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Show SOUTHERN UTAH NEWS WEDNESDAY Community 7 MAY 23, 2001 other people have more to say about your life than you do? that Do I f Domestic Blitz xWSV ??: By Deborah Brown, Personal Dixie Brunner Coach and Life Consultant By Do other people have more to say about your life than you do? Are you afraid to make changes in your life because it would make you look bad? Are you Where have all the grandparents gone? and know why. would lose not enough hours in the day. Ive j1,1 The media is responsible afraid that "S out an old Domestic Blitz again. If they didnt gi around fnends andloyersifyou stopped dug how rJL 1994 ?howmS oli ?se happy. your life should go? Are you ing seniors omg a variety afraid that you would not fit in Wanted: older, matronly womlmTpreferably mth bun in ueyuiiu older at wrk!,orat Parties, because U1f gc you decided to live a life that was true to you? You bought a bike, mom? cookies, likes to mend and above Sometimes we are afraid to all else, insists on babysitting Yes, I cant wait to tiy it out. children...for free. What gave you the idea to change our lives because we are worried about what otherpeople Where have all the real grand- - buy one? I received a copy of this will think. They might think parents gone? failures or unable to where-theyV- e FI! tell at months Modem Immaturity we are :our lives. We can hear shows' manage aerobics learning or them nght now oh, no not touring the country in their older people out having fan and or why cant you keep Winnebago! All this coming-of- riding bikes on an Autann day. fgam! together? stuff But mom, you never learned We can t bear to hear this, so is putting a crimp in their how to ride a bike . we keep up the status quo. But childrens plans. Grandparents status quo is costing you a l. ianrn- j the just arent what they used to be. lot lt is keePinS yu from beinS I speak from experience. Im self awareness cant be good at you. How bad can a few words one of the myriad of offspring sucharipeage.Howcanyouput mofaer person be that you whove been cheated by all their someone out to pasture, when would rather stay stuck than do parents theyve already figured out how somethmgconstructiveforyour- Why, ifit werent for my moms to open the gate? Seniors a?e getting an unfair se f?t hospital auxiliary work, I might Letpeoplesaywhattheywant be covered at night with the advantage with all this educa- words do not have to de- Then d quilt Ive been tionthere getting. You see tour future. So how do dreaming of for so many years, groups of senior citizens taking listening yourse I envisioned my mom spend- - classes, and spending summers J? ing her golden years sewing for on college campuses. They are 0 ve5 by.wiiat not only wiser than the next me, not sowing golden oats! think. People People are othJ have to Youd hunt high and generation, theyre making dam to low to find a grandparent who sure that theyre going to be fntitled Aeir opinions. Keep m mind that their opinions have even owns a rocking chair any-- smarter as weU. come then experiences, not more, let alone one who spends Didyou get some fishing done that ?oes nat this summer, GrampsT ques- - you any length of time in one how them reflect you opinions Quite frankly, we kids were tions grandson. bank 0 lvf y.our No, didnt have time. I took a hoping to enjoy their golden for them sharing their expen- class in ancient archaeology. We years 4 then do what s nght I was counting on an unlim- - hiked back to the sites, and then nces . ited eiinnlunfVinmoinoo choco-- climbed up the mountainsides. ., ere But I guess the bottom line is . 2 Accept late chip cookies, an ever-syonS your chosen pathetic ear and a place to send that the new enlightened ver-Sometimes, we try to fit the kids on an occasional Friday sion of grandparenthood isnt pa to what otb" Pe0Ple half-ba-d either. They may not night. became we believe we But grandparents just arent bake many cookies anymore, but the same anymore. They are hey, just think ofall the great T- - shodbedoing a better job. perfect. You much more in tune with shirts and souvenirs they give "obodyf bfe offer.so do not themselves.They are taking the you from all their travels! forget that! By not doing what time to finally do all the things were bom 40 do' yu 5 they never had time for when they were younger. M Mom, I was wonderingifyoud M like to come over Saturday n With graduation this week '"T J1: . thesefitog ife aj self-awarene- -- ss. hand-stitche- cheating the world and cheat- ing yourself. 3. Recognize that even if you followed their rules, they still might be unhappy. People who tell you what you should be do- ing with your life, may not be with their own. If they are unhappy already, molding your life to fit their expecta- tions will not make them happy. Live your life for you. It is the onlyway. 4. of the old and bring nel. in the Maybe it is time tl show the people who are not supporting and loving you the door. This way, you can make room for positive and encourag- ing people to come in. And who knows, maybe this will be the wake up call for those around . you who want to stay. 5. fasten to yourself .Even, though you might think that you do not know what is right for you, insideyou know, (and, you "'.""T have always known!) Ithasbeen calling at you for a long time, Maybe now you are ready to tell you what to do is you dc not have to take responsibility when things do not turn out. You also have someone to blame. Now is the time to stop. Make your life better because you want to. Life is about steps and a day (no ',ir'-matter how get you to where you want to be. 7. Reward yourself for a job well done. It is not easy shifting yourself from being a person who worries about what other people think, to a person who lives life based on what feels right. Congratulations for be- ing that person. Isnt it time you lived a life for you? You onlj have one life to live so it might as well be a life you love, Deborah Brown is a noted personal coach and life consult-age- , ant that.works with executives, professionals and entrepre- neurs, helping them remove ob- stacles so they can surpass their dreams. Having a life you love starts whenyou believeyou can. Deborahshowsyouthatyoucan To learn more visit: http: www.surpassyourdreams.com, 'T6!" n listen. 6 Take action. If your life has not been working . then it s up send to an to you to do something about it. mfossyourireams.comor The best part of having others call (212) e-m- ail 586-078- 7. . m- Jth b3 night. Sorry, honey I cant. A bunch of us are going out to dinner. What about Wednesday? No, thats water aerobics, she says' apologizing. Excuse me a minute, hon, my call waiting just beeped. Hold on a minute. Click. Click. OK, Im back, now what were we talking about? You were trying to figure out when we could get together. Here let me get out my day planner. I have a 2:00 open a week from next Thursday. Older people are just awfully busy these days, and I think I n n Letterhead Multi-Pa- rt Business Cards' Flyers x' "everyday store M $39.95 M exchanga M M N M n M M 8 n M n M n M M Envelopes Just Call! We do it all! Ask about our Print & Insert Special! 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