Show I I i l I t w IiI Ii r. r I II Im m I Few Husbands Prove I the he Don Juans Their I N JV ires Lc Fear I II I I DEAR DORIS DENE DENT I am I afraid I am the type of wife known as unreasonably jealous I Perhaps Pe aps I have always alwa's been sus sus- suspicious susI suspicious because I was attractive I when I was and I knew how many men were willing to cheat cheaton I Ion on their wives for my sake I cant can't get into the habit of trusting my husband I want him to be with me all the time I resent any outside Interests he has I know this is wrong but how can I build up any I faith bith in men in general I cannot I say I am a happy happ wile wife although I love my husband and believe that he really loves me m Any help you youcan youcan youcan can give me will be of great value G. G. G E. E M. M ANSWER As ANSWER As a matter of fact I doubt very much whether you were quite so besieged with attentions from married men as you imagined you were Perhaps two husbands out of all aU those you knew showed signs of being ready to make love to you but that wasn't a staggering proportion of the harried male pop pop- ula tion Because you ou happened on two weak members of the married crowd you jumped to conclusions about mans man's inability to be faithful which arent aren't fair to the masculine sex Actually men on the whole dont don't run to infidelity as much as they're supposed to Given an average happy home and a nice wife and a promising job and a fair amount of interests no man really wants to bother getting himself tangled up in some unfortunate relationship The average man wants peace and his wife if she's wise sees that he gets it But when a possessive woman in in- insists insists insists that her man shall make her his chief interest in life she's on the way to trouble When she wont won't let him have his game of golf goll and his evenings even of bridge and his busi busi- business business business ness dinners then she's cutting him away from all aU the normal out out- outlets outlets outlets lets which make him appreciate his I home and his spouse She's rely rely- relying relying relying I ing too much on herself hersell and on her personality Also she's surrounding him with wih an atmosphere of possessive possess tc love Iou which would be enough to turn urn any mans man's head Most Mos normal everyday men dont don't go about all olI day thinking up ways of being un unfaith faith ful They dont don't brood darkly on thoughts of illicit lore loie They Tiley are not no given gitlen to con constan start stan self analyses as to 0 the he depth of their affection for their heir wives u tes Most of them hem in their simple uncomplicated way nay lust just accept the lie fact of their love loie and their heir marriage quite calmly and let it go at atha that ha And it i lakes takes quite a severe wrench to tear a man from this his ordinary every everyday day acceptance of o f love loie and marriage marriage- and to 0 plunge him into an amorous en entanglement entanglement spoils his hi peace But when the poor male is con con- constantly constantly constantly reminded of how likely it is that he will be unfaithful when unfaithful when ul-when when hes he's accused of misdeeds which haven't occurred to him when him when he is kept busy persuading his wife that he loves her and her alone isn't atone isn't it only onty natural that infidelities should come cometo to seem a more normal part of life to him than they otherwise would have Get over all aU your notions about your husband G. G E. E M. M M He is probably probably probably ably not attractive enough to do all the heart-breaking heart you accuse him of DEAR EAR DORIS DENE We are two girls in love with the same boy We are both willing twilling to give him up for tor each others other's sake We are such devoted friends that no man could ever come between us but us-but bat of course we would each like to marry him if it were the right thing to do T. T. T and B. B ANSWER ANSWER And And all aU the time apparently apparently apparently the poor man hasn't a word to say about the arrangements I Surely by this time he must have formed an opinion of his own as to which of you two charmers would do Wouldn't it be better to let him make his confession of love to toone toone one of you you before before casting lots as asto asI I to which girl gets the prize If T. T gives up the boy in order to tobe tobe tobe be loyal to B. B she may be doing herself and the man she loves an in incalculable in- in inI in- in int t I calculable wrong B. B may never have suited the hero of the piece He I may never have dreamed of her in connection with marriage What right therefore has T. T to consign romance to oblivion in favor of friendship Her gesture of self sac self sac sac- i will not help Bs B.'s cause I Romeo hasn't already chosen her Let the hero choose his own bride It may take a good deal of charac charac- character ter for you two girls to remain friends under the circumstances but butI if your standard of friendship is so soi i I weather able to should be high i you I this storm A CHRISTIAN CHRISTI BACHELOR BAC ELOR I t 1 Thanks for your letter Sorry I afraid It Iti cant can't reprint It but I am I might hurt the feelings of some of i desperately desperately- those who need help and who cannot altogether be blamed if their interests seem to seem eto to tobe weve we've be selfish Some time when been looking at a problem for days and weeks and months we do slip rut and become so self cen into a we alienate the sympathy of those around us That's why it Is Isa IsI isa thing thIn to write rite to an ou out out- outI outsider I a sider good when hen the difficulty seems almost al al- i I Insuperable I most C 0 Dell Uell Service |