Show r I An Adopted Child Child 1 I j By DR D. AL ALBERT ERT LOYAL CRANE Ph D D. D i j Adopting g children is Indeed a a. venture with ith unlimited unlimited un un- un- un limited possibilities both for heartaches heart heart- aches s and anti for happiness It is however a procedure which I r cannot cannot can can- not too strongly recommend to nil who are are in a financial position to take the step Nor NOt am I r thinking so much of the happiness which these homeless children will bring to th their lt parents I I new as ns am mn considering considering con con- the tho needs of ot these children and the future welfare of ot society tin in general However well wen managed an or orphanage or ol nay be howsoever excellent excel t lent ent the educational facilities facUlties and antI physical care provided provid d its its' charges no institution In can e ever er r compare with a home as a place for bringing bringing bring bring- ing log up tip children Nor does this In ip an any wise reflect upon UlOn tho splendid efforts of pt our many excellent which are doing all alt In 1 their power Bovver to meet their own very difficult problems It ItIs itis Is merely a statement statement-ot statement of fundamental tal sociological truth This ThIs' does not mean however howe that the tho prospective fo foster tet parents I should not exercise every precaution tion in the selection of or children 1 l For or even from the tho social point of view It Is hI the best opportunities should be given to the tho b bot It human material With h this In mind 1 should hould like I i to mal make O the following suggestions s I I 1 I. I Bo lie suro sure that tho the child Is tree IreI from venereal infection insist upon J I knowing the tho results of ot tho the clinical I tests used to determine this question ques ques- tion j 2 Give som some thought though to thoI tho the childs child's probable future n mental ability abil abil- it ity This is is- admittedly difficult I with ver very ery yo young ng children hilt but a competent t ps psychologist will be able to give you u a a. fairly fairl reliable esti est mate Remember an ap attractive face may mask an empty sl skull I I I 3 Weigh Voigh carefully such evidence I as may be available concerning th tins 1 j I childs child's origin though you ou need not be bo deterred by the fact that one ono or more distant relatives were elC not al altogether al- al together desirable Ver Very few fess' of have perfect family trees Use good judgment here 4 4 Adopt offspring of ot your OUt own general racial tock stock 5 If It you OU are childless adopt at I least it two children to old avoid the difficult dir dif problems of oC tho the only child I 6 6 G. The younger your jour our child when adopted the better and finally I 7 7 Never tr try to deceive a n. child by telling him as he grows UI up that he I Is your own flesh sh and anti blood Tell Toll him the truth in a a. kindly spirit He will wUI 10 love j you ou the he m more re for it Dear Dr Crane My huband and a an i i have a a I bo boy from front a home about a year ago He is 8 S. He is now ver very affection affectionate ate ato but wants his own wa way and andis andis is iser er very bold Sometimes he wont won't listen to me He has everything S he wants or is good for him hint Here this last couple of months I r found out he has taken mone money from news newsstands stands also from m my purse spent It and even given Kiven away to children L Las as ns much as 90 cents at a time Now of course I watch him He lIe will witt lie He to me and me-and and such good ones He lie Is very quick of ot action and andery ery very quick to learn He lie is in grade B. B S lIe He weighs 63 pounds and is m I healthy health Sometimes he me gets els' els a n. a I headache My I husband and I are 1 I i Yer very fond rand of him lie is la nil all life I and vim but I worry about this stealing and lying III ills His homo home surroundings surroundings surroundings sur sur- are of ot the best He lie is never out at night and is not allowed al al' al lowed towed to go with bad bo boys bors s. s He lie had bad hada bada a fall when he vas was an Infant while boarding out MRS J. J J. J F F. I am sorry Mrs tIts F F. that I cannot cannot cannot can- can not make more specific in your our case L Lying and and stealing ma may result from front so man many causes it woi old ld ld be hopeless to tc tomake tomake make a tion Falls s such uch as you ou mention usually leave lea other obvious and serious after ef or none none- a at mit tall all Your boy does not sound like a a a. a hopeless ease case b ban any bj an means nans l ans I can L I only suggest that you ou tr try to understand under under- stand as thoroughly thorough as possible your our boys boy's mental attitude both boil j I I toward his early experiences and toward toward- his present surroundings I Such a stu study ot or his psychology is very likely to suggest to you ou the I I proper course to follow In c t rom lug Ing hl nig present ten tendencies Might it not be wise to tr try giving him a u regular allowance part rt I of or which was to bo ho saved sa I rig Coi it lt 1021 b by t the h McClure New Newspaper ller S Syndicate |