Show Dorothy Dixs Dix's Letter Box Bo HOW TO DEAL WITH A TYRANT HUSBAND WHY IT IS UNFAIR FOR YOUNG WIVES TO PUT THEIR MOTHERS BEFORE THEIR HUSBANDS SHOULD STRAPPING MR six FEET MARRY LITTLE MISS FIVE FEET TALL flEAR MISS ISS DIX DIX I I have been married less leu than a a. year nar At the time DEAR I of my ray marriage I had bad my home partly paid and nicely furnished and a 1 new ne car paid for tor I am a good housekeeper cook etc etc and try in every way to please my husband When i wo we married my husband simply hung up his hat bat hatin hatIn batIn in my house bouse as the tho saying goes but he grum grum- grumbles grumbles grumbles bles continually about the expense of the home never wants me to take my car out unless he heis heIs heis is along never wants me mo to go down town to n without his consent has bas never neer bought me mo a II r rag of ot clothes does not allow me to spend as a's ho spends for and drinks At the I time of my marriage I bad had money In the sav say savings savIngs sayings ings but In the short time timo I have been mar mar- married rind ried I 1 have spent around 1000 In the upkeep of ot the home and car clothes and doctors' doctors bills If It I continue this way In another year I wont won't have a cent of my own then what will I do doMy do My husband Isn't even honest and truthful with mo me and what Is 13 marriage without faith S M. M MH H. H DOROTHY DIX Answer I should think that the only thing for you to do would be to ta leave while the leaving Is good and before there are Ire any children to complicate the situation Such a marriage as al yours Is Ia no marriage at all U 1 Is II peon peon- age You are not a wife You are a slave clave You are a poor simp who has haa been taken In and robbed In a confidence game and the sooner you get out of It with what little you have left tha th better for you I never hoard beard of ot such a a. ridiculously unequal bargain as you have made Consider it You furnish the home Your husband begrudges the upkeep of it He wont won't even supply the tho money to buy the food he eats himself You own a 3 car that you ou bought and paid for yourself He dictates to you about abou when you shall ride in It and forbids you to ride in it when he is not along You are a mature sensible woman oman He demands that you ask his consent to go down town Such colossal nerve Is monumental It Is la grotesque It 1 is II something to laugh over but It II Is also something to flee from because 1 If f you dont don't It t. t will wiH get get you ou if i you ou don't dont d. d nt watch toh out out cut a ineer over so that they get so cowed that they are afraid even evento evento evento to make a fight tight for their liberty Marriage l is a partnership In which a a. man m n and aad a a. woman go fifty- fifty fifty tifty on every proposition At least they should go fifty fifty-fifty and every woman noman has a tl right to demand that her husband give her a square deal and if he doesn't she has a right to withdraw from the firm just as any man can would withdraw from tron a business partnership In which he saw that he was being cheated Evidently your husband does don not love you or he would not treat you as he does so what profit Is II there to you In making all of these sacrifices for a man who simply regards you as an unpaid servant There can bs ba b no happiness for you ln uch an art arrangement nt S SIf If you ou submit now no you ou will become more and more mor a household drudge You will find yourself with fewer and fewer liberties You will grow shabbier and shabbier and when hen he has taken all of ot your our prop prop- property property property erty from you ou and you OU have gotten out of the way of making a living for yourself you will find it more mora and more impossible to rebel My Ily advice to you Is to have a showdown with your hus hue band Put all of your cards on the table tabie and tell him that If he wont won't play a fair game here Is where you throw down your hand and quit DOROTHY DIX S DEAR HEAR flEAR DOROTHY DIX I DIX I am a young man married to the most ador- ador adorable adorable I able girl in the the world orld but my problem is that of the man nan whose wife sacrifices him to her mother molher For Tor Instance I come home on Friday nights with plans for a week-end week trip triO but they all go If it my wife has a date data with mother Or wife leaves lea me to walk alk the couple of miles home from the station at night because she is taking mother out riding All little things but It is mother first and it is the fly lIy in my ointment what do to WORRIED HUSBAND Answer A very wise woman once said to me that when her daugh daughters got oot married she gave them her blessing and said to them Remember that your husband comes mes first with you now and not mother It Is his wishes you must consult It Is I his hll ad ad- advice advice advice vice you must ask It Is Ia It his opinions you must mutt be guided by not mine Go to your new home now and be a good wife and dont don't come running back to mother too often I have often thought that if it more mothers would brace their the daugh daugh- daughters daughters up with the same ame counsel there would be fewer unhappy marriages and the divorce courts wouldn't wouldn't- be kept so busy bus it Is not in a young husbands husband's nature not to be jealous of his lIs mother law when he sees that his wife fe puts her before him and considers her pleas pleasure ure tire before his own Lifelong LUelon antagonism and family quarrels and estrangements grow out of this situation which is both tragic and pathetic because its re re- results results re- re suits are so fata fatal and its ita causes so trivial trl For It Isn't that the young wife really rosily loves lovel her mother better than she ahe does her husband Its It's Just because she has the lifelong habit of looking up to mother and considering her an oracle and obeying her while her husband Is In her own class clan and she treats him as an equal Instead of a superior Also Alao by being extra nice to mother she sho Is trying to atone to her for having left her The trouble Is that the bride needs the wisdom Idom and the tact and the experience of 60 while she has only the foolishness of the flapper This being the case the mother should have enough sense to efface herself and to teach her daughter how to handle her husband And the cardi cardl cardinal nal point In that Is not to wound his self So If It mother were unselfish as mothers seldom are about their she would say to her daughter Love me my dear but dont don't rub It In on your husband Dont Don't rouse his Jealousy Make him always realize that you care for him more than you do for anybody else Pay me attentions but do not let iet them conflict with doing anything for him Break any date you like with me I will always under under- understand stand but your husband wont Play with your our husband for In that way you OU will keep him as a comrade Fall in with all of hit his plans If It you want to keep him as a chum Never be a spoil And above all for tor his sake and for my sake because I want to keep friends with him bins never say sa Mother Iother says saya we should do so and so or Mother Iother doesn't approve of this or that The reason why half the sons law In the world hate their thel in mothers Is because their wives throw them In their teeth until they get fed up on them If you try to tell your wife Ife those thole things Worried Husband she will probably resent It but perhaps she will read these then lines and they will give her a tip Anyway If she wants to keep keen you I advise her to paste this motto upon her mirror first DOROTHY DIX DEAR HEAR flEAR MISS DIX DIX I I am a man 6 feet and 1 Inch tall and weigh U a pounds I am very cry much in love loe with a girl who Is 5 fe feet t 1 Inch inco tall tali talland talland and weighs ninety five pounds She is everything I would wish in a wife and we aro are well ell s suited to each other in every respect except that we weare weare weare are not matched physically Does that make any difference DOUBTFUL 4 Answer Goodness me no You dont don't pick out a wife by her size site Besides nearly neary all big men have a weakness for little women They prefer the pocket Venus to the Amazon and precious things you know come put up In n small packages DOROTHY 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