| Show GOOD TASTE tf TODAY r by EMILY POST worlds Woric tt foremost For emott authority 11 en n etiquette 0 emily post dads birthday party raises note problem DEAR EAR mrs post will you please write a form of invitation for us under the following circumstances I 1 am one of four chil children dren only one of us married who want to gi el e a party in honor of my fathers birthday although I 1 suppose it would he be better not to mention the occasion we would like to write the invitations by hand band on BE small iball sized note paper stamped with our house address while we are asking at least 75 people we want the invitation to sound as friendly and informal as possible answer I 1 would suggest that each one of you write notes to your own personal friends and that whoever has most time and perhaps neatest handwriting also write those to your fathers friends and relatives following this general wording mary jim bob and I 1 are h having a party for father on sunday afternoon january wont you come in in between tour four and six As you notice I 1 have left the birthday out but this does not mean that I 1 think it improper to wr write ite mary jim bob and I 1 are having a birthday party for father to because those who know him very well and know it is his birthday will probably bring him a present and this might make athers who are very fond of him and would have liked to remember his birthday feel that they have come empty handed on the kotlier hand in going to a birthday party of any size no one should feel obliged to take a present I 1 aa are parents obligated for childrens visits DEAR EAR mrs post what is ray my position regarding the parents 0 of f friends of my daughter she is at college far away and goes home frequently with the girls whose homes are closer to the school she sometimes mentions in her letters home that these girls parents are going to new york on a holiday an and as we live in the environs of new york im wondering whether it Is expected that we extend I 1 s some ome kind of hospitality to the parents at such times answer your real obligation is in encouraging her to invite these girls home with her when they have longer recesses or perhaps to let her ask them to come between school terms when they can stay longer but why dont you ask her whether she wants you to show particular hospitality to the parents she knows especially especial lly well and wh what at she suggests she knows what type of people they are and whether they have friends in new york or on the other hand band whether they are going as strangers or whether the mothers are likely to be alone while their husbands attend to business or just what the individual situations are i note Is mandatory EAR mrs post A man I 1 know D DEAR spent a weekend week end at my mart mari tied ried brothers house my sister in law had let me ask him so that my visit would be more pleasant she and my brother certainly put themselves out to entertain us I 1 feel that the least my friend can do Is write her a note which I 1 happen to know he done Is there a way I 1 could remind him to write her because his thoughtlessness certainly puts me in a bad light answer I 1 can think of nothing else to do except say to him 1 I 1 hate to ask you to write another ano ther one but my sister in law never got your our letter then he will probably say what letter and you answer why you write and say any anything thing tor for that pleasant weekend we had bad and that is thail |
