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Show I m SOCIAL AMENITIES FOR M ' H THE SCHOOL GIRL ti tZ, OK some girls the most difficult thing in the weirld is to recite, pluy ' the piano or in uuy way show off I before uuuccuslouied faces. With whal envy these shy girls look upon their bolder sisters, who seem to be spurred to greater power than ordinary by the presonce of strangers ami who really do betvr work before the many than before a small com ! pany. How to kill that terrifying sedf-c-.u-l scioiisness at a tune- when it is of great j imporlanco to be above and beyond all' j sense of self that is the question which 1 I ninny a girl asks of herself n M-ore of times a day in the classroom and out, j That excessive .shyness is always a part jeif sedf-e-oiiseiousnvss is genera lly ac-lkneiwle.ilge.il, ac-lkneiwle.ilge.il, but that it also has its origin I in a eh-e-p rooted conce-it will not prliapH 'In- so readily grante d. P.ut it is a conce it not combined with personal vamty. for it! ly intently thinking of others, especially those lu-ar at h.ind, and trying to imagine what Would interest anil amuse lli'iu most, soon the all important 'df is for-geil for-geil te 11. ami then Ihe feuiseions elise-onccrt-ing blush disappears ami a natural unconscious uncon-scious charm takes its place, which is sur to attract. In the school room, or when it is re-ejiiired re-ejiiired to ree ite ir play before an nu-dicne-e., shyness takes tlie feiriu of absolule' inability to d either cue's sedf or the sub-je-ct justice. The remedy for Ibis is to so thoroughly muster the h-Kson, whatever it may !, that even though the room turn suddenly black and one- seems to move- far away freui the sea of fmvs. even then the voice will repent the lines mechanic-ally er the fingers play the notes of their own volition. This absolute mastery of the I subject brings with it a sixth sense, w hie h I might be dubbed a sense of habit, for the j Iilth.1 brain cidls om.-c started on the familiar fa-miliar thing uct by thfinsehea without any further mental pmc-ess. I The shy girl must generally study twice ,us long and as hanl as one w ho is not self-! self-! conscious, ami she can never eJc-peiid upon an inspiration coming to her w hen she is askesf to recite.'. Only by knowing her I piece of music or he r poem or w hatever recitation it may he can she hojuj to do jgood work. When she bi-gins to come I bail: from the far off sphere where her mitnl seems To have bci-n wafte d and tinds herself saying the familiar words or plny-jing plny-jing Ihe well known music, Mie will sVcoi recover and be nble to give to her work the ! expression that Is de-dreel. There are a few fiu-ls that the shy girl should strive to impress ,, Lcrcclr. Kirst, a fuitiiM urny appear to Lcr a. dis- grice from which she will never recover, but the chancea are that if any have paid alti-mioii to it it will he forgotten in a few hours at most- A blunder, on the other hand, will probably not be lKiticed nt all. and is ccrlainly no cause for dismay or ne-ri-eiiisiiess, for it will not In; renumbered renum-bered even through lhe time of recitation. Many an actor lias forgoUii his lines, the; most f inious musician makes frequent mistakes at recitals, ope-ra stars seldom if ever go through one performance without with-out an tKcasioiinl tulse or flat r.ote. Is this no comfort and seuiree of strength to the shy girl, appalled at one slip or breakdown'? in.. loeibod eif overcoming over-coming nervousness aud self-ceeusclousness is to take more Itiiin enough tune be-loiv begiLiiing. The extra iiioiiieMit while the thoilghlK are bi'ilig col lee led and a poi.se I in quired w ill be: iieiihingto the- audience, I but may give suthe i nl strength to carry Itliroiigh the whole ordeal. If it is simply a qin-stion of itfitjng in class, take time to think the- subject over 'anil be sure tU It is iinilcr-.loe.il. If a J recite then be-fort the- school, wait until the lirsl nervousness p iss. s In-fore fouimene--iiig. If playing a pies e- ef music, sit quietly oil lhe- piano stool studylug the brst part ejf the score or thinking through the first few bars, so as to feel perfectly at ease be-fore commencing. Shyness is nervousness, and nervousness shows ilself in hurried spe-ccdi and lack of rcfnj.se In every movement. Tin; girl, no matter how young she) ia. who realizes that she is shy, seell-conscious and nervous nhe.nbl set lo work deliberately to lenm repose and quieiiie-ss of manner. She should take an unusually hng time for every action, uud with her speeli she should exert a 6trong self-eontrul. that uny tendency to unintelligible, rapid talking talk-ing shall be quickly conquereel. The shy girl often stutter or stammers, and for tliew two real ill stlf-control acquires! by raking extra time for every movement and for every utterance in the tolc cure. is in fact a conceit strangedy made up wilh an ee'iml part of te great huiuility. I'ureasoiii.el out iu la r own mind the shy girl bus an overwliehning horror that she is about to be looked dow n upon a 11. 1 laughe d at. and with it is a pride that rebels re-bels so strongly of this very possibility 1 that she can take thought of nothing cive her own pexir, miserable. elesperjt,.iy uu-happy uu-happy -lf. How lhe girl is envied win. can literally disciis.s a study with her 'teacher or wliw-cuu wlnn asked sit eb.wu 'graciously at the piano and pluy before her friends with the same ea., that sbe can play when ulone t.y here If; To recover from excessi.e shyness the Kvrise of self must fnai be klthsl. The mind must be train. ,1 to bring eme'i, jy,,,,. .;illioi into the line of vision m, vividly llluit self i blotle.! out- In other wordtf, |