Show f F r Ask As k r. r Mom Mim Dear Mom How do you get rid of a guy youve you've been dating and still remain friends Sincerely M Want to move on I IDear Dear Want What you want is to separate yourself from someone who has been a part of your life in a romantic way and go back to the friendship stage as if the romance never happened You want to go back to the way things were before the romance You want to wipe out all the time you have spent together and pretend all you have is a friendship when you know there has been This Thi emotional connection ion is real and andi more a thing very 41 I i f n j KT 11 l II oJ 1 T 11 1 1 cannot be severed because you yU desire desire- it to be just like getting I rid nd o of a a i guy y and d dst st still n re remaining T i cannot occur simply because you want it Sounds like the guy still likes like's you if not you wouldn't have to get rid of him I would suggest that you speak to him and not over the phone in person share your feelings about where the relationship has gone and why you would rather remain friends This wont won't be easy He may still try to keep you believing he still has a chance He may even think that friendship is out of the question Put yourself in his shoes He still likes you How can he hestick hestick hestick stick around when he feels the way he does How can he pretend pretend pretend pre pre- tend to be friends when what he wants is your friendship mixed in with what he had before After talking with him he may have something to say to you You may not like to hear it but listen anyway He may be understanding on the outside but boiling on the inside You might find out later that he wants nothing to do with you You might know right away how he feels He might leave angry But whatever the case give him some time to cool off Dont Don't call him dont don't do anything Wait When you see him be polite If he calls you listen Stand your ground If he wants to get back together and you still want a friendship hold your ground In time he might feel differently about the friendship you have offered If not you need to be prepared to live Jive with his choice r r J. J I I u Sincerely l L. L p u Ju m jL L am m b ci Mom i nn oil u l d I j |