Show 4 i d d 13 Time For Forr l 1 r Class By CHICO CRICO I STATE COLLEGE lt I BUILDING SELF CONFIDENCE Self Belt confidence Is a personal trait which practically all aU people are anxious I to develop Some Bome individuals express their lack of ot self assurance by acting i overconfident These are the I the rowdies the social wolves Others I express their feelings of ot inferiority by 1 retreating from social contact These are the shy people the milquetoasts the social wall wan flowers Most of us fall tall somewhere In between these extremes We are at times meek at other times confident How does doea self confidence originate Are we born that way WRY Psychologists b believe be be- lieve that self assurance is largely a product of ot the childhood home environ environ- ment Children who are brought up in homes where they are loved where are are g given ven relative freedom to play to exp to explore where they are encouraged more and more to do things for tor themselves without fear and whereas where i iI as U they approach adolescence they are I treated as young men and women these thesa young people will more than likely possess posse self A poor home environment combined with other factors factors fac fac- tors tore such as 1 III health unattractive ap appearance appearance ap- ap economic hl handicaps low In Intelligence In in- may develop noticeable feelings feelings feel teel- ings Ins of ot Inferiority A few f f. f w ol oi the Ule signs of ot feelings of ot inferiority In Inferiority in- in Include being oversensitive to criticism being overcritical of ot others boasting loud talking In an argument carrying a d chip on the shoulder and being afraid of ot competition It is now j i 1 believed that there Is 18 s no such each thing asan asan as asan an Inferiority complex or or as was once thought to lack confidence In all situa situa- It Is 18 more truthful to say that we react reat to certain situations without confidence and to others with ence encl A man may have a wealth of ot as assurance assurance as- as at his Job yet may feel teel very insecure at his wife's bridge club I Since we all 11 have some measure of ot meekness In our natures we are all I in how to build self dence dente Lack of ot assurance is not mountable Much can be done to overcome overcome over over- come it I j There are three essential steps in building self First face tace reality Recognize th that Inferiority feelings feelings feel feel- ings are possessed In common by almost every overy living being and that you are one of them Second seek to understand the causes of ot your feelings in terms of ot your childhood experiences Third lay down downa a positive program of ot action to build up your confidence Following is a list of ot suggestions for tor step three three the the program of action 1 1 Have lIaTe a a. medical examination correct Correct Correct Cor cor- Cor- Cor any physical weakness Schedule regular physical exercises some exercises e some In the company of other people I 2 List Us your skills both physical and mental that you can do or the things that you know khow better than the average person your age These include among others other playing golf golt speaking another language having a II hobby or being able to play a f musical Instrument Develop new Interests Enjoy them They build I confidence 3 Analyze your social behavior Ex Ex- Exactly Whereto do you annoy people I Ex-I I wherein do you please them Systematic Systematic- II ally correct the annoyances and build buildup buildup up your pleasing qualities This may Include personal grooming t table le manners man- man manners ners conversation or Improving your general attitude toward people Seek Beek a genuine Interest in others PROFESSOR SAMUEL N. N LECOUNT Psychology of ot Adjustment Chico State College California |