Show Dorothy Dix Talks f IF YOU WANT YOUR YOUR CHILDREN TO RESPECT AND LOVE YOU AND NOT WAIT FOR YOUR DEATH HELP THEM t WHEN THEY ARE YOUNG AND NEED IT IT- IT I BUT DONT DON'T GIVE E THEM ALL YOU OU HAVE J DON'TS HAj SAYS DOROTHY D DIX THE THE IE otto ono thing thins that fathers and mothers seldom achieve Is moderation There seems to be something about parenthood that drives It tt to extremes and makes it cither either too hard or too soft sort too rigid or too lar too neglectful or too smothering We Ve all aI know iy l Parents who spoil their children to death and r other parents who treat children as If it they were ere Inflictions wished on them by an In In- Inscrutable s. s ble Providence We Ye know parents who I. I 2 f try to keep their children In perpetual lead leading ing log strings and others who show their children nd out of ot the home nest neat as ns soon as possible We lic E know parents who make doormats of themselves I for their children and other ether parents who en enslave slave sIne their children Indeed so seldom do parents ap appear apr r pear able to hit the happy medium In dealing dealina with their children that there thereS S v seems to be no middle ground around with b y them between making a girl come home at 11 o'clock at night from a i S party and staying out all night or bs- bs bl t DOROTHY DORTHY DIX tween letting a boy have the family t flivver once a week to take his hie girl t tout out and sending him off oft to college In a powered high sports spots car J NOW IOV Mow there is the matter of money for instance and the question of ot 11 It how much parents should help their children when they are starting i out In life lire On the one hand there are those fathers and mothers mother who 1 Impoverish themselves for their children and on the tho other the tightwad parents who keep every penny gripped in their hard hud old hands until t. t death loosens their clutch upon it ft f r 1 l I There is no folly greater than that of the parents who wha turn turnover turnover I over all ail of their th lr property to their children on the un un- understanding understanding that John and Mary will cherish their dear clear old father lather and mother and anti provide for them as long as they live I All of us have seen this done and all oil of us have seen pathetic I old men and women who were unwelcome guests guest In the very A i houses house that they had given their children I r WE WE HAVE lIA YE seen father scorned his opinions derided his presence un un unwanted I TV wanted in the offices of the business that W that had built up and had i turned over to the boys We Ye have hav seen mother reduced to the status of ot servant senant and living in the poorest room rooe of the house that she abs had hall owned and that she bestowed upon her h r daughter when she married I f. f Human nature being what it is ia the one Infallible way of assuring respectful and considerate treatment In your old age even from your own children Is to o swing ewing on to your pocket pocket- pocketbook pocketbook book and make It worth while for people to be polite to you I BETWEEN father and mother who have nothing more to give out ot of otO ofU O U whom every cent has been squeezed and between father and moth mother er or who still have haye their money and who are the source from which flows a beneficent bene cent stream ot of never ending gifts and help there is 18 a great gulf fixed But while It is utter senility for parents to rob themselves of everything they have to give to their children It Is nothing but colossal selfishness In parents to refuse all help to their children and not to give them anything S All of us know cases cas s In which rich fathers and mothers themselves living In luxury look on apparently unmoved by the sufferings of their children who are struggling with dire poverty ty that Is made all au the harder for them because they have been plunged from the ease and softness In they were reared Into a penury for which they were unprepared by tastes and habits I HAVE HA YE seen the girls of oC such families married to poor young men seen who 1 I I were striving to get a start in life lite lose their youth and beauty and have their health permanently wrecked through having bavins to do the cook cook- cookIng cookIng cookIng Ing and washing and tending baby for their families Yet their fathers fathers' withheld the assistance that would have averted the tragedy I have seen the boys of at such families es have to lo put off oft marriage until almost middle age and until all the finest flower of ot their romance was lost through waiting because father would not help them get a start in business or buy them a little home S SAnd And It always seems to me as strange and unnatural a athing athing thing for the parents to do as it would be for them then to sit at a table laden with a sumptuous dinner while their children gnawed upon a piece of dry bread in a corner TIlE THE THE parents justify themselves by saying that they are doing this for Cor Corthe forI 1 I the childrens children's good that they are hardening them that the way way- to make men and women of them is to make them stand on their own feet teet And to a certain extent this is true Certainly to give to wasters and spenders and to support lazy loafers and furnish the money to for their dissipations is to encourage them in their vices Ices Their one hope ot of salvation is to be forced to work or starve But there Is no excuse for parents par not helping the te children who are doing their part put and to whom a little money would bring brin so much happiness and turn the years that are drear and drab Into sunshine and roses but a woman can know what it means to a girl to be given givena 1 a dowry when she marries some money of oC her very own that she can spend spen as she pleases for the little comforts and luxuries that perhaps her husband cannot afford to give her Nobody but a woman knows the humiliation it saves sa a wife not to have havo to go like a beggar to her husband for tor every cent and nobody but a woman knows how much more respect a husband has for a wife who ho hits has something of her own who is independent I Of course If a man has Industry and ability he will suc sue succeed succeed t in the end but It Is at the cost of years of self self denial denial for himself and his wife and children that only too often turn him Into nothing but a drudge with all capacity for enjoyment gone Why should not a father save his son this If he can by buying him an Interest in the business or settling upon him an Income i that will make him comfortable I IS Is IT any wonder vonder that children who know now that their parents could so soI I easily make life lite pleasant and easy for them resent their not doing so Is it any wonder that the children of such parents look forward I with joyful anticipation to the reading of their fathers' fathers and mothers' mothers wills 7 The moral of all of which Is that if you wish your children to respect you and love you and not to want you to die help them along when they are young youn and need help but dont don't give them everything you have DOROTHY DIX Copyright by Public Ledger LedgerS S S S S SI I S SS S S W O S jf I S throughout with Cunningham Radio I any good receiver receiverS S will reproduce full well rounded tone tonci that are arc truly remarkable S Consult your radio dealer for the cot cor i- i iI I reel Cunningham Radio Tube for or i S S every socket S Inc New York Chicago Sari Sarf Fr Francioco t S I I RADIO BES JS 5 Since Standard of AH All Sm t J S S S 4 JJ Ii e v t |