Show too much or too little attention spoils children PRACTICE WHOLES WHOLESOME OAIE s av 10 children like animals want the center the stage if they are eithel given an excess of unwise admiration and attention highly personalized or if they are ignored pushed aside or starved for affectionate interest an excess of adoration attention watching talking about and sometimes obvious worry and scowling co jing will often result in behavior that you ou connect C on act with the cause refusing to eat not learning to play happily alone impudence staying awake at bedtime these and other habits havi an odd way of getting started un der a lot of misguided attentive attenni ve ness to ever everything y thing a child save and joes does this is usually unintentional tent ional on the part of grownup they probably look at thi the child a great deal children art arc such a delight to the eye witt with their fresh skin the delicati deli catt modeling of their features tach charming or amusing move movements mentE and gestures then too those these adults probable notice everything they say then quaint turns of speech their graduating into full hedged fledged sentences their master of some big woid void their ability to express theia thoughts all draw the at tenion ol oi those around them often theia remarks or doings are repeat repeater ec in their presence and what chilo would not be entranced at hearing herself talked of as the leading character in a story and I 1 assure as oiher otherwise wise higar highly 1 y you that people int intelligent ellige n t aej ln I with good common sense son do all this only recently lve ive seen it happen again and again and these parents and relatives truly dont some sense what they are doing Whole senie neglect what wholesome neglect does consist of is avoiding most of those ways weve so far mentioned and that would mean 1 avoid looking at your child chil chi d all the time just watch yourself and the other adults and you will see exactly v what hat I 1 mean if youve never suspected yourself of this habit before 2 avoid above all things talking about what your child does docs and says telling each other or visitors in the childs hearing of her antics or her amusing sayings or her bright remarks or her naughtiness 3 show real interest in her play her achievement with blocks block 3 or crayon or dust cloth but bonti keep breaking in on her concentration tra tion 4 and when hen praise is 13 in order dont make it always personal its better to say that barn youve built for the cows B batty tty looks like a cozy place for them to be in in the winter than to say well betty you are a good builder because your interest should be chiefly in the result not in the smartness of the child 5 avoid constantly offering entertainment and diversion this fosters lack of concentration and makes a child chil 1 exacting but provide variety in play and if possible association with other children re n sometime where here it is not possible b 1 to control other adults a few hours a day in a school of 1 kindergarten inder garten breaks up the undesirable I 1 behavior habits |