Show nathleen kathleen norris says the plan that saved a marriage mar ariage bell syndicate features feature 11 t A I 1 J z ae in ji ill lif it K those who malke a plan now are geini to find profitable opportunities by KATHLEEN NORRIS of marriages THOUSANDS are wrecked every year because husband and wife have no plan I 1 there is nothing like a plan the moment your mind begins to work on it you feel a new interest in life the minute a man and woman unite on a common object in life toward which their hopes and thoughts turn they are dealing a deathblow death blow to the vagueness discontent criticism emptiness that so often swamps ss married happiness it may be a plan to build a 11 house it may be a plin plan to get out of debt it may be a plan to arrange tor for the professional education of the adored boy who Is presently comb coming ig home tired in soul and body from the front it may be a plan to have a baby or adopt a baby or acquire a little faim oi or study spanish and live in mexico after the war W whatever h stever it Is if it lifts husband and wife out of the disillusioned contemplation temp emp lation of everyday humdrum living iving and gives them abider a wider view of a happier world to come it saves their mutual love and respect and perhaps makes a secure their lives and their childrens children I 1 a lives think out a plan make it extravagant trava gant make it a dream plan it with it if we could have just what we want after the war tom what would it be clear away the obstacle a 0 le of debt now start the sacrificing rif eing and saving that will bring a bout about 49 there Is no woman alive no matter how scatterbrained scatter brained or how beset s et at this moment with all the confused f conditions and obligations and difficulties difficult i es of a world at war who cannot cannat pull her life right into shape wl with th a good plan there is no marriage on shaky ground today that wi will not be steadied and safeguarded by a plan after the war each one of us is going to fall into one of two categories those who go up and those who go down conditions will be pretty much the same tor for everyone but to some spell ruin and to others a new golden era of success success those thos who are counting upon post ez aarti wartime to pull them out of debt to supply them with more money to bring home from the front ex service men who will contribute to the family support are going to be tooled fooled those who make a plan cow w who h 0 bring their affairs into a condition of complete solvency are going to find very profitable avenues for investment very gratifying opportunities to secure what always Is in wait for thrifty americans prosperity security success women active la in new fields make your choice now thousands of american women are doing things today that they never did before life has changed for us all and only those who realize that are going to at into the new plan looking back now on the time before the last two years I 1 think I 1 have been asleep sill all my life carried rites ites mary perry from texas 1 I arrles young and always took it tor for granted that walter would make the money and I 1 would spend it we had four children in sevi seven en years and through those years a steady burden of debt and discomfort all but swamped our marriage I 1 would P ave ve left him but I 1 had nowhere to C go and he certainly would have deserted me but for the children and the impossibility of supporting two OA A in the country CUART CHART YOUR COURSE making plans and working them out together is what holds marriages together says miss it ts is aimlessness vagueness of direction that rings brings b disillusion disillusionment me n 9 and finally disaster clinging to some objective meeting and conquering difficulties achieving little successes will put zest sest and purpose into any marriage mai age and make ma e life worth wor h while living again again any sort of plan may do but a high ambitious one is best something worth striving for or a goal distant but not entirely out of reach will lift you out of yourself and make little difficulties seem unimportant the plan may be to save enough to buy a house in the suburbs or a little farm it may be to provide for the education of children for a profession I fes sion it may be merely to get out of debt and start afresh but whatever it is a plan is a stabilizer an inspiration in marriage whatever you do dont just drift hoping that the future will take care of itself it wont I 1 I 1 establishments it was an unhappy time tor for us both when your letter came I 1 read it to him she goes on and we decided rather doubtfully to start all over again and this time with a plan tor for ourselves our children and our future we moved to a cheaper place in the country we began to save money we went in lor for fruit trees and a victory garden we checked up every month upon our affairs and our gradual approach to the dignified beautiful living we both wanted the plan is in its month now finishes marys letter and it has saved our marriage there Is nothing in the world so stimulating as to know where you want to get and to start persuade your husband by hinting not nagging 9 heres a up tip on how to get your husband to do what you w want ant occasionally casio nally and yet avo avoid d being tagged with that obnoxious description a nagging wife instead of scolding or complaining use humor and ingenuity in your approach to everyday problems getting hubby bubby to shave dally daily is an example instead of nagging him for failing to shave a recent issue of she magazine suggests that you u cut out glamour boy ads tor for shaving lotion or razor blades and tack them over the washstand with b h per zonal annotation such as you too can look like this of course there are two principal objections to this good advice as youve probably made a mental note of already the first is it takes a powerful amount of self control tor for a woman chos consumed with agger to keep her temper and think of little practical jokes instead the second thing is the time and trouble it takes to cook up cute little schemes we admit its all a lot of fuss and bother which is just what a hus bus band is most of the time anyway but if you d dont ont wa want nt to brotherto bot herto fuss over him dont complain if you lose himl |