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Show Dorothy Dix Talks THE MISERLY HUSBAND The question that I am asked otten.r than any other Is thi What can I h with a tightwad hus- l-anil? i Ibavcn only knowj. I g;le up the conundrnm. it i could solve it. I would not only he a female Solomon, but the urrate.-t benefactoi that my sex has ever known, f r r tnere I- no other on.- thing that wrecks the matrimonial happiness of woman lhan larslmony. The first Urn- thai manv a romani: bride discovers that her idol has feet pi clay. Is when she has to reach for hU pockethook. and finds out that It has a Yale (ck on It that ii takes an expert burglar with a jimmy to pry open wide enough to cc-t a few pennies out of it. Most men. thank iod. are genefOU to their wives. Some are even too lavish, nd Siva their vlvcs mor- than thc- .an afford to a-lve them, but there la no denying thai there are a large number Of men who lUPpdrl their families grudgingly grudg-ingly ami who make their wives lives a ioiin.nl lo them through their stinginess. stingi-ness. These men never give their wives an allowance. The; have everything charged n bills on which Ihev keep an eagle , ., and when the first of the month arrives and the WIlB come In. there are BOSnes nnd itbrrrtS, and atus. and vituperation that frighten the jMjor wives half t.. death Thene nun a t as if their wives had eaten every particle of food on the grocery bill, and monopolized all the light and heat rerrescnled on the gn bill, and that the were responsible for the children wearing out their shoes, and getting sl. k and having to have the doctor. doc-tor. Why men. who arc not willing lo pay for the upkeep of a home and the neCSS-sar neCSS-sar expense? ,f a famil- n. . tr mat rled. Is a mystery. They do, how. er and their unfortunate wiv.-- irt ex p. t-ed t-ed to work miracles nnd set a good tabic ami present i;oii appearance without monn an.l aithoui cost: and when they fail to achieve the Impossible, they have to bear the brunt of their lord and ma.-ter'S ma.-ter'S agony at parting with what is dearer to him than his heart ble-od. In the end. a man has to pay the ab-BOhltsIV ab-BOhltsIV neccasarv household exnense. t",vr his family The law compels that, out; It Is amazing the number. of men who never give tnelr wives a cent to spend . they please, and for which they do not have to give an account I get hundreds of letters a year from women who tell me thai they have never had a -Viiiar of their own since they wen ' married. Some of them say thai their husband? are rich, and they have old mothers or sick slater: that .thej would I like- to help, but cannot. 'hers .ay i thai their hUSbandfl dress finch, but they have U) make their own clothes, and looi: BO shabby that their husbands are ss.'iHin- , ed to be seen out with Ihem. an.l all testify tes-tify to the humiliating and degradir.g , scenes they have to go through warn they ask for money. Vet these women all work In ;heii homes. They cook, and . lean and .- i u and BOW, patch and darn, and hunt bar- j rains, and rsise families and perform services so varied and great that it would cost a man hundreds of doliars a j month lo have done I substitutes. Il doesn't take long to run up a bill fori I household labor these days when competent compe-tent cooks gel from $20 a week up f.rv' WRsh-hldles demand JU.!-' a dav, and , trained nurses and habv specialists are w.iili thr-lr wrlgiit In gokT, on. I .am-f-tress, . nr.- marls of price. Tins makes uil the more unjust the i attitude rf the man who in common I parlan. . holds dot on his wife, and refuses re-fuses to give her the monev that sin '..a 'nrn.sl in his ov n kitchen and nursery, t a nothing of the higher obligations he har towards her aa her husband. But. as Mr Cleveland airily observed. "It Is the condition and not "the theorv thai Confronts.''' Here Is the mlserl-husband, mlserl-husband, and here is his defrauded wife. and she wants lo know how she cau .o about collecting whut is owed her. The best vvny to deal with a llgbi-, llgbi-, wad husband Is not to marrv him at all In plcl.lng out a husband, one of the things a girl should be surest about Is to see that she Isn't getting a stingy one. Observe how a young man reacts tO-' tO-' ward money. If be carries his pennies In a change 1 purse; If he haggles over every cent on bill: If be lets you pay your far . hen he meets you Oil the street mi- if he Is always so slow In getting out his pocket l ook that he lets smiebody else la the ; crowd pav ; If he carrUs a little book ; and puts down In It ever cen' he spends' ! pass him up. He will make one of the kind of husbands you have to chloroform before you pan him from th price of a hat. Then, a girl Is a frol who deserves all she ffeis. If she does not have- a defln..--money understanding with the man she marries before she marries him. ror-'l , ask a man If he Is sure he will always love vou and If he will never marrv if you die. Ask him now- much of his sal-I sal-I ary he think a man should give his M If-- to keep house in. and what are his view in regard to B wife's having her own Individual purse. Hul manv a man who is a lavish ! spender during his courtship, is a miserly I husband Many a man makes hi wife j pay In pinching economies after inar-I inar-I riage for the gifts and good times he sa.' her before marriage How Is such a vv .-.man to deal with her close-fisted apn:-,e ? Generally such a mans rrMe Is Ids weak spot He trusts to his wife's being be-ing ashamed to let other peoole know ROW niggardly he Is. nnd nine times out of ten his wife could make him come across beautifully by assuring him tha' she would go out an.l ge; n Job. even If she had lo cook In somebody else s kitchen rather than haggle with him over ever) peefny. instead of ceiling hmu.'- ii i. iii- . lotl.es. at th-- price c.f her lor -band's abuse, let her shame him by her shabblncss ard tell their friends thai hf refuses fo give her any dress money, nnd In will .save his face bv handing over a decent allowance, for no man wants to endgir the withering contempt we -ill feel for I he- stingy. If ihcs- tactics lad. i woman Is justified justi-fied In leaving a tightwad husband and g&lng 10 work for those who w-:li reward her services wltk a pay envelope. She has everything to gain, anil nothing to lose by so doing.' for the hardest work, and the worst paid in the world, is working a tight-wad husband |