Show I Dorothy iy Dix Dixs Dix's s 's Letter Box DO SCHOOLTEACHERS SCHOOL TEACHERS MAKE BETTER MOTHERS THAN OTHER GIRLS THE SISTER LAW WHO PREFERS LIVING ON HER SISTERS SISTER'S HUSBANDS HUSBAND'S INCOME TO MAKING ONE OF HER OWN THE MAN WHOSE UN UN- UNGOVERNABLE GOVERNABLE TEMPER MAKES HIS WIFE AFRAID TO STAY WITH HIM D DEAR I EAR MISS DIX Do DIX Do you think school teachers make better wives wires and mothers than others girls ONE WHO WANTS TO KNOW Answer School teachers have ever been a 1 preferred matrimonial risk and the I. I a demand for them for wives it la so great I l that it interferes seriously with the work of educational Institutions For Forno Forno Fors s no sooner does a pretty maam ma'am E get really worked into her Job than she ups and marries But Dut how the school teacher compares with other girls as all a wife and mother Ido I do donot not know I should think that her training and her experience in handling children I might better fit her for motherhood motherhood but that I It might disqualify her a trifle for tor wifehood by developing In her a tendency to be arbi- arbi DOROTHY DIX and bossy as Is likely to happen when ehen a II superior mind deals habitually with Inferior ones However this Is merely theoretical Certainly the wives that I know who were teachers before their marriage are among the most efficient and helpful of ot helpmates and are the heads of ot happy and contented families But whether a girl teaches or goes into the act fact that she has as earned her living before she married does more r thany any anyone one thing to fit her for matrimony To begin with the supporting self-supporting girl is likely to make a far wiser choice of a husband than the staying home-staying girl The working girl has had a up close-up of ot men that it H is not pos pos- possible possible sible for the girl to nave who has known men only socially and this alone alono knocks into smithereens all of oC the fantastic Illusions about men being s and fairy princes that so many girls entertain The business girl has seen men with their coats off spiritually as well Ven as physically She knows when the veneer knocks off ore just how many are mean and stingy and tempered high and Irritable and beastly and sensual gentlemen only on the outside and when they are dressed up for society And she knows what others are gentlemen through and through chivalrous to old and weak and helpless ss women kind and tender honest and honorable and so when she chooses a man for a hus hUB husband hUBband band she Isn't very apt to be fooled tooled In him or taken In by any fine talk And the girl herself gets a discipline In business that stands her in good stead the remainder of her life She learns to be prompt and efficient to do things on time and to con con- control control her nerves and her temper and her emotions And she learn how to get along with men and Ind this is Invaluable for you use exactly the same process in smoothing down an ir irritable ir- ir irritable husband that you do in handling a cranky boss And she learns about the value of money Xo 00 who has earned a dollar ever looks at It in the same way that the woman does who has always ays had her money given to her The one sees it stained with sweat and blood The other looks upon it as a mere merc scrap of paper and so the girl who has supported herself herselt knows how to save money moner and the importance of laying it up for a rainy day Finally the woman who has been in business makes a better wife because she understands what her husband goes through as no woman ever can who has not labored and known the weariness that leaves one spent in mind and body at the end of a day of strain and anxiety Also she can talk shop with her husband and that is the greatest bond that can be between a husband and wife So whether a girl is a or a clerk or a stenographer she makes males the tue better wife for Cor having earned her own bread and but but- ter DOROTHY DIX EAR MISS DIX DIN t I nm m a a. man man who loves his wife and home but butan DEAR D cannot an not have any home life because of o my wife's sister who in insists on living with us We denied ourselves things we really needed to give her a business course thinking that in that way we could get rid of ot her but she will wilt not work She prefers to sponge on us An extra one to feed and clothe means m much to me as I am on a a. small salary alary but worse Vorse still I have gotten so I 1 hate to go home In the evening knowing she will be there and I can never have any time with my family alone What shall shan I 1 do WORRIED WOBBlED JIM Answer Have enough courage to tell the girl frankly that she must leave You really dont don't deserve any sympathy because you are arc the victim of your own weakness and If you had the spunk of a mouse you yu would pack up the girls girl's clothes and arid send them to the Y V. 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A A and pay her board there for fora a week and tell her that she she would have to make her own living or starve And that you are through beingS being her goat any longer And you would be doing the girl the greatest possible kindness for you OU would make a respectable member of ot society of ot her Instead of ot aiding and abetting her in being a deadbeat As it is you are aro encouraging her in being heing a lazy Jazy loafer and that destroys everything that is fine and good In anybody's character Your sister law thinks that will let her you hang on onto onto onto to you until she can transfer herself to some poor man whom she will victimize for the remainder of her life For the girl who hasn't enough principle to go out and earn her own living makes the kind of a wife that bums her way through matrimony also She is i ino no more willing to work in a kitchen than she was in an office and she curses the man who gets her as a wife So for your our own good and the girls girl's good force her to go out and support herself Look around you 1 0 and you will see that the finest the happiest the th most alert girls that Hint you ou see anywhere are the tho business ones DOROTHY DIX DEAR D EAR MISS DIX I DIX I have been married more than ten years ear and have two boys 4 and S 1 years old My husband is a good pro provider vider and a domestic man but he lie has the most ungovernable temper I I have ever er seen and he curses and abuses the children and me until It has become unbearable One of ol his mildest expressions Is to wish we Vi e were dead and In Hades liades with our backs broken I 1 feel that I 1 cant can't raise my say boys like I 1 want them with their father showing so lit lit- litle littie tie le respect for them their mother and himself so I J am thinking seri serl seriously of leaving him I 1 think I can support them and I figure God will show me a way wa when It is for or their good What do you Oll think about it 1 WORRIED WIFE Answer It I la Is of course a question that you must settle for your self You must decide whether the support you get from your husband outweighs the Insults you have to stand from him and whether It is better for your boys to have no father at atall atall atall all than such a father as they have Personally I J think that nothing Is so intolerable as to have ha to toIve live lire with a man with a fiendish temper and that nothing can repay a woman for living In dread of maniacal outbursts or so degrade her hern herIn herin In n her own sight as for her to take foul toul abuse from a man In a rage when he takes leave lea of at every vestige HsUge of sense or sensibility Perhaps If you leave your husband on account of his tem tens temper per It will give him a shock that will bring him to reason and make him control himself For you will observe that the very men who vent their Ill humor on their families are polite enough to strangers stranger They can control their tempers If they will because they do It In business and in society Otherwise they would never hold a Job or have a customer or client And the first bodied able-bodied man they cursed would whale the life out of them They are yellow cowards who curse their wives s 's hes h-es and children be be- because cause ause they cant can't defend themselves es DOROTHY DIX Copyright by Public Ledger |