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Show m Jorothy Dix Talks fl TRIAL DIVORCE M By DOROTHY DIX. the World's Highest Paid Y..r.nn Writer BH (Copyright. 1920 by The Wheeler Syn- BBBJ dlcaie, B We-were discussing the case of the JK v.ith much laundering of soiled linen and who re n - Jlnl "It is very common for people who BBl have divorced each other to ie-iiiarry,' BlB said a famous lawyer, "anil It would kS occur still oftencr except for the mor- KBa bid dread most men and women have M of appearing ridiculous. toy think KBl their trlond would laugh at them If BH they went sneaking back Into the same matrimonii. 1 fol.; oni ot which they -ewH s broken with r jB 'l am convinced that the feelings BBa that bring a young couple together jBj and thut Is "made up of the dree Till E&BM,' and faith and romance and high hope nB of youth makes a bund between them i '-L thai never quite br ilea it may wear piMty thin and k' frazzled In fAw places, but you c-.m 'h It up so B thai n will hold to tho end. an ertaln that when the average husbund ami wife quarrel and - . t ji fell out the are nol ree llj i "' oi love BB with each other, as they think they BBJ are. They ar. merely tired of each BJV other. They have gotten on each oth- BBj or's nerves Instead of each other's BBj hearts, and what they need la a lem-ftiml lem-ftiml pornry separation Instead of a perma- Bl rent divorce BB "So when a wife comes and bedews BB the end of my desk with her tears. BB and tolls me how cruel her husband Is VfM to nor. and how he neglects her. nnd 'Jt how she suspects that yellow-headed. A itenographer oi hi -. I hough fM goodness knows what anybody can see jjH In thai inudf-up creature passes her jH cornj-i ehcnsiun. and w ill I please get her a divorce from the brute. BM "And w hen a p-ile. grim -i'.h i-d man Bg afrks me to apply lor a dlvorco for Am n .i wife whose nagging and BJ ft citing he can no longer endure, and BJ who admits. Under oro? examination. BJ U it he does think he would be hap- Bj pier with a younger woman, whv. I '"Certainly. I think it would be W highly Unmoral for two paopls to con- Bl tlnuo to live together who feel towards euch other as you do. I will take the Ht eeure but only upon the condition that , ear, and hold no 7 Qpmmunlcatlon. cither by speech or letter with one another. You must do Ji Just as I eay, and if at the end of the ' ai you still wanl the divorce l vein BjT arrange the matter as quickly ami J With us little publicity as possible.' B "Then. If the husband is rich. I send H T the wife to Honolulu or Japan for a H by, year, and I see that she does not get K nearly as much money to spend as she has been In he habit of having. If the husband is a poor man I send tho wife back to live on her own people, ( one she gets only the small amount; of money thnt she would have as alimony ali-mony from a divorced husband earning earn-ing the salary he does. "Nine times out of ten before the year Is over the warring ooupla have mcde up their difference nnd have! taken their household goods out of siorage and set up a new home, which; K uorally Is a happy one for they have 6 had a lesson that they are not likely g to forget. 'There, are many reasons why people peo-ple who get divorced In huste repent ' leisure, and would like to have their ' erees absolutely nullified if they could. Of course the main reason Is the children. Almost any kind of a father and mother are better than none at all. and no man ran listen to1 his babe's cry for Its mother, and n "A mother realizes her boy's need of ai father, without r. .-ling that they had ; jef belter have stood anything than or-' f- i haned their children. , 'Then absence draws a sponge over a 'ho peculiarities and faults In othersl L that Irritate. 1 us. We forget the little I i'l'1 Ihut aggravated us. and remem- t bi r only th.' kind and gentle things,! jm wc remember only the good of the IB dead. yL "The man who had thought, himself Bjpj to l. at h with done It y. ., nl WW 'ho had pined for freedom from mat -I .rlrnOhy, finds out that marriage has ; t Mined him tor tho gay life After a month of club cooking his digestion :s on tho bum, and ho pines for homo-made homo-made bread, nnd somebody to worry over him when he has the headache. And he ascertains that thore Is no particular par-ticular fun in staying out late w hen nobody cares whether you do or not. "And he's scared to death at tho thought of having to marry the affinity af-finity that he thought he wanted to marry when he knew he couldn't marry her. "As for the woman; she also makes a few wholesome discoveries. One is, that her own people, who urged her not to stand her husband's treatment, i'nd egged her on to tne divorce court, turn a cold BUOUldoi to her when she takes their ndvlic and comes home to them to b(. supported They were lavish wttn their pity, but wh D .t comes to dividing their money with her. that's another story. "Likewise, the woman finds out that I If matrimony is no picnic, divorce Is no elysium The divorced woman hus no such settled place In society as has the married woman at the head oi her own establishment She Is neither maid, wife, nor widow, yet she hus the privileges of none. And anyway, a man Is a handy thing to have mound the house, especially about the first oi the month. Also freedom when coupled with the freedom to make your own living, n'l what It Is cracked crack-ed up to be. "For there and a million other reasons, rea-sons, most men and women regret the divorce they have rushed Into In tl.e , l.eat of anger. And they would gladly I go brick to tho one whose faijlts they know, rather than get accustomed to a j brand new set of peculiarities In a stranger, if they had the nerve to face their friends' laughter. "And that Is why i advise all vvar- rlng couples to try a year's absence cure before they go to a' lawyer. Rail-1 jroad tickets are cheaper than divorce And If S3 messy." Ioroth Dlx articles appear regu-i larlv in this paper every Monday.! Wednesday and Friday. |