Show I Dorothy Dix s 's s Letter Box I 1 WHY DIVORCE IS NOT ALWAYS THE WAY OUT FOR THE MID MID- OLE DLE WIFE THE TALENTED GIRL WHO WANTS TO SELL STOCK IN HER CAREER IS THE TERM GOLD DIGGER A COMPLIMENT OR A KNOCK DEAR R flEAR MISS DIX DIX I I married a poor man and have helped him to malts malt 1 a fortune working side aide by side with him saving contriving sacrificing everything to push him on Now at middle age my husband thinks that he has fallen In love with a woman 7 whose husband divorced her on account of at her unfaithfulness to him I feel teel that my husband owes owea me a a. return for tor the many years of oC assistance and loyalty I j 4 gave him and that my children n and I have a a. right to share in the tho prosperity which I helped r earn carn Therefore I refuse to give him a divorce 4 Lain I will not yield my rights regarding my hus hus- husband husband Jc band to a loose woman I am going to fight to i bring him back to reason and conquer her by holding fast tast to my own Do you not think my 4 position Just ANXIOUS WIFE Answer I do Marriage Is a business prop prop- proposition proposition 6 Just as at much as It Is a senti sentimental l mental one It Is II a partnership In which the woman puts In her labor and DOROTHY DIX her ambitions Just as much as she ahe does her heart and soul loul and If she does her hep part toward making the firm a success she Is II en en- entitled titled to her share of tile the perquisites and she should not be pen pen- off with a little dab of alimony That Is 15 why so many women do a foolish thing when they rush off oft to the divorce courts counts as soon as they discover that their husbands are unfaithful to them Of course It Is a hard and bitter thing for a wo woo woman wooman woman man to find out that the man she has loved and trusted and for whom she has toiled tolled and sacrificed Is untrue to her Naturally she feels that she wants ants to break all bonds between them and take her children and go where she will never hear of ot him again but in doing that she often orten makes a bad matter worse by bankrupting herself In purse as well as in heart For as long as she stays put In her position as the mans man's wife she has the comfort of her good home the consolation of her place In society and a good living And while these will not atone to her for her husbands husband's faithlessness and for having lot lost his love they are are nevertheless not to be despised They The make her life far f lr more tolerable than It would be If she had thrown them all overboard In her anger and was wal reduced to poverty and homelessness and was forced to go out Into Intoe e world v to support herself and her children She has helped her husband win his prosperity and his place In th the world and she has a right to share In the good things she has earned and is very ery foolish when she lets another woman push her out and take her plan So I think you are quite right ri ht and that you are doing the best thing for yourself and your children and probably the best thing for your husband Many men at middle age Ir v. v these temporary Infatuations for strange women but they pass and the husbands are heartily ashamed and gladly return to their wives If only the wives have had the wisdom and the patience to hold fast to their own DOROTHY DIX a S C S S DEAR flEAR DOROTHY DIX I DIX I read in the newspaper the other day about U a woman concert pianist who has incorporated herself under the laws of Ohio in order to get funds to further her career I am ann curious to know how this would work out It if she were to fall tall In love and get married J I I also em am ambitious and need money to perfect myself in my studies Would you ou advise my making myself Into a stock company la E. E ER R. R Answer I am afraid that you would find it a little difficult to sell sell- your stock because a womans woman's career no matter how much ability she has Is Ia a poor risk Most of us UI who have tried to help talented girls have had the same experience After thou thou- thousands thousands sands of dollars and years of time had been spent In educating her and fitting her for her career some man came along with whom she fell In love and it was goodbye to the career She retired to a suburban bungalow or a two four flat to do housework and have babies which after all Is womans woman's great great- greatest est eat career but one that doesn't call for expensive training under priced high-priced European teachers Somehow women and careers and marriage dont don't mix harmoniously as a general thing Most men nien want their wives to stay at home borne and make things thinS's comfortable for them Instead of gadding over the country lecturing or giving concerts or acting or what not Also the great ma ma- majority majority of husbands are egotists who desire their wives to look hook up to them and they get little Joy out of being the tall tail to their wives wives' kites s and being known as Mr Mary Iary Jones the husband of the distinguished writer or orator So there you are Its It's one of the Innumerable of being a woman that while a man can add a wife and children to his career and be all the better for them a woman has to choose between a husband and children and a career or 01 else els make a mess of all three of them i And if It a husband Isn't willing to share his wife with a career I 1 dont don't see that he will like it any better when he Is a minority er in a lady who has incorporated herself and her talents DOROTHY DIX S C S S D DEAR flEAR I EAR DOROTHY DIX When m When a young youns man calls a girl a gold digg I how should she take tate it H. H asan insult or a compliment MRS L L. G. G G R R. iT i Answer Its It's about as hard a knock as as- ashe a he can give her It means that he considers that she has neither heart nor principle but butIs I Is a grafter who gets everything possible out of a man The girl who Is a digger odd Is not exactly a thief but she Is a robber all the same She doesn't pick a mans man's pocket by sleight of hand as aa does the professional moll moil or dip but she gets it Just the same Her methods are more refined but Just as efficacious Sometimes she borrows money that she never repays Often she gets It by the tha tear route by telling a luck hard story stor of owing bills bUls she cannot pay nay of a hearted hardhearted landlady who is about to put her out and by the time she has sobbed out her woes the man has dried her eyes on yellow backed yellow backed bills bUls Her usual method however howe is hinting She inveigles a man into a aa aa aa a millinery store where there is a perfect darling of a hat that she da- da sires or she leads him past a shop window where there are dresses or furs or Jewels that she thinks It would be Just so sweet for him to give her and she is always alwa's hungry and wanting to eat in restaurants or is dying to see plays or to go to places to dance The gold digger Is the feminine equivalent of the confidence confidence dence man and Is about the most disreputable profession that any woman can follow DOROTHY DIX Copyright by Public Ledger edger |