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Show J :i I Dorothy Dix Talks I kl Playing the Game. 1 r D?K0THT di' mebest Paid mnmn WrSte 2 J '"The. trouble with you women is J 1 ' that, as a sex, you haven't got a drop II M of sporting blood Jn your veins," said 3 "9 a man the other day. "You are gamb- s& jers at life without the gambler's merit 1 of nerve and pluck to stand by your "f I own best bet You plunge and then SJ j weloh when luck goes against; you. H 9 j "You don't play the game fairly and Wc squarely, and that's why so many of & Jr you fail all along the line. Hi T "It's your worst handicap In busl- gki I noss and why no man wants to do j business with you If he can avoid it. 11 He's afraid of you. A man goes Into """a I a deal with another man. If it turns j out prosperously, well and good If it $ fails, the other man shrugs his shoul- ij dors. He took a sporting chance and he lost, and that's an end of It, He never dreams of holding anybody else responsible for It. "But if you go Into a business. deal ; with a woman and it fails, she consld- 2' ers you a robber and a thief to the U end of the chapter. She would have (j gladly shared in the profits had the 9 venture succeeded, but when It comes 1 j to paying her part of the loss, she re- ncges. 'mars wny mates are porsona 2 - non grata around respectable stock I brokerages. X "Personally, I often have It in myj I " power to help my women friends to 9 ' niako little deals that would net them 1 much-needed pin money, but I don't 5 - - dare do it. I could say to Brown, 'Say, c ' old man, P. Dr Q. looks mighty good to me. I happen to have some inside information that It is making monev . J; , hand over fist, and the dividend is 2 going to be increased.' "Brown would know that I was glv- r ing him the best advice I had in the I shop and he would take it or leave it, I l as his own judgment dictated, and t whether he made or lost would never i 'Ad hold m0 resDnsible. But I couldn't ylsa saj' lat t0 ary Brown because if by i&JIhH any Psslble chance my tip turned out kJalsBn wroncr and she lost her mnnov sho ! would always believe that I was a deep, designing villain who lured her into making a bad investment for my own nefarious ends. "And I find the same fault with my women employes. They are 'not sporting,' sport-ing,' either, as our English friends say. They want a man's chance In the business busi-ness world and a man's pay, and they don't want to be treated like a man. They want you to always remember that they are ladles instead of just cogs in a big machine for grinding out dollars, which is all that any busi-"Ono busi-"Ono of the chief reasons that women wom-en so seldom rise to high places in business houses Is not their lack of ability, but because they have not j$Ejtt enough sporting blood to stand the punishment by which a young man gets mauled into the shape In which he is most useful. By that I mean that when I get hold of a promising boy, I go after him with a sledge-hammer ?ymStomfak.e8i m,8takea or shows anv D,S f Taess, and If there la bSt wSLnah ,n h,m h0 doesn,t sulk. mon' ",11-eventUalI' Is orth good ra?5 to himself and the firm. that !h A IV, teU ray "tQnographer inS fo u 8 ballIng up busInoBB by com-t com-t WOrk an hour later. or that J ebster to her peculiar personal va- Znl a ,buslnos3 house to send out bursts mto tears and sobs out that I sh? wtreat ,n ,poor working girl as If sue was a lady. "It's easier on the nerves to fire an Incompetent girl than to stand for her wounded feelings while you are trvlng to teach her, and that's where "the joung business woman loses out through not having the sporting spirit one of the moBt valuable assets that her brother has. "And it's women's lack of gameness tnats at the bottom of half of the domestic do-mestic misery in the world. Statistics snow that more than three-fourths of uie divorces are asked for by women, lnls Is not because men make so much worse husbands than women make wives, but because the average man is a pretty good loser, and the average woman is a bad loser. "There are just aB many men who have made fatal mistakes In their choice of a life partner as there are women. There are just as manv men married to women who do not understand under-stand them, women who make their lives unbearable by temper or nagging, nag-ging, women who are lazy and shiftless shift-less and extravagant, as there are women married to men who are brutes, but the man generally shuts his teeth on his misery and bears it, while the woman tells her troubles to all who will listen or goes with them to tho divorce court. "And look nt tha . .mj nuuiCll JJlllll&O into matrimony, and the way they back out of their bargains when they get just exactly what was coming to them I There are the women who fall in love with poor men and who marrv them knowing perfectly well how little the men earn. But Is such a woman game enough to accept her man on the plane on which she married him and go cheerfully to work to do her own cooking and housework and be perfectly happy though wearing a last year's suit and riding In the street cars? "Not once In a blue moon. She frets and fumes because she can't have Paris gowns and motor cars like her rich acquaintances have, and nags the poor fellow because he doesn't know how to make money, which is playing the matrimonial game pretty low down, in my opinion. "Consider also tho women who deliberately de-liberately pick out drunkards for husbands hus-bands and then consider thRinsfllvpR poor, persecuted martyrs when their spouses come home intoxicated. If I j were a woman who married a man whom I know drank, I'd be sport enough nover to say a word to him in reproach, and I'd spend my time applying apply-ing wet cloths to his fovered brow and mixing him bromo-seltzers. "And there are the women who are married to good, ordinary fellows, the sort of men who are working like slaves, trying to do tho very best that Is In them for their famine's, but who have all the heart and courage In them tnken out by the ceaseless complaints and whines of their wives over the j hardships of their lives. Theso women could change their husbands from failure to success, and their homes from places of torment and gloom to sunshine and happiness If they only had enough spirit to buck up and take l a fighting chance at life. J "Of course there are exceptions to all rules. There are many women I who are game to the core; women who take their chance and lose and pay; women who marry worthless blackguards black-guards and stand by them to the bitter end without a complaint ever crossing their lips. "And when you find a woman like this with sporting blood in her veins you have found tho superwoman." oo |