Show I I Dorothy D ro thy hy Dix s 's Letter L etter Box J I MISS SIXTEEN WHO FEARS TO MARRY SUCH A HUSBAND Al Ai I HER FATHER SEEMS TO BE SHALL SHE TRADE HER I HOME AND FOR BABY BABY FOR A TRIP TO SOUTH AMERICA WITH A HANDSOME STRANGER MUST A HUSBAND STAY HOME AFTER MARRIAGE DEAR flEAR MISS DIX DIX Are Are all men alike My 11 father Is la to so selfish h and andI I grumpy and finding fault that I dont don't see aee how my mother stands stand him and I certainly would hato hate to be married to a man like him I am 16 1 and thinking of getting married but I am amr afraid to do It for fear I 1 r or would get a husband like my father atner Would any anyone one I 1 pick be like him T MARGERY MARGERY Answer v tr Well Margery most mot husbands are ar I cut off the same lime belt bolt of cloth Occa Ocea- Occasionally E there Is I. one who Is Ii a angel he-angel i and there are a lot of them who are I t he devils I but most of them are Just a t. t Jumble of good qualities and bed bad quell quail qualities ties of selfishness and self sacrifice or generosity and stinginess of love 10 and neglect Of course every evory girl who gets married thinks that the man she the Is getting Is I. never going to slump down Into being the sort lort ot of a a. aDOROTHY aDOROTHY DOROTHY DO ROT HY DIX OIX DI husband that her father ather Is She Is ia convinced that he is always aya going to remain the lover los and spend his time holding her hand and telling her how beautiful and wonderful she is and that no matter how bow tired he be Is when he comes home at night he will Just love to doll himself up and take her out to some place ot of amusement as he did in his courting days And when she looks over at her father dumped down downin In a chair and Just grunting when her mother speaks to him and when she ehe notices that he be seldom shows her mother any token of ot affection and when she abe bears him hint knock her mothers mother's faults and be mum a as s an oyster about her virtues she ehe wonders how mother endures It She doesn't know that mother has come to understand nd fa fa- father father fa- fa father ther and that they have arrived at the th-o place In life where a I husband and wife dont don't have to be continually telling each uch other of their love loe because It has become an established fact They have proved their devotion by twenty five or thirty or forty years of loyalty and sacrifice Mother knows that It Isn't grouchiness that keeps keep father silent Its It's Just that he Is I. too worn out to make conversation Mother doesn't even een hear fathers father's grumbling Experience has hu taught her that he Is Just letting off steam team and enjoying him him- himself himself himself self and that If anybody else dared to criticise anything she he did he would be ready to knock their heads off Most husbands are like that Margery and the chances are that you will get one Just like your father and that you will have to adapt your yourself self to him just as at your mother does lo to your father ather You will have to learn to put up with his little peculiarities and humor him In his funny little ways and above all you ou will have to learn how not to take him hl hi too seriously I But dont don't undertake any at 16 1 It takes more wis wisdom dom om more self control more knowledge of life more humor and more philosophy than any girl of 16 possesses to know how to manage a husband That's That a Job for a grownup woman not for baby bOlby DOROTHY DIX a S C S C DEAR flEAR DOROTHY DIX DIX I I have ha been married four tour years and have a aU U darling little boy My husband Is a a. good man and is kindness Itself luelf to me Jle He works hard bard makes a a. good living Hying but doesn't like to go to dances danes shows etc but enjoys a quiet home life About six months ago I met a handsome man who loves los to dance and travel and we fell foil desperately in love with each other I have been meeting mealing him secretly and now he wants me to leave e my husband and go goto goto goto to South America with him He Is a man who has had many love af al- affairs af- af affairs fairs but he says that he loves lo me better beller than any woman he ever met What must I do UNDECIDED DECIDED U Answer Anwer Evidently you consider leaving your husband and going Doing off with this man to a far country In the light of a gay adventure It looks romantic and alluring to you and you have hae visions of strange cities and picturesque peoples of luxurious hotels hotel and n J exotic foods of mad dances In Irs ballrooms filled with beauteous ladles ladies in mantillas and men who look like Valentino Valentine Fine while It lasts But It wont won't last This man of ot many loves will tire of ot you as he his has tired ot of the theother theother theother other women who have come and gone in his life and how will it be when you OU find yourself deserted in tome Some ome South American city without friends without money without any anyone one to hold out a helping hand to to you It Is bad enough Ho to be poor and forsaken In your own country but butto butto butto to be poor and forsaken in a country where you do not even speak the language where here you have no co way of earning any money is the mos moat horrible and desolate fate ate that can befall a woman Believe me If you give up your good husband and your good home to go off with this man you will repent your f folly In bitterness and tears The good husband wont won't seem commonplace to you then He will stem seem the most moat alluring fig fig- figure figure ure us-c In all the world Your little home wont won't seem saem a dull place to you then It will seem sem like a temple of refuge to which you would crawl back on your hands and knees If you could And what about your our child Your night fly lover wont won't want to tobe tobe tobe be burdened with him Do Do you think you will get more real happiness out of ot dancing and going to shows than you will out of ot having your baby in your arms Dont Don't you think you could hear his call for tor other m above the blare blue ot of f the loudest jazz band It seems teems to me that a a woman who has hu no fault ault to find with her husband except that he doesn't like to dance and go to shows has got mighty little to complain of and that aside ulde from all bli questions of honor and loyalty and decency she he makes a mighty fool bargain when she gives him up for a philanderer who Instead of a settled home offers her a trip to South Amer Amer- America America ica and a little love DOROTHY DIX DIX- DEAR flEAR MISS DIX DIX Do Do you ou think a girl could be happy with a man who 1 tells her that after be he marries he expects to go out three or four eve eve- evenings evenings a week and leave his wife at home to find amusement for herself 1 X xYz Y Z Answer Anew er Certainly not The man who doesn't expect to be a fire fir fireside side aide companion to his wife has no right to get married What he needs Is a club where nobody will bother whether he ever eer comes In or not He shouldn't make any woman lose her beauty sleep Jeep sitting up waiting for his return No r man should marry a a. woman unless he finds her so interesting and congenial that he enjoys her society and finds more pleasure in n being with th her than he does with any anyone one else in the world No r man should marry until he is tired of gadding around and is ready to settle down and his ideal of a perfect evening is one spent in his own home I And certainly no man has a right to take a girl out of her own owes home where she has companionship where she can have hae havethe havethe the society of other men without scandal candal where she can have hae dates and go to parties and amuse herself unless he means to bear her company It Is unfair to expect any woman to spend lonely evenings while her husband I. I out enjoying himself If It a husband develops into a roamer after he is married it is his bis wife misfortune and she is to be pitied Every girl should try to avoid this fate tate by b finding out beforehand whether a man intends Intend a to stay put pat pator or not after he is 1 married But If he Intends to arrogate to himself all the privileges of a single singie man she should be warned In time and refuse to marry him DOROTHY DIX Copyright by Public Ledger |