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Show Dorothy Dix Talks DON'T ARGUE j! By DOROTHY DIX. the World's Highest Paid Woman Writer Have vou the arcuinc h.ibtt" If you have, break yourself of It. for 11 ts as dead)) a lcc as the hope babflL and Just as sine to ruin your happlnea for life, and balk you in our struggle to succeed. Nor Is the drur fiend sn ' more to lie svolded socislly tnnn the r r Eninir r,, nd You know the kind of per.pl- T niAn pnej fei thai it is their special duly to disagree with everything that la said b !ione and to oppose everything that anyono elee wants !- do i OU can't I make anv stniement how . .'-jnple. 1 Without having to go to the mat with them over It. If ou opine Unit It Is a pleanont day. thev find It too hot. or too .-old or too wet. or too dry. If von praise the f"" i at dinner they find a hundred fault with It If ynn voice your adn-.imtion of a friend, thoj t.ir hla or h. r ..haructei to tetters. If you Indlscretlv mention that ou nr.- golnir lo do a certain thine thev prophesy dire disaster If vou sax 0'i ere irnltig to a plae. tlie tbron a million obstacles In your wa And ir you glvo In to these arculng hounds, as you often do through sheei jexh.iu.tion the, turn right around -mi t..ke the opposite side of the question All they want Is the pleasure of tbe row . land the malevolent jo the K,. ol Irritating you, and spoiling all of youi pleasure in tin thins ou like. I For a man or woman to be afflicted with this argulnr: niinla is n i:ital Inir-li cap in business. No man wishes to do business with s partner whom be rM hnxe to fight to a standstill over ever 'proposition that comes up. 1 1 takes too much sirenrth and energy thai should b glVCO to pnshtnp the enterirlse N. . em Iployer wants to employe who tries lo In-i In-i duigc in a gab-fast owr evar) detail of e.r order before carrying II Out und ; then dooa It under protest and W Ith nn j air that says as plainly aa words; I II do . It because I Inve to but 1 know lt"5 wrong and 1 told you so. No customer ever goes back the See I ond lime to Ihe clerk who forces the thing she doean'l want on her. Instead of the thing she desired, and disputes with her over her tattle and knowledge Of the fitness of things. i hgve known plenty of capable bust nesa men who could m-i ei get on DACSU B the argued themselves out of evei dr. lettable place they got into. The finest ; stenographer 1 Imve ever known cannot :nnl:e a lllng because she s one eternal, nexer ending argument with her boss and those about her. until she gets fired, for the peace of the office One ol thi most brilliant actresses of our ijs Is alw.-.ys sei uinK a job. bacauap Mhe is tuien durab In a ompany. Bhe would argue with Shnkespeare ovei the text of hi plays, She Hifruea with the xtnge manage) oci the bUSineai, mid when she getfl to about the a he keeps the golden .ite. Look abOUt you and yon will nOVOl rln ' ; an argtlOV who lias made B SUOCeSI of llfio. i'b.. people who preach anarchy, and discontent, and rati t the govern m ut .md society from ihe tails of carta, I :nd from "' cracker boxes around the . ...!. m country stores, are the arguers Who have o nd failures o.' their own nl falra They were so iu.-- opposing .! pople. they had no lime to do anything i for thenisel. es. 50.cla.llyi he arguer la the chief among t. r. thousand bores, end we would - i I'M- xvold meeting one, fae te. j as we would a leper One person add!' I ad to diaputatlbm can spoil the lollb it ! i'.iri for n score of other people, oi turn the most earofu'ly planned dlnnci bito clndeis. HSbr-R ainl dust. Koi the argnei has an uncanny utatlnci that makes him j or her go for pet enthusiasm, tear youi heroes lo pieces, and asperae evorj faith thnt is sacred and holy to you it is in the family circles, however, timi the argusi gets 'n hi deadliest worjc ! There let two of these be left together ii ltd Marfan fio-n the coming up ol I the sun lo l!io goliiK down t' n .f md ' hack iiir'itn. No auhjeci l t unli and Insignificant a. apht ovr. and there ii no i.eare. nor rest, nor hupp'nr ss nndc . Mrit I OOf. Sucn husbands snrl wive, soon nine i. htate each other. Their children he m reapet t for Ihr.m. because, in tin- ln-;il 0 ' ilv aituinenl they have hertr.l e.i.d niHkc hoi rill- accusations against tlv I othef, and the- themselves bet om llttl guerltlaa who figlr first on one sld am then on the other, when tho nr.- n I battling among themselves. If you wai ii recipe for u aking marriage a failure jiMt argue, it's all ibat i neceasarj And to what end Ifl the argument? I m vou ever know of anylvol who Wat cor vlnoad by an argument. r who changei his or her point of view because nl mn Never. Tht only rogult of an argurrrcnl , Is to hore cer' listener stiff, and ti I joave ever'one thinking or the argue) , with a bitter taste in his or her mouth i Nobody loves an arguer Thej peoplt I we like, and whose soclet.v we enjoy, I t bouse vihn are congenial with us ule I like the same things we like and hold the .-a views that we hold ' nd whs I egotism 11 Is lo tn to force our Ideas and Ideals on olhera! How can We be so sure that the mantb of Solo mon has fallen upon our shoulders, ',n.l that wu are wiser than our fellow crea tureg? How can we presume fo know' that our way is better than their way? And even If we do know better, what J rihl have we lo deprive another ol Ills Individual freedom t 'he hi own life, In his own way. and have, and do. thel things he desires, without being hadg.ied I "bout theni7 The inor.il of all of which is. that it Is the pari of policy, of Ood sense, of I kindliness, and fair play, never to argue. nr.d when we do nor nirref with others,' to keep our opinions to ourselv. h. 'ini.is they urc asked for. Of course, to ask 1 the arguer to den;, himself tbe pleasure, of hearing his own votee. Is to ask him I lo make un heroic sacrifli e, but il pays. The most Important thing that an;, hu man being crr learnr, is when to quit tull:lng. |