Show kathleen norris says this gentlewoman should wed chauffeur beu ball syndicate lc 0 A F X fly lather for several years has had a chauffeur named tony benito he is a simple man who has a wonderful wonder lul mother and family tony and I 1 love each other aly mother would be crushed if she kieu this by KATHLEEN NORRIS ER E is a I 1 letter e ater from a H HERE young girl that might make some mother thoughtful linda sends me her picture with her letter and it is the picture of a sweet sensible pretty creature she makes no complaint she only wants some advice but I 1 think she has been badly treated and that it is the fault of a selfish lather father and mother when I 1 was quite little mother and dad made much of me I 1 felt that they loved me I 1 writes linda but when I 1 was 10 another man appeared in the he family was there continually taking mother to lunch or dinner or dancing I 1 like him very much and neither did dad soon mother explained to me that dad was going away it made me feel eel strange and lonely but of course I 1 was only a child and when mother married the man I 1 will call van she explained to me that it only meant that I 1 had two homes now and three persons to love me instead of two for a year dad and I 1 and my nurse lived together mammy and I 1 did the cooking and we were all very happy but then dad married and although elise was kind to me and gave me presents she talked about my mothers treatment of my father said she had been cruel to him and worried me so that I 1 was really ill mother was expecting a baby then and could not have me so I 1 went to a hospital and from there for years to boarding school my father has always been careless about money and every quarter I 1 would have to write and remind him to pay my bills which I 1 think accounts for the fact that I 1 am pretty shy to this day I 1 hoped to be with my mother in vacations but instead they arranged tor for me to go to te camp every year inherited money please dont think I 1 am complaining pla ining the letter goes on but I 1 loved my parents and my home and I 1 used sed to feel very lonely my father was was divorced again last year and as I 1 pleaded to be able to be with him and make a home for him he agreed at 18 1 I came into some money my grandmother left me that meant that he and I 1 need have no money troubles I 1 came home christmas a year ago and for a few weeks I 1 was completely h happy a going downtown independently having my own car and feeling tree free but my father has changed is rarely at home 1 and so I 1 see little of him but my mother was very much annoyed at this arrangement she said that having sacrificed me all these years tor for my education she felt that I 1 should be with her and help out with the family finances my little half brother was a strong beautiful baby but he got infantile paralysis and will always need care van my stepfather Is not much of a success in business and my mother misses the luxuries to which she had been accustomed altogether r she is in a nervous stati state and yet a t she c cannot s annot get another divorce been because use she would get no alimony this time love comes to linda now here is my question my father for svera several I 1 years has had a chauffeur named med tony benito he is a simple man who has a wonderful mother and family he was married widowed 10 years ajo ago I 1 have been to his mothers home sev FOR PARENTS ONLY kathleen norris advice this time is for the parents instead of their erring and wayward children here is a case where an apparently blameless child has been een dented denied the love and security she needs by the selfishness fish ness of her parents unwanted w when she was growing up she is now claimed I 1 by both ba ph parents for the sake 01 of the ithe money n she h I 1 c inherited from her grandmother her but she is in in love with her lathers fathers chauffeur e and wants to marry him and surprising as it may be to so some me kathleen norris norr is advises her ter to do just that she may be embarrassed by tonys onys limitations and site she will not have the luxuries she has always known but she will have love and a family bound together by simple goodheart good heart edness her parents divorced for many years cannot even offer her a home and in return they would probably expect to claim all her time attention and money eral times they have a restaurant which the lather daughters and another son manage they are uneducated people I 1 suppose talking very little english and living a very natural home life with babies dogs old grandparents plenty of good food and good wine and plenty of love tony and I 1 love each other we are happy together my father probably would want to kill him if he knew this and I 1 know my mother would be crushed if we married I 1 would take what money I 1 have and invest it in a garage which tony has long wanted to buy we could go along for a few years comfortably on what was left until he began to make money we both want children tor for all the benites benitos love them teem and I 1 could never be happy without them shall I 1 refuse tony and as ask k dad to let him go jola join my mother and become a nurse to my little half brother whom I 1 would come to adore I 1 know or make this marriage please help me parents want her now now you parents who submit loving sensitive small girls to the miseries of your own marital failures and the wretchedness of partings and changes among those who seem to them faultless what do you think of the lither father and mother who shoved linda about without any consideration tor for her loving little heart her childs love of stability and security and her childs confidence in her own family now that she is no longer a responsibility and a bother they want her now that shi she is an heiress both father and mother could use her money and now she has sought companionship and love in strange places and is likely to go out of their lives forever my advice to her is to man marry y tony she will be marly many times embarrassed barr assed by his limitations she may have to apologize for him and for her family but she will have love a real mother andreal and real sisters and brothers amusement distraction companionship panion ship and probably actor adoration A tion from her husband she will have children good strong children born of peasant stock and she w will ill build a home around them and have the picnics and trips and birthdays birthday and mothering that her own childhood was denied |