Show Barbara Chorn Addresses Women At by Bonnie Vail VailI J I v ti f v ro f. f r t t 5 S I Iq II q I IF I F 1 V arbara Barbara Chorn Chom Technical cal Data Processing Major shared he hec het i methodology Jon on J on how to succeed su succeed Novem November r 8 in fu a seminar sponsored by the Women's R Resource Center Chorn Chom said the longest-journey longest begins J yf with the first step She said J. J functioning day to day hour to hour f I and minute to minute is essential Sometimes its claw and scrape Chorn Chom stated Dont lay guilt trips t S. S on yourself nor allow guilt from others Prioritize keep your goal in sight Your goal is worth it r. r She continued My money and my time mean the right to tell my instructor I dont don't understand without feeling ashamed for asking I paid to come here to learn A big part of le learning g is failing Chore Chorn said but correcting t. t t that failure as a guided missile that keeps on veering or changing the i direction is necessary to hit the target Chorn came to as a single parent after passing through four stages of the aftermath of divorce Chorn clarifies these stages as shock or numbness relief loss The biggest loss Chorn Chom said was not being held by a caring man Dancing can be an interim replacement for that c caring and holding Chorn shared her insight to the difference of men and women's starting a relationship A man wants to know what a woman looks like a woman wants to know what a man is like She said If If one is entering a new relationship how can one recognize a healthy happy man Chorn's Chom's criteria is as follows In touch with himself stable responsible sensitive to needs positive reaction to successes and respects right of others She said Its okay for you to disagree Dont Don't limit your dating date older men younger men men handsome handsomer not so handsom handsome physically handicapped You might be U UThe surprised The pounds Chorn Chom lost over this last year happened not because Chorn Chom was dieting but because she found the pow power r of choices You can choose counseling help from a support group a psychologist or as Chorn Chom has chosen looking and listening to your inside inside- self plugging in The job came looking for Chorn Chom with more salary than she had written in her her goals you have to write them down Chorn Chom says For me to go to work every everyday day is exciting Chorn Chom concluded i |