Show i H i Leslie Conder Opinion Editor I really feel that were we're not good as a couple I think that it would be better if we broke up Do you understand where Im I'm coming from Im I'm sorry ony S The seriously long relationship of one month is over The same night of the 1 break up while the girl is crying to her friends about 1 how upset and hurt she is 1 her ex is at the bar talking i it up to some new girl Do you see a problem I here What if the r relationship is longer like like two years or r maybe more do you s see a problem now The j problem is how long should someone wait before they move on There are many different f factors that go into this j problem such as who jt t broke up with whom how howlong howlong howlong 1 long were they dating was there ever any talk of i marriage etc The main if f factor is whether theres there's 1 love between the broken I pair or not In my experience of dating and watching my 1 friends date there has 1 been a theme behind the i mourning period Please 1 keep in mind that the vast i majority of f my friends are females or gay males so my study may be a little skewed My study shows that that when my friends and I were dumped by someone we loved we took the time to mourn the loss of that love Our ex-counterparts ex however got together with someone right after the breakup Im I'm not saying all straight men do this just like Ive I've never said that all female strippers are just taking their clothes off for strangers and a afew few regulars until they get their law degree I am sure that the reason for being dumped in some of these cases case was because the dumper already had someone else in mind orin or orin orin in bed thus equaling the very short recovery time The first problem is when I the finds out that I the dumper is already dating someone new and andI I the dum pee feels as if the whole relationship was a waste of time The second problem involves both parties and I will illustrate that problem with my very own heart-breaking heart story I dated Mr Canada for two years He broke up with me because he couldn't do the long long- distance relationship anymore A couple of weeks later we were talking yes I know we sho shouldn't have been learn leam from my mistakes and he told me that he had been going on a couple of dates but nobody compared to me Oh that's such sweet bull crap isn't it About a month after we had broken up he told me that he had hada a new girlfriend Well Vell we stopped talking after that Finally after several months shut up I know of mourning and realizing that there are plenty of good American men out there I got over him Just as I was starting to move on with my life Mr Canada called me and tried to get back into my life This was bad for both ofus of ofus ofus us because if he had taken the time to be sad about dumping me then maybe he would have had this epiphany a long time ago It was bad for me because I had to decide whether to open a door that I had locked or to keep it locked Needless to say I told him that I had already thrown the key away The point is this when you have a loving relationship and it ends both lovebirds should take takee time to mourn the death of that relationship Men shouldn't go out and try to find a new girl to hurry and take the place of the theold theold theold old girl And women shouldn't go to the bar and make out with any Tom Dick or Harry to prove that they still got it Its It's okay to be sad for a little while while because because there was love there once and it didn't just vanish into thin air My best friend once told me that it takes half the time that you were dating the person to get over them I say as long longas as you arc rc not g getting underneath someone to get over someone else you are on the right track |