Show this is BO often DIVORCE called a progressive age tho world is claimed to be striding along with prodigious leaps nature and her elements are mastered by the ingenuity of ohp human mind and the three kingdoms bare been made to yield their stubbornness and become pliable and plastic in the band of man but while the human race has made such advances in the material line and has improved ha intellectual forces be moral part has AC arcely been adequately developing we havo frequently nd occasion in these columns to refer it the deplorable increase of divorces in all civilized countries A recent article in the north american on divorce in new england arc heuts statistics which show that during the fast ten years tho ratio of divorces to marriages has been steadily on the increase imperfect and in completo as abee statistics may be it is certain that there is an alarming frequency of divorces in the whole country with a liberal allowance for the ejects of grounds of divorce which have been incorporated in the las the incontrovertible truth remains that our co biety Is gradually producing a greater proportion of men unfit to be hus bands and a greater proportion of women unfit to be wives the social position of divorced parties is not always slated but they are generally found to belong to alio so called better class of society who toil in the sweat of their brows for their livelihood are seldom troubled with domestic unhappiness at least they do not get further than the police court poverty makes more sympathy among the lowly than riches can ever produce the hard notion of life renders the small broils and jars of domestic differences imperceptible while higher up in the social scale the incompatibilities be come more frequent and galling and here must be sought and will bo found the causes which lie at the bottom of the domestic degeneracy chief among these causes is the family training of the count rys boys and girls parents and children are alike ambitious and the result is that tho education ef the youth is made to suba erye the single aim of getting ahead in life boys are net taught the larger duties and responsibilities ties the honorable discharge of which is the crown aej glory of their manhood their intellect is crammed and crowded to the utmost limit and with the stock of knowledge they are able to acquire from schools they are expected to bo sharp enough to take care of their own interests there is m time to give the cultivation of the domestic side of their education the sweet influence of congenial home life do not breathe around their young hearts the development of their domestic disposition ia expected to or other meantime inlaw ait biair i cope with tho world without even being taught the all important truth that upon themselves depends the serious duty of fashioning the corll As men they are aberge to fice and their selfish natures only to extrema necessities to them proves ft restraint instead of a happiness happi nesa yoke of trouble instead of a crown of bliss and if both eartte are equally selfish tho restraint becomes intolerable A life of pleasurable scalf sacrifice id what they need to bo taught they have never bestowed a thought oa how to make themselves good husbands and father and but too frequently they to learn after marriage still more defective however is the education of girk although woman liaa by tap the larger share in ordering and shaping domestic li f gatli are educated as if they had to take no lot or sharo sn it the average girl expects to marry not on account of duties and ress ties devolving from that state but ou account of the social iberry and freedom which she hopes to that end the is instructed ted in alio which make her lucht attractive to the sterner seit and her intellectual faculties are cultivated to great an extent as tho naces ity for mere attainments md adornment will permit the future wife and mother never dreama it qualifying herself for tho grave lutica of wifehood and motherhood there is not the gentle companions ship that ought to connect her whole existence with her mother tho young people have an existence apart from the elder circle which hey eventually expect to enter and he example of home i systematical y disregarded and often despised by the future of horns tho average girl s motive is to catch a husband first and turn her attention to learning how to make homo happy at forward if ever cut khe lias biown up more than she had imagined and elio often finds that he hai undertaken a difficult task and makes no prolonged tort to master it finding herself ignorant of almost everything he ought to know aha shirks her wifely duly and content heysell with being a burden instead of a support to her husband hence arises the but loo common story of domestic incompatibility instead of mutual forbearance there is bickering faultfinding fault finding and litter feelings until a gulf is made between the two who wore once united to be one flesh and one soul too wide for angels to crow coldness of ake wife cruelty or abandonment by the husband ensues in alow but etc idy I degrees until the affair ends before courts it i thi s that demor alues and lecou pones modern society more than ny other factor and it also to the inadequacy and of monogamy J f the present tate of things is allowed to continue a complete disintegration of society aul wul taki alce |