Show L Dorothy Dorothy Dixs Dix's Dix s 's Letter Box Bj I ISHALL SHALL HE MARRY THE GIRL WHOM HE ADMIRES I BUT DOESN'T LOVE HOW HOW TO LAUGH A BOY OUT OF DANGER THE DANGER THE WIFE WHOSE HUSBAND I IS BEING PURSUED BY HIS STENOGRAPHER DEAR D r EAR MISS DIX I DIX I am a young oung man 28 years ears old and have haye been I Keeping company with a girl a few years my senior for more than two years At first I was madly In lore loyo with her but later began to think It was Infatuation Instead ot of true trpe love I admire her very much and she has tho the qualities I 1 want In the woman I marry marr Besides she has baa the kindest heart and the best disposition that any woman could have Yet YetI i I am afraid that I do not love lore her as a I 1 should as asI asI I I feel that I 1 should worship tho the ground a woman I walks on before marrying her What should I do A. A Z Answer I Should hould certainly advise you to wait walt until you YOli are more certain of your senti senti- sentiments sentiments ments menta before you marry the girl This Is all the more Important as es she Is older than I you ate are and your letter seems to Indicate r that you are already beginning to tire of her S. S L It is always a dangerous thing for a man manto manto to marry a woman older than he Is ii and be be- beI I OROTHY DIX fore you take tako that risk you should be ab absolutely ab- ab absolutely absolutely certain that you are deeply and over over- overwhelmingly In love with her Matrimony apparently has a pe peculiarly pe- pe peculiarly disillusioning effect o 0 n men somehow and for that reason they should at least go Into It with a full head of steam team on All Allot of us number among our acquaintances dozens of ot men who before marriage were were the most ardent lovers Imag imag- They pursued the girls they married hotfoot They overcome every obstacle They broke down every barrier between them and were simply crazy about their wives to Yet a a. year after mar mar- marriage marriage they the had settled down Into apathetic Indifferent husbands who never paid their wives a compliment or told them that they thoy loved them or exhibited one sign of ot the romantic passion with wHit which they were bubbling over oyer before marriage Yet there was nothing the matter with the wives They t were still pretty and attractive and as worthy of being loved as they were when their husbands courted them It was Just that the average man seems to carry a strictly limited amount of sentiment and this soon cools off from fever heat to sub normal Therefore It Is Important when a man marries for him to at least have the temporary Illusion that he is marrying a combi combi- combination combination I nation goddess and angel and to think that his love for her Is eternal However if It your our sweetheart has the qualities you most admire In woman and a good disposition you would probably be very happy with her even It if you are not madly Infatuated with her DOROTHY DIX EAR MISS DIX DIX We We are two fellows who Introduced another fellow DEAR DUAH D who Is only 17 to a girl of oC 22 Ho He seems se ms Infatuated with her and she Isn't a good girl gin She isn't the kind of ot girl he should go with and we feel responsible for him and wish to get him away and keep him ilm Im from going out with her How can be do it TWO FAITHFUL FRIENDS ANSWER The best weapon to use Is ridicule All of us hate to be laughed at or feel to-feel that we are making ourselves ridiculous so you can probably guy your friend Into giving the girl up There Is no use in telling him that he Is doing a wrong and foolish thing because he will probably think It very ver mannish and grownup grown up to associate with a wild Mild wild woman There Is no use in warning him against her and telling him that she is trying to get him in her claws because such women always alwa's have a a. pitiful tale to tell of ot how they the have been sinned against and how they are the victims of ot fate and with w a young and tenderhearted tender tender boy this shopworn tale is never told in vain rain It rouses all the chivalry in his nature and ho feels called Don to become her defender deCender But you can Joke him and ridicule him and make him feel that he Is showing what an unsophisticated greenhorn he Is by being taken In and you can tease him about going with a girl so much older than himself We are all cowards before a laugh Give your friend the merry ha-ha ha and you will do more to cure him than anything an else can DOROTHY DIX EAR MISS DIX DIX I I am a married woman a little past 40 years ears of oC DEAR D age My Iy husband and I have always enjoyed a very happy mar mar- married ried ned life lICe and I have had perfect confidence in him hini But Dut within the thelast thelast thelast last year a devoted friend has bas told me that one of ot my husbands husband's em em- a pretty blond of oC 22 22 has bas confided In her that she has fallen in inlove Inlove inlove love with my husband and will do anything to win his affections I do not believe my m husband suspects this condition of ot affairs for forbe he be is not a conceited man or a philanderer but the knowledge that this girl Is with my husband day after acter day da often octen behind closed doors for Cor forshe forshe she is his stenographer depresses me greatly and makes me very anxious What I want to ask you OU Is should I tell him what wha t I have heard 1 If It I 1 do what do you think he should do do WIFE AND MOTHER l Answer I should think that the best thing to do would be to tell your husband what you have heard and that he should at once get rid of the girl on some pretext without telling her the real reason A girl like that is too dangerous to have about the premises Of course courseS In telling your husband that a pretty prelly young girl has bas fall fall- enin love lovo with him you run the risk of oC rousing his vanity and making him think that he is a gay Lothario Probably your husband has bas not thought of himself as a heart for twenty years He lie has put all ideas of ot women and making love-making outside of ot his life lICe and now when you tell him that a girl young enough to be his daughter has fallen for his charms he lie Ie is sure to bo be secretly flattered Clattered and antI it may rouse roue up in him sentimental yearnings that have been asleep for a decade or more You must consider that phase of ot the subject On the other hand there Is the absolute certainty that if the girl Is In love with your husband she will let him know It She will make every appeal that she can to him She will wilt use every art and wile to win him away from you and even If he gives her no encouragement there Is la sure to come the time when she will break down Into hysterical weeping and cast her her- herself herself herself self Into his arms and and well well there Is no use in tempting Joseph too far The sooner the girl leaves your husbands husband's employ the bet bet- better better ter for all concerned Lock your stable door before the horse DOROTHY DIX Is I stolen Copyright by Public Ledger Le ser Company |