Show kathleen norris says tie the unfaithful wife bell syndicate feature aa 4 ay ar ya N V A the two young women have apparently been having a pretty good time at as dances fi ances theaters movies and night clubs with various admirers by KATHLEEN NORRIS AN ARMY lieutenant 37 A years old writes me i from wales where he has been stationed for a year to ask if he should forgive his wife for admitted infidelity the wife Blan blanche coe Is 29 they have been married for or 10 years and have one child a girl of seven blanche lives in chicago keeping house with another army wife who also had a little daughter the two young women have apparently been having a pretty good time at dances theaters movies nightclubs night clubs with various admirers now she writes her husband clark that in this one instance her affection for one of these me men n has gone too tar far the man h has as left chicago for the south seas now and has gone cone out of her life but tor for a few weeks before he went away he and blanche were lovers iele he Is a married man clark writes me land and blanche swears that she never will see him again nor write to ta him and that she Is shamed ol of the whole affair A week after I 1 had her letter which seemed to crack the actual ground under onder my feet I 1 had a note from the marks maas wile wife informing me of the affair and that seemed to me to take away a good deal of the honesty of my cifes admission letters from a good many people ht hint n t of it and she may have suspected that I 1 would hear about it for the childs sake she asks me to forgive and forget and I 1 confess thai that that Is my inclination tor for I 1 love my wife adore my child and have lived all these months in the thought of f returning to our happy little home again but can a man ever ever trust a woman after an aff affair air like this will she do it again if anyone else had bad told me that my sensible loving lovely wife was capable of this s sort 0 t of thing I 1 would not have bellve believed alt it on oath he erred too one other thing ithe the letter con eludes which perhaps may influence your decision when we had been married about three years when yvonne was a tiny baby I 1 had an affair with a divorced divorce orn beni who worked in my office kofl on tor for more than a year when blanche discovered it through the accident of my addressing her and talking to her on the telephone one day believing it was the other woman I 1 ended the affair she forgave me and we never made further allusion to it should her generosity then affect me now I 1 feel it unfair to consider a womans comans offense in this matter more serious than a mans but I 1 do feel so do you yes dark clark I 1 do especially in this case where the woman knew we well 11 what she was doing it fair that rules aules should be different for women and for men and in a a strictly moral sense they are not dot B but u t by society they are differently regarded and differently punished an and d women from the beginning of time have had to accept the situation it is generally recognized that women have more sell self control in matters of sex lex than men do are finer akner in their feelings and wise enough to know that tor for this sort of weakness they pay the bill so J P 1 how you b oth feel TRUST DESTROYED the gnawing fear of so many man married soldiers that th their y wives may be unfaithful during the long separation has become an ugly reality for this army lieutenant he is 37 and has been married for 10 years to blanche who is 29 they have a 7 year old daughter blanche who is now living with another officers wife has admitted an affair with a married man she says she is over her foolishness now however hoi oever and is asking for forgiveness while the lieutenant ien lien tenant has had Q at least one fling during his married life file he regards his cifes infidelity as sor something more serious he is wondering whether he can ever return to the old status after the war now that his trust has been destroyed st that while a wise man may easily be snared by a woman into a love affair a wise woman Is much better fitted to avoid avold the danger however that may be your only course Is to forgive blanche and w wipe ape the matter as completely from your mind and your memory as you can should any of these dear friends who have turned informer ever allude to it it will be enough tor for you to say briefly that you understand the whole situation and that it concerns you yoi j and blanche alone walt till you come home whether you two can make a success of a marriage in which confidence has been destroyed on both sides Is a question but apparently ly harmony was re reestablished established after your infidels In infidelity fidell ty a few years ago and it may be re stored restored again at all events it seems to me the wise thing is to wait until the war is over or until you are home again and then see how you both feel and how things go you yon will probably find your wife once gain again lovely and loving your you r home borne and your small daughter everything to which a man wants to come back surely it Is more sensible bleto to make this attempt at a fresh start than to return embittered lonely with no place to go and no ties to resume you will not be the only man who will have to make this sort ot of compromise when he comes home in hundreds of cases there will be mistakes to forgive stupidities to overlook in an all cases there will be a deep chasm to cr cross oss the chasm between the old orderly way of living and the new condit conditions ons which none of us can to foresee the dreadful chasm of war which carries our boys away from home and all the home influences accustoms their young eyes to sights no eyes ever ought to see hurries them into hasty marriages hasty divorces hasty decisions they are going to need all that we have of courage and stability and code and love to bring them back it Is tor for you and blanche to contribute to this effort rather than to increase the worlds burden |