Show What Qualities t es in a Man lean Win Womans Woman's BY BEATRICE R FAIRFAX F. FA Respect D DEAR EAR MISS FAIRFAX AX As I believe you OU are aro In touch with a good man many women I would like liko to ask the following From your jour our experience with and I knowledge of tho the average wholesome American girl of ot today what In your opinion are aie tho the traits of character which such a girl respects most In theman theman the theman man she expects ultimately to marr marry I Sincerely D. D BRE girls la is a n letter leUer which concerns concerns concerns con con- conI I H HERE cerns you jou one and all as I wholesome American girls It I Is written by a young man and If you u care to answer him your our replies I will be printed He lie does not ask you to describe your our Ideal man but to mention tho the qualities qualities ties you respect most In the man you OU would care to marry A girl sometimes loves a man tuna whom she does docs not honestly respect but such love Is simply a n. passing infatuation of a n quality too films flimsy to last If It I were to forced reed to decide between marrying a man whom I loved but did not respect and anal one ono whom I respected respect 1 but did net not love 1 I would choose the latter The man whom any good woman re respects ro- ro specht is bound bounel to have havo tho the sterling qualities of ot honor sobriety and indus indus- try Of Ot course the perfect marriage o is that where lovo love and respect are equal 1 May In Admire Yet Not II II II e There Is la a fine tine line IIno drawn between admiration and respect A man may possess a quality which though It com com- J an unwilling admiration cannot command respect Of Ot one ono thing I am very or sure and that Is s that no woman can find lastIng lastIng last- last Ing tug happiness with a man whom she ahe does not respect If It sho she cannot Implicit confidence confidence dence In his honor she sho cannot respect him If It she constantly sees secs him under the Influence of intoxicants she sho cannot re respect respect re- re him though sho she may feel teel for him a pitying tenderness If Jr he 11 is a Inz lazy well do the she cannot cannot can can- not respect reaped him The girl who looks upon marriage j a-j tho the most moat important step in her life liCe cannot but give rIve thoughtful attention I Ito to the qualities sho she most respects In her list future husband She Site knows that she sho must not anI only love him but that she must trust and respect him Always remember girls that it is possible ble to bo be fascinated by a man whom you OU do not respect It Is la especially espe espe- so when whon you ou aro are very young oung and first begin to care for tor tho the society of ot men Why liT Mother others Know V lest That Is the chief reason why I al always always al- al ways urge you ou to make a confidante of at your our mother You may be bo so 90 blinded that you OU see only the brilliant at attractive attractive at- at qualities In a man but the tho mother e eye e c goes goos further and looks for Cor the sterling qualities that mean future futuro happiness for tor her child There probably are arc many other othor than the three I mentioned u which you both respect and admire Ina Jn In n nn a n man I morel mention them as tho the three great fundamental qualities which are aro absolutely Indispensable In a n happy happ marriage It will not do to marry a man because because be- be cause you love o him or pit pity him or hope to help him reform You must also re- re r re him D D. D seems to be bo an earnest young man and he ho wants to know the qualities ties you demand There may bo be other young men who are aro Interested in the same samo question and your replies will be ba useful to them as well as to D It Is la not necessary to write a long letter Jotter Just a few row lines will suffice to describe the necessary necessary- qualities Remember Remember Re- Re member that you are arc describing the tho qualities of ot tho the man whom you ou could love Jo honor and respect as a should |