he be was right to dance with his dinner partner first and I say uy he was I wrong Will you please rive dye ive us the thelow thelow low Jow down on this question Thank you on MRS mS QUIZ As a rule a husband does not dance I the he first dance with his wife at a a dinner dance He may dance with anyone whom he be chooses choose his chooses l his s dinner din ner ncr partner partner first Your husband was probably probably- only finishing up encores with his Ills dinner partner Usually while the dinner is being served people peo peer pie do not dance danee the entire dance with all the encores entirely through ugh and nd so no doubt your husband thought hought he owed it to his his' partner to toive give ive her the benefit of at least one complete dance It it- Itis itis' is' is not thought thought necessary necessary nor norven even ven correct that a husband and wife be seated together at a formal din nero ncr It was unfortunate however that hat your partner should have been somebody who did not dance Under such uch circumstances you had an opportunity opportunity op op- t to show what a a. clever con conversationalist con con- you were or orto to accept the he first opportunity to d dance nce that was offered You must really forgive your hus bus band and He was not neglecting you He was merely following the usual cus cus- torn tom om at a dinner dance Are you quite sure ure that your anger was not occasioned occa- occa by a a. bit of jealousy more than your desire to have the correct thing done NOTE TO O 0 0 L L. 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