Show I Dorothy Drothy Dix s 's Letter Box I ICAN CAN A MAN CHANGE A WOMANS WOMAN'S CHARACTER AFTER MARRIAGE TWO MARRIAGE TWO DISGRUNTLED WIVES WHOSE MONEY- MONEY MONEYMAKING MONEYMAKING MAKING MAI INQ HUSBANDS GIVE THEM CHECKS INSTEAD OF ATTENTION HOW HOW A GIRLS GIRL'S REPUTATION IS EASILY LOST DEAR D MISS DIX Should DIX Should a a. man marry a woman hoping to change her h r habits pet pleasures likes and dislikes Should a a. man who likes Ikes all the fine tine and good things of o life lire and who wants a wholesome happy and sane life companion marry a 0 ide- ide frivolous frivolous olous woman HAMILTON Ftp a. a Not unless he has enough sporting porting i blood to be willing wilting to take a thousand e to-one to shot at happiness About once In that often marriage 4 does change II a butterfly b Into a it grub a spendthrift Into a saver a Into the by but the miracle le k y happens so Infrequently that no man has haa a right to expect that it will be worked In his behalf 4 z 1 Moreover It is a a. miracle that Is la only worked under certain conditions There aro arc girls who are the victims of ot their environment DOROTHY HV DIX OIX and who have within them latent possibilities of ot good that do not appear upon tho the surface Sometimes a girl is the victim of o her mothers mother's social ambitious ambitions Sho She herself would prefer a a. quiet qui pt simple sane life but her mother is so 80 anxious for her to be In lu the forefront of o everything that she over over- overdresses overdresses overdresses dresses the girl and anel pushes her into a it fast and jazzy set That kind kindo of o a girl is glad after she sho is married to settle down clown and be 30 domestic and thrifty and a good wife and mother So In trying to determine whether you can change a girl after marriage Into adopting your own point of view look well to her mother and ezo how much she is under mother mothers Influence tJ VJ Also bear this in mind that whether you can call change a a. girl or not depends largely upon how much Intelligence she has If I she he has hn plenty of brains she Is open to argument and amenable to reason and can be Interested In new things but buta a fool Is hopeless The duller and more stupid a woman Is Is the more adamant she Is the more conceited she Is the themore themore themore more certain she Is Is' that she knows It all and hers is the only possible point of view And of ot course marriage does not change an Ignorant girl into an intelligent companion The girl girt who has never neer read anything before marriage will not read after marriage simply because books mean nothing in her life Generally speaking by the time a girl Is 19 or 20 years old old she he has formed the tastes and habits that she will car carry ry through life and her sympathies and Interests have about v reached their normal growth If It she Is clothes mad and pleasure-mad pleasure if It she sloe wants to dance alt all night and is never satisfied to stay at home homo of an e If It she Is selfish and Inconsiderate o ot of every every one else If H she sloe Is determined to have her way at every cost if H sloe bho Is peevish and fretful and nag nag- nagging ging then there Is Just about as much chance of o changing her loer as there Is of o a leopard changing ch his Ills spots As she sloe Is she will sill v. v 11 be as I long as she Hies lit 11 cx s. s But why marry a girl that you dont don't like on the off- off chance that you will be able to alter her character Why not net pick out the sort of or a wife you want to begin with There are thousands of girls who could fill III your bill of specifications DOROTHY DIX 5 S S C CD EAR DOROTHY DIX We DIX We are two young oung married women with DEAR DEAn D seemingly indulgent husbands Wo We have good homes and plenty of ot money but what we want most we dont don't have and that Is our husbands They are entirely absorbed In fn business with no time to talk to us or to take us to places not even lime time enough to come como home to dinner They rhey say that they are working now so that we will vilL have plenty to enjoy life with wHit when we wc are arc old but what shall we do while we Vc are waiting to grow old We are whipped and we dont don't know what to do LONESOME LO IE ESO WIVES Answer The main thing to do is is- isto is to kep koep k ep yourselves steady teady and not let your just resentment against your jour our husbands' husbands neglect drive you Into flirtations with veth men who are eternally en on the lookout for pretty young wives In your positions For Tor these snakes in the grass are always banging hanging around ready to whisper words of or comfort and sympathy Into the ears of or any dis etis- disgruntled disgruntled Eve and it certainly Is a I. I temptation to listen to them and arill to be assured that even if It ones one's own husband has loss forgotten one is alive there aro plenty of ot more appreciative gentlemen men who arc no blind to her charms charras Probably It was oly o ly after Adam had gotten absorbed in some other pastime than telling our first mother how wonderful and beautiful she was that the serpent s got In his dirty work And Its It's been the tho same way ever since Whenever husband gets too busy to notice wille some other man begins And Aud because Is peeved she listens And the story still ends the same sams sam way too for dont don't forget that Mother Eves Eve's dalliance with the fascinating stran stran- stranger stranger ger with the peppy line lost her home and her meal ticket But what fools husbands are when they let their bust bud bustness busIness ness absorb them to the exclusion of their wives I What poor Judges of value they are when they give so much for so litte little for they are trading off the whole happiness of their lives for fora a few miserable dollars I often orten wonder what men think their wives are made of ot when hen they treat them as liS your husbands are arc treating you Do they think you are aro dolls that they can dress dres up and that will be content fO o stay put lout In Ina a a chair In a n parlor Do they think that you do not require anything but food rood and clothes and a car to ride around in and money to spend Dont Don't they know that women have to have companionship that they have to have love that they have to have havo Interest Do they never fear the thc other men who may come along alona and give their wives the sympathy and understanding that they re refuse re- re refuse fuse them Ono One of ot the main reasons why there arc so many unhappy marriages Is because men are so taken up with the game of o making money nooney that they have ha no time lIme nor interest to give their wives and so the two drill dritt apart and by the time tho husband has made his fortune are Straus Straus- era to each other oilier with not a thought nor an nn Interest in common Let us hope that your husbands will realize their mistake before It Is too late and give you less money and more Inore of themselves DOROTHY DOROTHY DIX S C I I C C flEAR MISS DIX DIX My My employer is a a. man of ot 32 32 married and very at at- nt- nt DEAR LI e. e I am ano 19 and also attractive Occasionally he be takes me mo home bome in his car The other day a a. married man asked mo rise to co so out with him and when hen I refused he ho said hats the You so go out with jour our boss That made noade me mo angry although Ill I'll admit he lie has asked jIlo mo a number of ot times limes giving the theold old alibi of ot not being able to get along with his lois wife etc but hut when I answer er in a businesslike manner he ho doesn't bother me any more What shall I do PEGGY rEGGY Answer Quit goIng with your boss That's the way to prevent getting the reputation of the sort of a girl who runs around with mar- mar marrIed ned rIed men It isn't lint enough just to BE good Peggy A girl has hu hasto huto hasto to LOOK LOOP good and ACT good DOROTHY DIX Copyright t by Public Ledger |