Show kathleen norms N L orris says the real problem of young marriage beu bell syndicate service service 1 I I 1 IN 0 0 V joa y AN 1 IN V ham he took me downtown to dinner and bought me gardenias saying that I 1 had let myself get into a housekeeping rut when I 1 said that money was an imbor tant tan ele element ent in in married security he just laughed by KATHLEEN NORRIS A LONG about this time of ya year the questions begin to come in from the june brides they are still the happiest girls in all the world and tim is still the most wonderful man but still just like to ask one particularly bewildered little bride writes me from ac a new mexico city she says that she cut out an article of mine saying that the money problem was the most important in marriage and that she did seriously believe it but that walter thinks it is perfect nonsense walter writes marian has a small salary but gets an occasional commission when we had bad been married only two months we got a really rea lly fine commission and made the first three payments on an adorable house h e we got a refrigerator and a gas stove and J just a few things we had to have paying more than half down but planning to pay the rest off in monthly installments this with the house means 02 92 monthly what we are sure of Is a week so you see we need pretty close figuring to get through months when there Is no commission walter had a heavy cold in october lost 22 days at the office so we got behind and he borrowed to keep abreast of our obligations running into debt now this Is what worries me he does not like to talk finances with me and I 1 dont like to bother hirn him but by chance I 1 learned that we are running behind with all our payments and unless we have a streak of great luck and in the winter real estate developments hardly move at all I 1 cant see how we are going to manage what I 1 want to do Is to rent this house for a year which we could do move into a small apartment live on our salary and let the tha house bouse pay for itself and its furnishings nish ings which it would just do when I 1 hinted this plan to walter h he was amused and disturbed he took me downtown to dinner and bought me gardenias saying that I 1 had let myself get into a housekeeping rut when I 1 said that money was an important element in married ried security he just laughed and said that he had been in and out of hot water all his life and certainly was not going to begin worrying now he admitted that he had made our indebtedness an even five hundred but that if the bank ever made any trouble he be could get it from someone he spoke of a second mortgage on the house but while it Is unpaid for I 1 dont think we could do that meanwhile he Is anxious for a child both the men in his office have small children and he says he is jealous when he hears them talking of them but it seems to me we have no right to go ahead with a family dearly as I 1 would love a baby until we are a little more out of the woods will you tell me what position I 1 ought to take and whether I 1 a am rn unnecessarily worried moss rose breakers lie ahead poor little moss rose has a real problem on her hands bands and certainly there are breakers ahead she and her walter will lose their home borne and take to smaller quarters and then FINANCIAL SECURITY money problems in married life ARE important kathleen norris insists even where the husband and wife love each other intensely this does 0 s not mean that couples with small incomes cannot be very happy she adds but that unnecessary financial insecurity resulting resulting from poor management will grada ally ily undermine dm ine and poi possibly bly destroy the best of homes read this story of a tearful young wife to e who ho is sto faced racel with just such a problem r h tem I 1 walter will lose his job the higher ups in an office distrust a man who runs into debt and depends upon visionary commissions to extricate him and who at the same time feels himself fitted for the responsibilities bili ties of marriage and fatherhood through this crisis rose will have to stand by him and when the smoke blows away and he secures a position without the dazzling possibilities ties of 0 commissions she will have to persuade him to let her handle their financial affairs if he agrees and sticks to his bis bargain they may emerge into the sunshine of a more secure prosperity again find a new home set a room aside in it tor for the nursery but if walter refuses to let his wife share in the management the whole thing will be repeated over again with very doubtful results for women get tired of bright promises that are never fulfilled money shortage that Is never ended eternal humiliations from they know that these things arent tiec necessary essary and they would rather work out their problems on a certain a month than have a dazzling rush of riches one week and a bitter shortage for fol the 51 weeks to follow cifes right night to share money planning it Is the right of every wile wife to share money responsibility money planning it if a young husband refuses her that right he has only himself to blame it if she runs into extravagances cannot account tor for what he gives her and blames him tor for necessary economies nothing enrages a husband more th than an to discover that the little extra money a bit of luck has brought him has been blandly spent by his wife or to open bills for all sorts of ridiculous expenditures that send his scheme tor for a budget tumbling down into fresh depths of debt and nothing upsets a wife more than to find herself going about the daily tasks of bf beds and dishes thinking resentfully he told me id have to send toms shoes back and take mollie out of dancing school and then he plays poker and loses 60 in one evenings even I 1 cant have a maid even tor for three days a week but he can loan bill porter a hundred dollars he gave me a call down tor for sending mama a check tor for her birthday and yet he says he matches the boys at the club every day to see who pays for the lunch t married love ought to be high above thoughts of money but it such reflections as these corrode the home atmosphere when apparently ly tar far more serious things are forgotten and forgiven money in the purse is a singularly healing thing when rose can look at a growing bank account with satisfaction when walter feels that his wife Is as interested as he is in making the financial end of their bargain a success then both feel a confidence and security that in the very base and root of happiness |