Show kathleen IN norris orris says when the piper comes for his pay bell syndicate service aa t javra IV 14 o 0 zi V d 0 4 X if klat R INN when I 1 was 18 1 lell in love with a handsome boy whose character my mother even then analyzed as weak we were lovers in lost year high by KATHLEEN NORRIS HERE is one sin for ably THERE which women pay a doubly trebly ten times multiplied price perhaps this fair or reasonable perhaps some day things will be more honestly adjusted but the fact remains that when a girl makes a misstep in a certain Ai direction there are seventy ways in which she can be punished very olten often this punishment Is merely a secret thing in her own soul a little stain of shame and regret a constant sharp sting ol of humiliation in the knowledge that there is 19 a man somewhere alive in the world a man other than her husband who has an intimate knowledge ol of her sweetness her kisses her warm young body her first young passion she writhes at the thought that this man may be telling his wife of the early affair may be hinting it to others it shakes her pride in herself her confidence in her own integrity or sense it takes the bloom from her honeymoon and puts just a tinge of suspicion into any slight or fancied slight she ever me meets ets from other women it if she gets off with only this much discomfort she is lucky other women have to pay higher naomi is one this Is part of naomis letter high school lovers when I 1 was 18 1 I tell fell in love with a handsome boy whose character my mother even then analyzed as weak but who seemed to me the sweetest dearest fellow in the world we were lovers in last year high donny after graduation taking a two years course in business school and I 1 going away to college to in the west at first I 1 felt very uneasy as to the wisdom of assuming this relationship but donny was earnist earnestly ly in love as I 1 was and we talked continually of marriage when I 1 came home tor for my first C christmas holidays we were as passionately siona tely devoted as before but before midsummer there was a change my father father went into bankruptcy and I 1 jot got a job in the library and dannys mother who disliked me managed to send him away to college from that moment I 1 heard in his voice and read in his letters that he was trying to end the affair he no longer spoke of mar ariage and even showed some anxiety to get back one of the few letters in which he had first promised it what I 1 suffered nobody but a girl who has experienced this s terrible time knows I 1 hate to think of it even now under the circumstances I 1 could not hold him and to tor r three years we did not see each other donny reappears on scene that was eight years ago last year I 1 became enga engaged gea I 1 to one of the finest men in fact th the e very finest man I 1 ever have known he has a great political future before him and a fine legal practice and we have already selected a home ot of our own our wedding day was set when donny turned up last month immediately he renewed his attentions tome to me protesting that he has always loved me and always planned tor for our marriage his mother is dead now and he has a small income and a small salary so that he really is in a position to m marry rry his attitude was so BO unreasonable and dark clark was so puzzled by lt it that I 1 had finally to explain everything dark clark took it very nicely said that of of course it made no difference as tar far as he was concerned but that I 1 must be the one to choose bett between veen them and make my own decision this has thrown me into such a state of agitation and despair that I 1 have been close to an actual nerv ous u s breakdown I 1 am not a nervous 6 woman and had thought for several years that while a good many men liked me I 1 was cured of liking them but I 1 am really in love now and if I 1 lose dark clark I 1 feel that I 1 will never again know happiness in life senses change in fiance the point is would dark clark have been willing to turn me over to donny as it were if he really loved me he have said then that nothing happened in my very young girlhood could part us now Is a man quite so reasonable when he loves a woman do you feel eel that there is any ethical consideration here because she once loved a man not wisely but too well should a woman feel eel herself morally bound to marry him years ater after their parting if the opportunity occurs I 1 dont want to marry donny in fact act I 1 could not what I 1 feel eel for or him now is not quite so definite as dislike but I 1 dont want to see him or bother with him at all the thought of 0 marrying him is actually horrible to me on the other hand I 1 know that in spite of 0 what he says all this has shocked and chilled dark clark at first I 1 really believe he did not resent it or thought he be but since I 1 told him I 1 have noticed a change a sort of 0 quiet in his manner ver very Y unlike his old wild happiness and eagerness were donny to disappear all this would come back but donny hangs around reminding me of old times of 0 notes I 1 wrote him and places we met always acting and speaking as if out of 0 deep love for or me but knowing of 0 course that he be is driving me wild can you give me any suggestions as to the solution of 0 a problem that rankly frankly has as grown too complicated for or me say goodby good by to both the ay only advice I 1 can give naomi is to say a definite goodby good by to both these men for or a time she must dismiss donny absolutely refusing to see him under any consideration whatsoever then she must break her engagement with dark Clark telling him that if after a period of perhaps six or eight months he w wants ants to come back for or her she will make him a true and devoted wife no other course will bring her peace of mind only when she is freed from rom dannys attentions and from rom the false alse position in which her engagement to dark clark places her will she feel eel herself honest again then if dark clark comes back she can accept him with a clear mind in the long years of 0 marriage he never can accuse her of deceiving him because she will have reed freed him of her own will its a very uncomfortable tangle all around a tangle that a wilful little girl named naomi might have spared the woman naomi if she had been more self controlled eight years ago but the probability is that dark clark win will return after the stipulated period or much sooner that he will not let her youthful weakness rob him of his wife only naomi will have to take a certain amount of humiliation and shame with the reconciliation not very serious probably not all but so unnecessary I 1 wish all 18 year old girls who read this today would take a look a at t that country to which they are so steadily moving the unan unknown own country called womanhood ind and wifehood |