Show THE GIVE AND TAICE TA OF MARRIED LIFE H Happiness Secured Only by Concession By CHARLES DV DWYER YER NE of my mv old friends who I Il ONE O l looks at life through a vista of fortunate years says in a postscript to a recent letter Most lost of oC us in ill this world arc plain folk who lio dont figure in hi high h society or high finance an and who Wilo dont take tak much stock in hI the ideas about written I suspect by persons who never neer knew r real al home life The whole question of satis atis satisfactory factor factory living is the preservation and betterment of this timis home life which is also time the basis of all ll good government And this home hue ought to be tile the supreme business of time the marriage part No partnership can succeed when time the partners rs are forever stand standing standing ing on their rights and forgetting that their duty is to et alon along together I if f husband and wIfe would each give ie a little amid take a little instead of wearing out their nerves on rights they would make themselves happier and the world orld better Ife He says he speaks for and I his wife after more titan than thirty years of comfort and content and he wants to enlarge on his point and keep at it as a kind of antidote to the general out outbreak outbreak break of the literature of mad tal un an unrest rest and divorce extravagance A Evil It is one of oC the worst of our times that the bad gets most of time the space in current publicity Very few ew of our people arc md yet one figures more in print and co conversation titan than a honest men and women Divorces are increasing at an alarming rate and our divorce laws arc a national reproach but for eer every divorce there are arc scores of husbands and lid wives whose domestic his history history tory does docs not go yon the threshold In Iii most of these there is happiness but in man of them time the counsel of our friend may be every where here the insistent word should be bespoken bespoken spoken in type and pulpit against time the tendency of the times to turn the mar marriage relation into a debate A century I ago a good goad man laid down this rule which has been true from time the begin beginning ning iming and which will remain true to time the end The first quarrel that goes the length of an any harsh or contemptuous language is an unfortunate epoch in married life for that time the delicate re rc respectfulness bein thus once broken down th time same kind of language much more cas easily J comes afterward There is isa isa a feeling of having to 0 than be before before fore One of the finest couples I know have quick tempers Front From the first they real realized realized their weakness and saw sa the dan daner danger ger er So they tile faced tile the problem candid candidly candidI I ly Titus Thus it happened that when one grew rew angry time the other oilier remained silent Once they grew angry at time the same sante time me and their efforts to control themselves each for the sake of the other were so grotesque that they laughter is the best cure in the family medicine chest Frequently one of the partners has more temper titan than the other acute dif differences differences follow unless there is is wise management of resources and right here is time the opportunity to remember that time the highest exercise of charity is is charity toward time the uncharitable Time The vry V biggest that mar married ned ried persons make is to think that their friends will help them in their troubles with each other The man or woman who goes away from home for sympathy th thy finds sorrow and brings back regret What tho ServIce Moans MOAn Frequently I have been asked about time the wording of the marriage service time the same old questions that come so reg regularly regularly to preachers and parents and edt edi editors tors No wordin can possibly cover or exaggerate or affect the th sacredness of this timis contract No marriage service rice I have seen and I have read most of presses all that is involved in the cere ceremony ceremony mony For instance this might be added front from one of our master writers Two persons who have chosen each other out of all the species with a design to tobe tobe be each others mutual comfort and en entertainment have hae in that action bound themselves les to be affable discreet forgiving patient and joyful with respect to each others frailties and perfections to time the end of their natural lives Gl Giro o and Teko There W was a time when the rule was so necessary in inthe time the home Our mo ern civilization invents a ne new worry each day feelis s and conditions are swift and amid quick it IS all too cas easy to get out of joint and inflict your nervous nervousness ness on your partner But dont do it itA it itA A little thought a little patience a little don dont cost anything and the they bring v at millions C cannot buy |