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Show 13 liiiliop May 6, 1999 Blending families discussed in series c by Dave Larsen r a Family Support Center n The wicked and the step-moth- er abu- no-wi- are two stereotypes in d our culture that make it hard for to with children parents trying start over. In the quest for bliss, Overcoming biases and blending families can be one of the hardest chalr. lenges a couple can face. That is one of the reasons why, statistically, second marriages have only half as good a chance at succeeding as first time marriages. ; sive er step-fath- new-lywe- s. re-mari- tal i . X ,,. v : ; ; head-to-hea- d no-wi- ; ; g and Blending Families" will be the focus of a three-par- t lunch and learn series, May 13, 20 and "Step-Parentin- 27, noon-- 1 p.m. in the Family Support to Center, Bldg. 308N. Call Ext. plus tax, Sunday thru Thursday register. ,:, !;..;., , y-;- A primary challenge in blending famn ilies is the attitudes of the themselves. In first marriages when parents disagree or argue the children often try to pull them together and encourage how-- : them to get along. In ever, children are much more likely to step-childre- r i.,;iT!r: resij Hi c i step-familie- s, T I ? H ft Xt- f f i " 1 buri 1 i jJ." ' s!i Mii t l Hi j M t i ks - fcun.iir.. fcdi r- .. - I iii jm) U ? side with one parent, usually their biological parent, against the step parent. In fact if a child is not thrilled with their S M yU new parent there is a good chance they may even push for a divorce. Stay in one of our spacious guest roomsv Enjoy succulent prime rib made with the finest USDA Choice beef, p casino to tender perfection. And enjoy slow-cook- ed This strife places the biological parent in the unenviable tug of war having to choose which side to defend, their new beloved or their own flesh and blood. non-sto- action and entertainment! are selling fast, so call now. HocmG Ill-ipi40-73.- The Family Support Center is offering classes to help parents deal with marital problems and talk with children on sensitive issues. The free classes will be held in the Family Support Center, Bldg. 308N,. and are open to all base employees. or Call Dave Larsen at Ext. to register or for more details. Ask for operator Piu "in in our 81 ' Preventing marital problems Good marital relationships don't just happen, nor is love enough they require insight and skill. Acquire and skills needed to manage inevitable differences, and keep your marriage fun and mututhe ally satisfying through PREP Prevention Relationship Enhancement Program. n class will be held The the Mi 4 ?-- S Vf f f J W i:iiillllf 56 , n step-pare- nt Center classes addressing marriage, sensitive issues ::; ..f Not a fun position to be in. And if they choose not to choose, then both sides may feel hurt or unsupported. It can situation for a parent become a n or partner. One common pitfall in blending families occurs when the biological parent is a bit soft on discipline with their own children, and the new parent tries to step in with harsher measures for the other's children. This is when the infamous phrase "You're not my mom (or dad) and I don't have to do what you tell me" Is conheard. This type of situation flict often results in a for parents. Professionals in the field of family integration suggest a wiser approach might ;be for parents to share their views on discipline with each other and then come to some agreement on a unified approach they can both live with. Usually, at least in the.beginning, it seems best if the biological parent does most of the disciplining of their own children, enforcing consequences etc., while the new parent takes more time to play with. or otherwise comfort and assist the other's children. This can strengthen their new and often fragile bond so the can have more influence with less risk of alienation in the future. Any family counselor can tell you that blending families is one of the hardest undertaking any two adults can take on. Couples involved need all the insight and skills they can muster. know-ho- w three-Sessio- . 6:30-- 8 Wednesdays, May 12. p.m., beginning Talking about sensitive issues Events of recent weeks have emphasized the importance of parents talking with their children. Most parents wish they knew better what to say to kids during difficult times, as well as how to get them to talk or listen. On May 20, 6:30-8:3p.m., family communication specialists will provide instruction in specific skills parents can use to talk with their kids of various ages about sensitive or diffi0 cult issues such as death, deployments, terminal illness, divorce, sex, media events and their feelings. 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