Show kathleen norris says saye the much younger 16 unger husband beu feature a gu J A ing I 1 IV r what can I 1 do to 0 o hold h old this s young husband oj 01 mint mine whom despite all his kindnesses unkindness ei I 1 love so 10 passionately by KATHLEEN NORRIS HE problem of marigold T THE aged 39 is that of a clever successful woman who has married a man aman 12 years her junior they have been man and wife for less than two years and already larry shows signs of restlessness marigold is frantic with helpless helplessness nes s and i despair all the more acute because she keeps everything bottled up inside tier her and manages to keep a serene exterior before the watching eyes of the tha world when we were married writes marigold 1 I was a different woman I 1 am healthy an out of door S sort ort of type and at 37 I 1 looked at least 10 years less than my age some years ago my parents left in me a a sma small U farm I 1 was just home after glorious college years when they were killed in an accident and idly in the first summer ot loneliness and grief I 1 secured a few small mall girl bo boarders arderi from this grew my school a school tor for so called biffl difficult P alt and problem cases I 1 have been unbelievably au successful access not only in a financial sense but la in the fa fact C t th that at 11 I 1 love ov 87 this work it is easy and natural to me and repays me richly in friendships with children and parents A very handsome man alm larry come came to me three years ago as physical culture director I 1 knew he was less experienced arid and less useful than he had represented himself I 1 built him up we studied his work together he improved he became a different human being he la Is magnificently made and very handsome and I 1 fell in love with him bim long before he did with me if he ever did we were marr married lid and immediately larry beian began his attentions to other women he opened adult classes in garfi gym work long country hikes bikes that took place during hours when I 1 kasnot tree free after the first weeks of blissfully deceiving myself I 1 saw that no one woman ever could hold him but I 1 hoped to be his rock of safety and understanding through all the storms undisciplined nature after the loss of 04 my baby a year ago I 1 was ill HI for a long time a not sick in bed but rather dragging myself about through my school duties and not able to keep control as I 1 should larry drew large sums from our joint account and on one occasion signed my narni name to a sale of property without my authorization at that time he be moved to mother another room and he be has not returned to mine now he be tells me he wan wants is to be treed freed to drive about the country looking up pupils tor for a much enlarged school and dreadful as it sounds I 1 am afraid that he be would not be alone I 1 think I 1 know the charming young companion of 19 who would accompany him although he tries to quiet my cloa by saying lying that miss M has an agency tor for childrens books and would be stopping in many of the towns he would visit so that accidental encounters would be vm very natural datura what can I 1 do to hold this young husband of mine whom despite all his I 1 love so co maision pa passionately ision I 1 know I 1 am not young and C harming charming any more I 1 was never glamorous orous but I 1 am slim and tall I 1 A school for WINNING HIM RICK BACK when a woman marries a man much younger than man ho herself she is i s taking a chance this is especially the case when he is Kand handsome some and flirtatious tat tati ious as is marigolds husband she is 39 now 12 years older than lorry larry they met when he joined the faculty at marigolds igolus school for girls soon after the marriage lorry lory y began paying attention to other and and younger women H he e h has a s drawn consid considerable e rable i money from their joint account used marigolds car for dates daies and in general behaved in a way no good husband would now he wants to go on a long tour of the country to obtain new students for the school marigold suspects suspect that Z he will be accompanied by a pretty girl of 19 with all his shortcomings marigold still loves lorry larry passionately she asks Miss Norris how she she can hold her errant husband miss norris tells her that the best thing marigold can do is to try to pretend she does care what larry does if she busies herself with her own interests ilithe in the school larry will probably come back to her in due time and clean looking and my yellow yedo hair Is untouched by drugs or grayness yet there must be something to me the children love me and so do their families I 1 am well again now im not ready to be a broken crying wakeful failure as a we help me to get back again dont take nim seriously help my dear marigold has to come from within when you make yourself a whole woman again absorbed in other things than larrys physical perfections and love conquests get him back when you are always happily busy amused planning picnics for your charges dressing with the old charm enjoying the same old books and music carryll Lar ryll see you as he be used to see you stop the crying reproaching lying awake nights analyzing nothing Is so fatal to married peace as the long reasonable talks in which a man and woman hurt each others fee feelings lingk deliberately and systematically systematic ally forget larry yes forget him listen to his complacent recitals absentminded absent n minded ly have other things to think about it if he be goes off with the car see that he be too much money suggest casually that he find and a lob job as physical culture director in some other school explain that his flirtations are undermining yours laugh about it warn prospective students that he Is in youthfully amorous in other words become yourself again a charming capable successful woman who knows how to live and help small unfortunate live on happier terms term who dressea dreg sei ww well and has many interests the sooner larry drifts away to impose upon some other heart hungry older woman the sooner regain your moral mental psychological end and physical balance |