Show THE ROMANCE OF MARRIAGE some conspicuous examples and the various Out outcomes domes of them montreal gazette to count no man hippy till bo he waa wits dead was a maxim ot of tio ancients to coant count no man happy till you have examined into hia his married life lie may also have an element of practical wisdom in a world in aich matrimonial mistakes aro are co common comm nn nod and eo so comm commonly 0 nl disastrous bie everyone ry on a ca can n reel G off ff a list of famous men who hao have notoriously been unhappy in in domestic life among tho the married who secured happiness 13 we find at least a few men of the first firt rank dr arnold leads the list and tho the picture of him mm I 1 is a one wo we are all more or leas less familiar with from tha writings of dean lord Beacons beaconsfield field did not place bis his personal happiness in lore love and domestic joys ho lie was poor and his wife made him rich h he e was ambitious of politics and bis his wife opened the door to success bo be was ambitious ambit ioos of bucce success s in his career and his hie wife ed keenly with him and at least did not hamper him ho was grateful he was faithful he was kind bo he was everything that a gentleman ought to bo in such a case to a woman who really loved him but perhaps his condition of mind was not after all hap writing to his sister in 1839 binesa he e said As for love all my friends who married for love and beauty aro r eitner either beatice beating their wives ar or living ving apart f from m them I 1 ma may ca commit in it many fo follies i ro es but I 1 never neve r I 1 intend n tend t to marry for love which I 1 a am in euro ro is a guarantee of infelicity he ile was not favorably impre impressed med by mrs bits lewis when be met her the firt time 1 I was introduced by particular deene desire to mrs wyndham lewis a pretty little woman a flirt and a rattle indeed gifted with wit h a lity illy I 1 should think unequaled and of which h ch I 1 can convey no idea she told me she liked eilent silent me melancholy h men I 1 answered that I 1 bad had no doubt of it yet be he was to mairy her and to find in her society a life of success an and d of high content at least on oa aal april 12 1867 when he defeated mr Glade Glad stones amendment to the reform bill the younger members of the party extemporized a supper at tha the corlton and begged of him to join om them but as lady beaconsfield Beacone Beacons field was never tired of repeating dizz came cama home to me e ll 11 and she he would add how be ate half I 1 the raised pie and drank the whole battle bottle of champagne ebe she had prepared in anti of his triumph she was truly proud of him and be was fond of telling har arrin in joke oko thai that he had married her for her money to which ebe she would reply ah ab but if you ou had to do it over again you would do it for love lovel a statement to which be he always am smilingly assented indeed he never r lost an opportunity of eulogizing hi bis s wife in public and on one occasion at a harvest home he spoke of her as the best wife in in england Ln gland in dealing with the romance of marriage it was of course to omit the story of lady sarah lennox and george III no doubt at all if george bad had his w way vh be e would aou I 1 d have made lady sarah bis his queen he e u used sed to ride past put the tile bouse in which ch she lived every day and during the carved lady sarah was often seen making hay on t the e lawn in a bewitching ec when the king finally married the ger german m in princes princess lady sarah was on one e of the bridesmaids on this occasion an old nobleman who had not been in court since the accession of the house of hanover paid his reagents respect to the king I 1 ho 0 was very ol 01 old and almost blind but struck by tho the beauty of lady sarah and mistaking her for foe the queen he plumped down on bis his old jacobite knees to kiss her hand I 1 lady sarah very much confused be bado do him rise saying 1 I am not the queen air 11 george belwyn selwyn said of the old ableman nobleman he ile was always partial to pretenders a slap at lady I ady sarah which de deserves orvea revenge two ot of the remarkable men of the last century were unfortunate in their I 1 love ove affairs gen wolfe was rejected 1 in n bis his first love af affair fairi and as every one knows knows ho he was k killed lied before bo he married miss lother lowther to whom he was engaged ene aged who subsequently married marled someone some one else lord cornwallis made a love match but bis his wife was so moch much attached to him and BO so grief stricken at bis his absence during such long long periods that abo she fell into a tau jaundice di an and d died a few weeks after her husband ha bad d flung up bis his command and co corno m 0 homo to see her she directed th that at i a thorn athorn tree should be planted plante doter over her grave and that ber her namo name should not be graven upon the headstone it was after her death that lord cornwallis returned to service sen ice in A america the end of which was also I 1 tor him melancholy enough we read r e a d with witha a good deal of amusement 0 of t abe e romantic and passionate attachment of young grote afterward the historian of greece for harriet lewin who is described in bis his letters as being of coarse course very lovely but in after days at least was eccentric C strong featured and masculine among the runaway matches mentioned is that of ilen henry ry fox tho the first lord 11 holland olland he ile fell in love with lady charlotte lannom and being refused by the family ran away with the lady but his subsequent career folly fully justified the rashness of bis his action for ho he certainly showed that he knew how to 0 o make money and to 0 o kel keen it till charles fox bis his son cultivated in him ho the faculty cf of giving it away john scott after afterward wara lord E eldon idon also