Show Dorothy Dixs Dix's s 's Letter Box I A CULTURED AMERICAN GIRL CIRL BE HAPPY MARRIED TO A FOREIGNER WHO IS EXACTLY HER OPPOSITE THE 18 YEAR OLD BRIDE WHO WANTS TO EXCHANGE HER HUSBAND FOR HER OLD BEAUX SHALL SHE MARRY THE MAN WHO MAKES HER HEFt WEAR LENGTH AMPLE SKIRTS DEAn D NEAR EAT MISS DIX DIX I I am 10 19 and have e been engaged for lor almost a year I- I to a man roan who Is IB diametrically opposite to me I am an American he Is a foreigner I 1 have hn a good education he never had bad the opportunity opportunity to go to school I 1 am ann a great book book- bookworm bookworm worm I dont don't believe he ever read a book bookIn In his life I 1 am witted quick his mental men tat processes are very slow I am a good conver conver- conversationalist conversationalist fv j he seldom speaks Even our taste li In clothes differs I However despite our differences I love It t him or think I do Sometimes Som tI es I feel that 1 I I ap cannot do without him Other times because he lacks the things that I possess I feel feci that I never want to see him again Do you youL ou think that I could be happy with him If U I L IAnswer L married him L. L Answer No I do not think you will have havea a a chance of of being happy with this man If you marry him He has hu a certain physical infatuation for you T v DOROTHY DIX now but this would not la last t and when it was over you would be ut ut- utterly terly miserable bound by an uncongenial marriage whose let fet fetters would chafe more and more as the years went by the nl Analyze the situation and you will see why H It i is risky for you to marry this man In the first place It Is Is always dangerous for an American girl to marry a foreign man because the American woman oman has bas been brought up with different traditions and different ideals from those which foreign men are to accord to their women kind Also the American wife demands a- a freedom a which no foreign husband Is willing to grant The marriage of an American woman to a foreign man mart is II only successful when the man is of ot exceptional Intelligence and strength of character and when he Is II a man who has hu known much of the world When the man Is uneducated unread he will be unable to get Eel any viewpoint but the narrow one to which he has been bred and if you marry him you will have to submit to him or else be in con con- continual conflict with him The more stupid a person Is Is the more ten ten- tenaciously he clings clings- to hIs hla prejudices And what congeniality can c ln there be between you who love to read and a man who has never read a book boo In his life Believe me me If you marry him you will be a very lonely woman because you will have to live In a world In which your husband cannot enter You will speak a language he does not understand You will have Interests In which he ha does not share Furthermore the chances are he will bitterly resent your being more Intelligent than he Is for men do donot donot donot not like to have to look up to their wives Like to like Is the best slogan for matrimony and the tha happiest marriages are arc those In which men and women marry In their own class The people we enjoy being with are those with whom we have most in common the people who move mo in the th same seine circles that we do do who read the same books who go to see the same plays who like the same kind of or cooking and worship the same God and vote ole the tho same ticket that we do The people with wih whom we can chat forever without being bored are those to whom we can say Sl Dont you remember or What do you ou think of oC so and so So pick out for a husband a man with whom you have everything in common Instead of one with whom you have nothing In common DOROTHY DIX DEAR DEAn D EAR MISS MIS DIX Two DIX Two months ago I married and I am sorry for lor it and want my freedom The fault Isn't with my husband because he couldn't be more wonderful to me He Is everything a man should be and Is getting along well In his profession proCession But while I love my husband I love good times better and when I see how much fun fUD my girl friends are having running around I cant can't stand It It My husband will give me my freedom but ho says I am forfeiting my reputation and breaking not only his heart but my mothers mother's What shall I do YEAR OLD BRIDE Answer Of course the right thing to do Is to be a good sport and live up to the obligations that you have undertaken If you had made any other sort of a bargain you would have to abide by It and It wouldn't make any difference whether you changed your mind about liking it or not If H you had bought an automobile and driven It for a couple of o ot months and then decided that you were tired of oC it and would rather have something else you Oll wouldn't expect the man who sold you ou the car to take it back If lC you rou had bad purchased a n house and later on con concluded eluded that you OU didn't like its color or location you'd still sUII have to Lo keep it So why not live up to your matrimonial contract as hon hon- honestly honestly e estly as you would to a 1 business one Why be a welcher In marriage Of or course as a married woman you OU cant can't run around as your flapper friends do do because you have taken responsibilities upon your your- yourself yourself self while they have not noL You are bound and they are free But remember that you voluntarily assumed these obliga obliga- obligation tion None of them was thrust upon you yo And It may com corn comfort comfort fort you to reflect that all of your girl friends friends' dates and run run- running running ning around merely lead up to what you have achieved They are in pursuit of a good husband while you have already caught one Furthermore reflect on this That If it you knoW your own mind so little little- that you OU dont don't know what you OU want if you are so fickle that you can fall in love loye and out of or love In two months months' time you will regret It If you ou divorce your husband for no other reason than that you rou desire to be free Cree lo to have bave a good time As soon as you lose your husband you will want him back again You will find that the good times are not so very good goed after all all and that you miss having somebody to love you and take care of you You will find out that you have sod lod your birthright for a mess me as of pottage and that you made a poor trade In exchanging a tender husband for a few dances and nd dates I But all of oC your trouble comes from marrying too young oung If you had waited until after arter you had had your our playtime you jou ou would have bave been glad enough to settle down and be a 1 good wife DOROTHY DIX a S SD 1 DEAR D EAR MISS DIX I DIX 1 am era engaged to lo a young man I have given up dancing and a lot of or other things that I like hike to do but of or which he docs does not approve in order to please him Now he demands that I wear long skirts down to my my ankles I simply detest them and think the skirt Just below the knee is quite long enough Besides I 1 dont don't want to look like a frump Would you OU lengthen the skirts or break off the engagement NAOMI An Well Naomi a man who undertakes to te regulate the length c. c A j girls girl's skirts before they are married look like a good matrimonial bet to me lie He has lie ie e makings m kingi of oC a II domestic tyrant in him hil ht l. l and he will boss DOSS his wife so that she wont won't be able to call her soul her own The only man who Is entitled to tell a woman how to dress Is a dress dress- dressmaker dressmaker maker or one ho vho runs a dress shop Whether a woman bobs her hair or lets It grow long whether she uses rouge lipstick or has as bad a 6 complexion as nature gave her the length lenth of her skirt and the wideness thereof are her own affairs In which no mere man has a aright aright aright right to meddle DOROTHY DIX Copyright by Public Ledger L |