Show kathleen norris says when a hat ariage Oss iries features aa I 1 V vl W RYAN for seven ang marriage francis argued very cef finitely and firmly thas they u not rd a child by KATHLEEN NORRIS THE HE trouble with most T j marriages is that they A jell by which I 1 mean that they get set into a certain form and shape and neither party to the contract takes the trouble ever to change them having mutually flat flattered tere d and spoiled and given way to each other in the ecstatic days of the honeymoon both husband and wile naturally begin to think themselves perfect any criticism after that it if it Is merely to brown the toast a little darker must be offered with the utmost tact it if presently peter says that susans upsweep hairdo Is prettier in his humble opinion than the tha eternal bell shape of hanging locks susan Is deeply wounded dont you like the way I 1 usually wear my hair peter of course I 1 do darling only this way is pretty too you never said all those lovely days at cypress point that you hated the way I 1 do my hairl 1 I never hated it honey I 1 just thought now eow it begins but lust just it peter you may be one of 0 those unfortunate husbands who think at least as far as any change Is concerned and right there your marriage begins to jell any marriage Is in danger when you begin to hear bear husband or wile wife say bay things like this the piano will stay there peter because the place for it we cant mary peter never goes to weddings why should we go to the company picnic we never have when we were first married you always yapping about being home evenings dont lets talk when peters here ho he hates to bear women talking clothes she always gets mad if its poker just dont say anything about tt it that disgusting smell of 0 your pipe neither one willing to change to stop atop now and then to consider the others point ot of view and one more marriage is hardening into failure allure to say 1 I am always like that and hell just have to make up his mind to it hurt him half as much as it hurts you it hurts us all to jell in our manners prejudices habits thoughts many a woman who carefully changes her hats hair arrangements and the color of her fingernails from year to year wont consider changing her stupid mind and soul she would 0 uld blush to be seen in a peach basket hat with her belt about the hips of her gown or to happily allude to gone with the wind as the book of the moment it if the shoulders of her coat have too little or too much padding she suffers until it is made right irritating habits but in her ideas to in her rooted di dislikes and fancies in her habits 0 of I 1 always being just a little late always spending just a little too much always saying the light litile hurtful thing how fixed she is I 1 knew one man who finally divorced the tha wife who humiliated him by always r referring ef erring to herself as poor they w were er not poor he was a hard my aly acar thaes ahafi for rich people working intelligent and capable man but it satisfied some deep sadistic vein in francale to complain prettily to her friends of poverty my dear tor for rich people bob and I 1 cant afford anything like that it would be lovely but poor fo aks cant be choosers sa said francie ran tor for 12 long years her retty pretty home her car her generous generou s share are of the good things of life meant bant nothing to her wifely co consideration idera and generosity were nowhere for the seven long years of their marriage francie argued very definitely and firmly that they could not afford a child not until we can give him everything she said that time never came but a divorce and a second marriage came tor for bob who now has a of small children children to be given just as good a chance as any in the world and better human life is change and movement spiritual life is change and movement too unless you are continually examining your marriage studying your part in it thin thinking chinkir kir of of the ways you yourself may change in mind soul and body to make yourself sweeter and dearer to those near to you your marriage may go rao dead A woman my age often 1 looks back with regret to the vagaries of her younger years the unnecessary things she wanted the foolish laws she laid aid down the things she positively dively do too late she learns how little she really needed tor for happiness how useless the laws were how many of the impossible things she had to do but how much prayer and thought and study a young wife needs to keep her marriage from jel jelling lingl |