DAILY HERALD Sunday, April 20, 2008 Not everyone needs to be 'driven' Carolyn: wife and I have married four years. We share a mortgage but don't have kids or other significant debt. My wife works a lot harder than I do. Her company pays her $100,000 a year, but she is always exhausted. I have a publishing business that pays me $150,000 annually. I have been building my business since before we married and now enjoy the passive income it provides us. My wife is resentful that she has to work so hard and she sees me kicking back. I would love to travel by myself once in a while or do a guys' trip, but I get nothing except guilt from her, which in turn makes'me angry and resentful. It feels like there is a constant cycle of resentment because of it. She stays in her job because there may be potential to move up, and because . she enjoys the challenge and responsibility. She is also making terrific contacts she likes working hard. I've always told her that if she doesn't like her job, I support anything she would choose to do, regardless of her income. Carolyn Hax Tell Me About It tion days she can use if she wants. I would need to get a second job to make more money, which we don't need right now. She implies that I am lazy and not driven. I disagree, I built my business with hard work and drive. Doesn't my income count heavily toward that argument? J.L. I suppose, but I would make a different argument entirely: that being "driven" is seriously overrated. Certainly I'm glad some peoin fact, ple are. We all enjoy take for granted - countless fruits of other DeoDl! TimmnTcWWmVfieim&nour work weeks I simply reject the implica-financially (and so does she). tion that everyone has to Shouldn't I enjoy the fruits be driven, or even ought to. of my labor without feeling People pulling elective guilty, and shouldn't she give 80-ho- me4hfreedomt-enjoyi- ",1 wrekyaMhrenfoyln the f t ene&m&while? She has-wcca- - Celebrations fruits of other people's rejection of that life. It's not just poets, volunteers, and people who make sure they have nothing more pressing to do than walk at their toddler's pace. It's people who think 40 hours more than suffice. You have a pretty sweet life. Whether you earned it or picked it up off the sidewalk is, I think, immaterial You are content with what you have. If your wife envies your contentment, then she needs to do something to find more with your cooperation, of course. Her insistence that you lessen your contentment, by taking on equal stress, of all things, is appalling. A stunningly selfish solution. Granted, you don't mention ' any ways that you apply your imspare quality of life toward proving hers chores, ing, social planning, to cite a few examples. If you don't do this, then do this. "I support anything she would choose to do" isn't a promise kept only in few possible futures, it's one to make good on daily. If you already do pamper 'her; though, and a thoughtful, spouse isn't happy, well-pai- d enough to make her happy, len it s time for you both to start asking wnaT is. Dear - atl, lakeforgraTOgd C5 Carolyn at tellme washpost.com, or chat with her online at noon Eastern - ltffiFmchfnxkey-atwwwT- wasrnonpostxvmr II... - ' r- - PITTSBURGH Judd Apatow has recast the rules for romantic comedies, the latest of which just arrived. Apatow produced "Forgetting Sarah Marshall," written by actor Jason Segel and directed by Nicholas Stoller. In the past decade, Apatow has changed the formula for and raunchy. He has funny acpaired average-lookin- g tors with women out of their league, embraced nudity, g sex, stoner and humor and turned geeks into guys flying their freak flag. We offer a multiple-choic- e quiz about all things Apatow: 1. Which actress is married to Off Wl Hi Universal Studios Steve Carell and Catherine Keener in the Judd Apatow comedy -The 40 Year-Ol- d Virgin." . male-bondin- Judd Apatow? a. Katherine Heigl " b. Catherine Keener c. Leslie Mann d. Christina Applegate 2. Who was not part of his "Freaks and Geeks" ensemble? a. Seth Rogen b. Linda Cardellini c. James Franco d. Tina Fey 3. What movie marked Ap- debut? , atow's feature-directin- g a. "Knocked Up" b. "The Virgin" c. "Anchorman: The Legend of Ron Burgundy" d. "Fun With Dick and Jane" 4. Pair the movie Virgin," "Walk Hard: The Dewey Cox Story," "Superbad" with the and "Knocked Up" line of dialogue: a. "He's playing fetch ... with my kids." b. "You changed your name toMcLovin?' c. "So this is your first time getting body wax?" d. "Ain't nothin' horrible gonna happen today." 