ran TAU away with big his wife at a verb very early age the window from which beedia eair teet descended into her lovers arms la Is still pointed oat out to every visitor to newcastle aa as he pauses before wore the old house hou sethe the home of the w wealthy e a athy hanker banker her father in sandhill 1 1 not five hundred yards yarda from the great reat bridge which spans abe tyne ga in ohio bis olda old ago geLord lord eldon used to tell bow piteous was their condition on the third morning after the union our funds were exhausted we bad not a home to go to abd we knew know not whether our friends would ever Is p a k tons again one of hia his earliest le legal 1 experiences p fences was in reading as the Vin erian law lecture lec turo 1 I began he says without know ing lag a tingle single word that was in it it wag was upon the statute r t at ifie ot ol young men gunnine ing away with maidens 1 5 faricy tucy aar tao WO reading with about 1 10 b boys 0 and n d young men all 1 a rig X 9 aling li nr ft the ibe professor such a 0 tittering amli audie euca tice no one knoerer er bad had ibe the scanty means of the young eople had ono one collect T I 1 T they veo y de developed I 1 a in the y bog brid bride habits of thrift which hardened into ex aromo parsimony sho she wai always areno to eccie society ty for the runaway marriage olad u ad 3 her t or delicately sensitive about bociey in the beginning and at last it became distaste distasteful fu to 0 her curiously enough their eldest daughter married without the coment of her parents the etory story ol 01 southey Sou theys 18 lova love and marriage can never rever be absent from each such a compilation of this sort no man ever bid had legs right to get married than bouchey hon bou ibey theY lie ile had no money no profession no reputation no place in the world and more than this be he as dependent on his lils friend cottle AT who ho bad been supplying him with money money cottle bad had to supply him even with the ring ring and the money for tho tile wed nodding diug after that beginning he lived a long life of anxious earnest Ite 1 labor earning not much winning no great tame fame bat but lea leaving vini behind him a memory rich in every sort of private virtue and worth no doubt his is wife bath ne as a bride and during all her life had much the heavier part of tho the daily bur harden dento to bear she bore it nobly and died indeed a martyr to duty toward her lie r huab husband and and children her last days being clouded by mental troubles which cause cawed d her to bo secluded forty tears vears had they been married when edith E lith died Sout Sou beys theys own life WAS not to be long and his n ere r also passed in a gentle mental alienation which cb minued till he died tha the let of unhappily married is is large and brilliant it includes william beckford the author ol 01 va their who however dos does not seem to have deserved a happy life chosa enormous fortune and great tal talents ants were alike wasted L lady ly blessin blessington grollo who from being the widow of a penniless officer blazed as a lady bleesing blees inston ver london society eo cisty fizzled out assam after lord Blessing tons us death a had a fitful splendor once more aa as a leader of ofa a quail literary coterie and finally smashed up and an 1 went away to paris where she died suddenly she and count dorsay led a sort of matrimonial partnership tor for some years until the smashup smash up in london lord bolingbroke is is also quoted with propriety as an example of unhappy domestic experienced ee in bis his case however the faults were wre all on his side lie ile was absolutely without morality and almost without decency lor for he bragged to his wife of bis his early amours and successes till she was forced in in self defence to cloe close his mouth with an effective sarcasm ear jord lord lytton in in his own time was also unhappily though romantically married marrie d and a large part at least of the subsequent misery was due to bia his temper and conduct but perhaps full justice has not been done to tha the ill effects of tho the long and hard struggle m with ith poverty which he maintained with such success but with such cl constant labor during many years S among the disappointed men of 0 genius in may a y be mentioned buckle tha tho historian an of civilization henry fielding the novelist nov elisi edward gibbon the historian lord mansfield and in early life john wesley the case of gibbon bag has some satirical ea feature he lie fell in love with mile Cor corchon chod at lausanne switzerland and she listened I 1 he ays fays to he the voice of truth and passion and I 1 might presume to hope that I 1 bad had made some impression on a virtuous heart but on his h a return to england ha he found that his father would not consent to tho the match after a painful struggle 11 he says say 1 I yielded to my fate fat I 1 eigher as a lover I 1 obeyed raj as a son it may be d I 1 difficult to decide d cide without a doubt whether er his obe obedience di was due tol to piety or to weak nerves and a feeble pulsation the lady did quite as well for she married a distinguished man gibbons gibbous remanded rema nied all his life and devoted his time to his history finishing it at lausanne tho the scene of his youthful attachment charlea charles fores foxes private life was made somewhat objectionable by his having baving as his hie wife a mrs alre ormstead teai to whom ha he was not married for many years though finally they were united legally the marquis Alar quis of wellesley alao also made a mistake that lasted many years 5 ears in in marrying marry ing a french woman who had been his wife in nameon name only y for a long time no doubt it was the right thing to do but these ri tight I 1 t things are done so lata late that they al almost cease to be right and the mi misery 11 y they inflict is is always lasting and rea ll |