| Show 1 k- k COME IE TO TO 1 HEA HEARTS HEART'S R T S 'S HA HAVEN VEN With BETTY BLAIR BLAIR- j I Affairs of ot the heart in this department and kindred problems problem OL ONLY will viii be du Let Letters Letter n questions and md requests Quests for tor advice should be addressed to Write MISS legibly BETTY BLAIR HEARTS hEART HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKI upon only one side aIde of ot the pa paper r. r It U Ix necessary that you fOU append the tho right name nunc and address but these will be beld held in strict In print t. Ed confidence and will wUl by no m means meen appear PROBLEMS OF ADOLESCENCE i Dear Miss llis Blair I am un a a. young youn mother with four foor children ranging In age ae from 2 to tc 14 years j My Iy oldest boy who Is 14 U 14 causes me the greatest trouble Deb He lie HeIs lieis Is b always at someone quarreling quarreling until I get so tired of it aILlie alt alL lie He was always such a a. good rood kid until the last two years and now we dont don't seem to be able to the lire with him I know It Is his age that Is b at the root of oC the trouble but Isn't there something we can do in order to ll live c with him until he gets older I have hn-e have tried everything I know but to no I Ia a avail a 3 II I 1 wonder if you JOU will mil aLto also publish publish publish pub pub- lish the letters of oC other mothers who i ibave have bave gone one through this kind of siege c e and who may come to my aid through Hearts Heart's Haven I t tell you I am just labout about ready to io give tin up Thank you for past help and thU also aho MRS EVE You do not say Just what construe construe- the tive measures you have taken Mrs Eve In order to help your son understand Understand understand un un- and endure himself and others and to make others understand understand understand under under- stand and endure him during this period of or adjustment All this accumulative ac ac- cumulative e energy of which he Is possessed possessed pos pos- must have an outlet If he Is made to feel Inferior the machinery Is already set In motion motton that will wUl make him take it out on other people peo peo- as pIe as a rule those younger and less able to cope with his attacks He Hc Is doubtless nagged at In the home I home I am merely painting the picture picture pic plc- ture of the average home treatment of the adolescent boy bOy and and bullied to keep his hu own self el esteem lord It over somebody else But there are re many avenues avenue o open n to the adolescent boy to help him really find his superior supe supe- nor sel sell self In channels of practical worth and beauty What work of or his own choice and liking lies waiting w for him to do at home Is he mechanically me me- Inclined Does s he have radio books tools wires batteries and the score of things necessary Sary for him to build a a. tube one-tube set Or Is he Interested in hi airplanes It Is not hard to determine a boys boy's real lUtes likes and dislikes He tinkers around with the sort of thing he likes He lIe should be encouraged to toP P perfect his experiments He should l be given a place of or his own If lr It Is only the tiniest space a shed a corner corner cor cor- ner ncr of the b basement but basement but ment-but but whatever er U it is is the nicest equipped best-equipped place you can afford afford in In which to build and plan and work out his own schemes And mother dont don't nag at your adolescent son SOIL He n needs ds praise for his hi efforts indulgence In his laxity serious consideration for tor his physical physical cal and mental restlessness He needs a father to treat him as an equal and to talk to him kindly and Intelligently about life me its meaning and purposes He needs neds to be encouraged encouraged encouraged en en- i to o enter team am activity at school to be taught fair play and good sportsmanship to be given lessens lesSons lessens les les- les- les sens Sons by example in endurance In Inde Independence of thinking and action He needs to be on a winning program program pro pro- gram grain occasionally whether It be bc In football or other sports In the creative creative crea crea- tive arts with his saxophone or trombone or In his natural ability to sing or make speeches speech He needs to be taught sex hygiene Incident to his age Following is a list of or books which If not to be had in your town library should be purchased and read by parent organizations there The Father and His Boy by T T. W. W Galloway Gal Gal- loway leway Parents and Sex Education by B. B C. C Gruenberg Adolescence by M M. A. A BIgelow The Sex Factor In III Character Training by M. M J. J Exner EJner Sex In Life We by D. D B. B and anda E. E B. B Armstrong We welcome letters letters let let- from mothers offering further help or propounding their own lems BOY NEEDS SYMPATHY Dear Miss Blair I have ha a boy friend who needs sympathy sympathy sympathy sym sym- pathy and encouragement but I dont don't know exactly how to show him this sort of friendliness I have known him for tor ten f-en years during durin which we and our parents have been close friends Two years ago ao he lost his fa father ther and this summer his mother died As a climax he recently lost his job My he heart simply aches for fori him hIm but I dont don't know how to be kind without making it look as if I Were Merc running after r him Here Is the point We kept company company com corn pany once for about two months During Daring that time he seemed to like Uke me a a. great deal but unexpectedly he stopped coming coming- to see me me without my ever learning tl the e reason I have ha called on him with my mother since his hl mother died cUed and we have had bad him to the house to dinner cUnner Isn't there something something- else I can do to let him know the warmth of my affection Lion tion and my good tood wishes for his success sue sue- cess and happiness Thank you U KNO Yours Is a delicate situation If il you think the boy would Interpret your kindness In Inthe the light of one running I after him Yet I think the real I friendship you ou have for him should have an outlet and that with the cooperation of your our mother you might i invite him to your home frequently I regardless of th this thu fact tact that he does docs not i In Itt t return date you It lt is not hard to distinguish the I attitude of one who ho Is casually friendly from one who gives favors sympathy or kindness expecting a aI I return You can be so sincere and I honest In your attitude that he need have no fear that you are motivated I by an ulterior purpose And since I above all aU things he needs to be beI I cheered make your our entertainment I as lively ely as possible and o of the Variety variety va Va- that will take his mind off his troubles Occasionally Invite other young people In to help spend the evening e at dancing cards or just a And remember that you ou are entirely within your rights to Invite this boy to your home and show him all the genuine friendliness ness which you possess BEAUTY TYPE Dear Miss 1 Blair Will you please tell me what beauty t type pe I am What shades of cosI casI cosmetics cos cos- I should I use I have light lightbrown lightbrown brown hair hazel eyes eyu and a fair complexion Also how much should I 1 weigh I am 17 years old 5 feet feel 2 2 1 inches tall taU Thanking you BABE You arc are the Dorothy type of beauty and your most becoming colors are tangerine red the yellows yellows yellows yel yel- lows of primroses warm browns gold maize a ashes hes or roses Use ochre powder raspberry rouge and light lipstick You should weigh about pounds S ETIQUETTE OF SERVING CONDIMENTS Dear Miss Blair Will WUI you sou ou kindly tell ten me the proper way to serve pickles s catsup and crackers at a dinner W Thank you OU MISS JANE Pickles catsup and crackers arc re renever never pl placed ed on n the table if the proprieties proprieties pro pro- are arc observed Crackers are arc passed with oyster stew and with salad Pickles and tomato sauces and other ther cold meat condiments arc are put In glass dishes with serving spoons and passed with the meat course FINGER NAIL CARE Dear l Blair The skin at the outer corner of nails is horny and tough tooth Is my there anything I can ean do to remedy this condition Thank y JEAN EAN Soaking every day hi in olive oil will willom keep the skIn at the outer corners comers of the nails soft oft A Also a softening should be applied thickly tICk thick cream grease night and old kid gloves 1 ly every the thc cream from n rubbing worn om to keep off ou I |
