| Show r t- t m COME COME T TO TOI I I HEARTS HEART'S HA VEN V mm tm t With BE BLAI Affair ot the Ji heart att ncI and kindred problems oN will tot ln In this thia department Lett Letters Letter questions uel and requests ts for advice b. b iP to J 2 MISS B BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN RAVEN SALT LAKE Write legibly upon only one aide bt of f th the Ui paper w nt nis that you append the right name and but these will wUl be held In strict confidence and ad 4 1 will by no means appear m In prints d. d f r DID THE WRONG THING Dear Miss Ilu Blair This summer I 1 met a IL man whom om I like so much that well Id I'd do do most anything anything- to win his love Jove Just when I 1 thought I was nearer xer having bavins it IL than I 1 cv r was 15 or arain cx- cx the wrong thInK thing He Hei works Inthe in inthe the same maine office with me One afternoon after after- noon when the boss WAS out and wew we wewer w were alone aIon he kissed me I didn't object as LI Iwas too thrilled Soon art after fter r that he made m a a date with me I had promised myself that If iti 1 ever went nt out with him I 1 wouldn't me euse I wanted his respect tand and past In letting me had tm that you cant e nt do this Lists sort rt of thIn thing and keep either cither your respecter that Of e the theother other person But after the little epa episode epi ep- ep a sode de in the office 11 It seemed that I wanted him hint to kiss me more than ve ver Now ho he thinks I am Just a a I cheap little Decker necker and I 1 guess hes he's right I bave seen him every day 7 since but bat he hasn't asked be for another date please give rive me some good advice I J know I 1 dont don't deserve his love but butI I do want t It Tm rm not Dot unpopular nor Dor am un 1 un un- loved toyed I 1 know I could have a choice between two other men but I dont don't W want nt either of them I have told them how tl things are with me inc and they dont don't urge me nor make me miserable mis mis- erable about the matter but are just justas as sweet as they can be about it I suppose I need a JI good bawling out but what is done cant can't be undone What i 1 need to know w. w is what to do next t to point the way out of this muddle IN DEEP My first bit of or advice Is that you waste no time Ume harboring regrets Regrets Regrets Re Re- grets are like the undertow They carry you back Instead of ot forward Most Mot of ot us learn our lessons by the trial and error method The thing to do now that you have really learned your our lesson Is 15 not to repeat the same mistake It is time enough to kiss a man when you know for a certainty that he I loves ves you But sometimes sometimes sometimes some some- times a a. womans woman's love for a man blinds her to the fact that he docs does not love her She cant can't get away from the idea that because became of her great emotion emotion emo- emo emo emo- tion over him bun he must also aLro be ex experiencing experiencing experiencing ex- ex something of the same sort But be far from true Love is isan an esthetic spiritual spiritual-emo- tion which coupled with sex attractIon attraction tion makes hc ideal combination if returned in kind for happy mating But nothing could be more of a nightmare nightmare night- night mare marc than for one person to be endowed endowed endowed en en- dowed with all the feeling conjured up by such a combination while the object of this emotion feels something something something some some- thing passing and momentary for forthe or orthe or orthe the one who really loves loves love's demonstration demonstration dem dem- Intensifies the blissful emotion For the other who feels sex attraction only there can be nothing but nausea after such demonstration There isn't anything you ou can do about It You cant can't make this man manlove manlove manlove love you You may make him respect you OU by your attitude in the future But love is 15 like the wind that comes and goes at will and that none can coerce My advice is that you assume a pleasantly friendly attitude toward ward him Act as if the incident of ot your IettI him tw never hap hp Do not try to Impress hirr with the thought that you would like I a atlon of his affection or at at- t And most moot Important of ot all do not sublimate your energies 3 Fill FlU your life to thc the brim brim with outside outside out out- side activities Let these other interests Interests inter inter- ests make moke you that you u taU fat asleep from sheer exha exhaustion lon al at night Drive the thought of him from froni your your- mind Love takes and arid if he 1 isto to Jove you he c will do sc more because of an intriguing interest you create reate in him than by your by-your your makIng flak mak- Ing ng any special attempt to make him do i so MOURNS FOR LOST LOVE Dear Miss J Blair I r I am nm a young yount in a local hos- hos pi pital taL About six months ago aco I fell feU In Inlove inlove Inlove love with one of f the DurS nurses We exchanged ex ex- changed Ideas on the subject and I learned earned that thai she cared for me mc In inthe the same sam way But recently something happened to change my fe feeling and andI I find myself caring more for another nurse than X I. I do for the fIrstI first I 1 haven't told Id the second nurse anything any any- thing about my for tor her as I thought It might be advisable t to Jet let a decent period of mourning elapse for forthe the love Jo that Is dead for the first nurse What do YO yon suggest DOC You have ha said nothing about the feeling the first nurse might be still stUl ent entertaining for you If she still stUl loves love you we advise by all nIl means unless you want another patient on your han hands to withhold your love from the second nurse until such time Lime that the first will come to be fully aware that you no longer care care for her And even after that a decent decent decent de de- de- de cent period of mourning might be al allowed allowed al- al lowed t to elapse since you are arc arc all Inthe in inthe the same building and because of re respect respect respect re- re for the genuine feeling the first undoubtedly had for you Generally speaking women are more tenacious in their l love v than are men and once the clinging vine has wrapped d its tendrils about the sturdy oak they are apt to go clinging on even though the oak would shed them f If it could Dont Don't think the matter is so simple that you can fall in love and out again without leavIng the ripple of the after aftereffects effects on both your lives Love may be ended for both but the fact that you are still meeting will cause a tension between you that will not be easy to overcome o with nonchalance BLONDE mONDE RINSE Dear 1 Miss Blair I am a deml-bl deml blonde demi-blonde nde and would like to know how to bleach my hair to a lighter shade I have tried several rinses but they seem to make my hair haira r ra a reddish instead of or a golden tint Can you yon tell me inc of something ng- ng else elseI I could use Thank you DOT My advice is that you let the beauty specialist deal with your problem to achieve exactly the right shade you want After that it will not be o so nard to k keep ep it in color I If you wish you might try our own blonde rinse described in our circular which you may have on request by enclosing a stamped self addressed envelope It may operate differently on different different differ differ- ent cut shades of or blonde hair but has proved successful for many in achIeving achier achier- ing the golden tints In hair that is alrea already ct blonde TO EAT LOBSTER Dear Miss lbs Blair Please tell teU me the corr correct way to eat cat lobs lobster Thanking your sour our STEVE I Lobster pulled apart with the fingers The meat is taken up with a fork BEAUTY TYPE D Dear car Miss Blair I should like to know what colors to wear and what kind of up make-up to use I have blue blueeyes eyes anda and a fair complexion Thank you KATE You ar are the Dolores Costello type and t should capitalize on all the blues blue and md greens greem in the catalog Neutral shades hades such as sand gray taupe- taupe mauve can also be worn with di dis distinction dis- dis Unction as can also blacks and whites Cherry Chem rouge and lipstick with flesh should be used Put a little household ammonia in inthe inthe inthe the water you intend to use to wash windows and it will cut every bit of the grease from them making them clear dear and shiny |