5. What movie doesn't have Apatow1; fingerprints on it? a. "Kicking & Screaming" b. "Rush Hour 3" c. "Anchorman: The Legend of Ron Burgundy" d. "Heavyweights" 6. Where did Jason Segel tell Apatow his idea for "Forgetting Sarah Marshall"? a. Courtside at a Lakers game b. At the Golden Globes cures 7. What TV show won Apatow an Emmy for writing? a. "The Larry Sanders Show" b. "Freaks and Geeks" c. "Saturday Night Live" d. "The Ben Stiller Show" 8. Match the set-u- p being a virgin, being a children's soccer coach addicted to winning and caffeine, being nude during a breakup, and facing unplanned fatherhood with the actor: a. Jason Segel b. Seth Rogen c. Will Ferrell d. Steve Carell Which of Apatow's shows -was named one of Time magazine's 10 best shows of 2001?: "Freaks and Geeks" b. "Undeclared" c. "The Larry Sanders Show" d. HBO's "Young Comedi- "9. a ans" d. "Hancock" with Will Smith Bonus: Name Apatow's childhood comedy hero who refused to give him an autograph because he was at home, washing his car. See below for answers. 1. Leslie Mann. 2. Tina Fey. 3. Virgin." 4. c, Virgin"; d., "Walk Hard"; b., "Superbad"; and a., "Knocked Up." 5. "Rush Hour 3." 6. Courtside at a Lakers Calvin M. Allred Celebrates His 80th Birthday CalFOUNTAIN GREEN vin M. Allred, Fountain Green, will celebrate his 80th birthday, Tuesday, April 22, 2008. A fam-il- y birthday party will be held in the Fountain Green IDS Ward, Saturday, April 19. Calvin married his sweetheart, Rita Sorensen, Nov. 23, 1953, in the Manti LDS Temple, after he returned from serving in the U.S. Armed Forces. The couple were blessed with five children, Rowena Adams; David; Keith; Colleen (Lonny) ham; 23 grandchildren and nine great grandchildren. As a youth, Allred attended Fountain Green Elementary and Junior High Schools and from Moroni Hig- hSchooriiVi04& He attended Brigham Young University for two years. He served an LDS Mission in Sweden for two and years. After his mission, he traveled throughout Europe before returning home in the spring of 1951. He wasn't at home long ' before being called to serve in the U.S. Army in the summer of 1951. After basic training, he was shipped to Okinawa in the South Pacific for 14 months. Calvin spent the better part of his life in the sheep industry and farming. He has been active in the LDS Church in many ward and stake positions, includyears ing seven and as bishop, a two year mission with his wife at the Manti LDS Temple Visitors Center and as a couple as ordinance workers for eight years. The couple also served in the Hartford, Connect- icut LDS Mission for one year. The family all greatly love Calvin and appreciate his example and deep love for them. Happy Birthday, Dad. Pi MEGAPLEX Stats. lf Players Stories. -.- XA-zi - I Raymond Pead Is Turning 80!! His family would like to invite any friends, family, associates and especially former Star Valley, WY Cheesemakers and Braves wherever they may live, to join in this occasion. The celebration will be held on Saturday, April 26, 2008 at the LDS Church located at 641 S. 400 E. 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He then returned to study at BYU and plans on graduating in Chemical Engineer- ineir nome mgTTTTey-wrama- p.m. game, according to movie publicity material. 7. "The Ben Stiller Show." 8. Segel, nude breakup; Rogen, unplanned fatherhood; coach; Carell, virgin IIOkIIDMN FORGETTING SARAH p.f BYU-Idah- o ld hF0fGlTTIW mum BiiTJlTiTil n,t Cal and Diane VanDyke are pleased to announce the marriage of their daughter, Becky, to Christopher Blake Steel, son of Chez Hal and Martha Burrows, of and Kris Steel, in the Salt Lake Springville, are celebrating their 50th Wedding Anniversary. They Temple. A reception will be held in their honor on Tuesday , April were married April 25, 1958, in 22, 2008 at My Noah's (644 N. Memphis, Tennessee, and were 2000 W. Lindon) from 7 to 9 p.m. later sealed in the Salt Lake LDS Becky graduated from MounTemple. tain View High School in 2003 They are the parents of Shirlyn, and then completed her education Joel (Michelle), Brandon, and Emwith a bachelor's at of and the (Dirk), grandparents ily and RN license in 2005. degree eight adoring grandchildren. She now works for Timpanogos All friends and family are Regional Hospital in the NICU. invited to celebrate at an open ; Blake graduated from La Cueva house Saturday, April 26, 2008, High School in Albuquerque, NM at Nnah's Center 644 N. 2IKK) W Anniversary a Page I M.I Burrows Golden Seth Rogen and James Franco b. "Step Brothers" with Will Ferrell and John C Reilly' c. "Year One" with Jack Black and Michael Cera I.IOVIE! THIS ia guperb." EUen K VanDyke, Steel Martha 10. Which future movie isn't from Apatow Productions? "Pineapple Express" with I LOTOD - Hal & ld 21 3- , 11 one-ha- lf c. At a sushi bar d. Over manicures and pedi- V -- " Barbara Vancheri Summer school is almost in session and it's time for your AAT, or Apatow Aptitude Test. P X one-ha- Test your Apatow aptitude 'I 11 IK) IKSHSOCHOtH! SHWRWKI CHI0NK1B ill k.: STErunnturiim WmCKYMOUNTAM tiWmb XANG0' Rissett