Show OUR CHILDREN by ANGELO PATRI SAY NO non for some time now a mistaken tion of family control ties has afflicted the world especially that part of it which these united states emer we W have always wanted to give children everything possible to make them sue cess ful no children have ever been given the freedom that ours have enjoyed it Is this freedom that I 1 want to talk about nobody born on this earth I 1 la or can be free everyone of us la is born tied hand and toot to other people ale to circumstances and under laws law that bind us securely nobody no power on earth can free us of duties end and obligations and burdens many mistaken parents and teachers have tried to free children of these obligations of life the result Is hard on the children it Is far kinder to teach a child how to carry a responsibility than it Is to teach him to deny it 11 and then have him come face to face with it it Is like sending him out to sla slay lions without even a sling shot and S bandril of pebbles the only freedom we c can an hope to give e a child Is freedom from Igno rances the first step be takes ta kes toward that freedom Is when he learns to carry the first responsibility children must be taught to endure cheerfully andl and bravely whatever pain comes their way the unmannered child Is too common to need emphasis it Is he who rides roughshod over all who come in his way tie ile Is loud disrespectful selfish and utterly disliked somebody thought it a pity to curb his self ex and so lie be lost his way the spoiled boy who insists upon driving the family car and staying out all hours of the night needs no introduction we are all well acquainted with him the young girl who entertains boys in the evenings smokes cigarettes e end nd to end and insists that she hasher school work well to in hand band Is a common these rb bilgren ildren bil dren are the victims of this mistaken freedom if children could rear themselves there would be no do need for father or mothers to live longer than the few years necessary to bring the children into being nature would attend to that As a matter of hard fact the infancy of the human offspring Is the most pro prolonged longee in nature that means that parents are needed it would be a very good thing for the childr childred er of this generation to learn that there Is a larger freedom to be won than that so easily gained by doing nothing worthwhile they wilt will discover this when we learn when and how to say no APOLOGIZE AT ONCE acl u I 1 ail having trouble with ralph 1 tie he has become a disciplinary case almost overnight 11 ralph impossible the matter matler you know bennie you know what an old odd child he be Is tie he never says a slang word tie he never forgets his manners tie he behaves like an old ninn nain and you know ralph lie he Is ek a good boy but lie he as good as benrose Ben role not nol nearly ills mother and I 1 have been friends since we were little littie girls yesterday ralph pun punched clied bennie in ane nose it was dreadful I 1 asked him why by he did such a thins thing and he said because he makes me sick I 1 told him he must apologize to bennie I 1 insisted upon it ue lie went to bennie and said my mother says I 1 must apol 0 ogise ize to you so I 1 apologized just the sanie same aou ou make me sick sly ily mother says sacs that hereafter it will be better boig forme me not to know you said bennie and your mother gives me a pain in the neck deck sald ralph ile he came home and told we me all about it and you cannot know how bow I 1 felt instead of making things better he be had made them worse I 1 told him he was to apologize to bennies Benn les mother and ile he said 1 I will ill lf if you want me too ti but I 1 think she Is just the same ap apologizing 11 wont do any good as long iong as she Is so snooty to us and wakes makes sut such b a dibsy out of bl enole its the first real difficulty we have had with ralph and we dont know what to do what shall we do with him let him alone this boy Is fifteen years old tie he Is intelligent helpful well mannered gay what more mare can you w anle if he thinks that way about a boy or his mother the best thing to do Is to let lei them slay apart I 1 would never dever ask a chim child to apologize to anybody I 1 would wait until the hent heat of his anger had died down and then I 1 would try to put his behavior before him in truthful re strained terms it if then he offered to make up tip with the person lif offe offended voled I 1 would try to show him a tactful way oat if I 1 could sometimes troublesome situations arise because dignity was wa hurt and demanded sit an apology frota from an equally indignant child who ullo refused to give it apologies that thai are not voluntary never do any gool good it t wa not the childs words and actions mat mat it was his thinking ali inge that and you dot do something try to force the change arid ami boll till onla y double your tri lible lile never mind HIP apologies keep 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