| Show I Dorothy Dix s 's s Letter Box J ADVICE TO A MOTHER OF TWO BOYS WHOSE MARRIED LIFE IS A TORMENT HOW CAN A GIRL ATTRACT LOVE OF OFA OFA OFA A MAN WITH WHOM SHE WORKS WORST FAULT IN A HUSBAND MY M DEAR DOROTHY I DIX DIX I am 42 years old I 1 have two wo ava one ono 20 who Is I mating ma his hia way In the world but living at home The other is 19 13 and a high school senior My marriage has been a 11 most unhappy one ODe and for or years I have endured it 1 In la order de 0 td give the boys everything that It was pos pas pos pos- possible M sible to give them but no now conditions have grown go 80 o bad that the tho situation seems to me 53 t- t I almost unendurable I adore my tons Sons and It s wilt will break my heart to live apart front from them BS i but I do 10 not see how l w r I can so go 0 on any longer fig i living under the samo same root roof with a man I It t- t loathe and keep my reason Me Will Wilt I be bo railing falling In my duty as ai a mother 4 i if IC I 1 leave my home There Thero is nothing in me life lifee e I for tor me as IlS it Ja is and every year yeat I 1 am growing p older ohler which will wilt make It harder for tor or me to tot t get a foothold la In the tho world as I ha have v no C kic Bolder trade or profession to fall CaU back upon t ei In answering me mc be as blunt as you see fit but keep this In mind I love 10 my boys boy more than life Ilfe Itself I loathe the man to DOROTHY DIX whom I am ant bound and while making milking my own n way may roay be a frightful struggle yet there Is la hope In It It 11 There Thero may be happiness ahead Now there Is nothing A SEEKER Answer When you say that you love your boys more than life lile itself you answer you your own question oh heavily burdened sister Ister later For a little while longer you are bound upon your I cross cron and must endure its agony Boys of 19 and 20 need the th i restraints of a home a mothers mother's mother love and tenderness and ym sym sym- sympathy pathy pathy and understanding more ore than they ever needed It bt be I fore In their lives You can hire a competent nurse to take care of little children but only a mother who has haa the subtlety of the serpent and the wisdom of the owl can take care of children at the age when they most resent authority and ad- ad advice ad advice vice and have to be handled with the iron hand in the velvet glove glov Where would your our boys boS be at night it Jf you broke up their home and they had bad no place to come to Your know the answer They rhey would be running the streets at night making undesirable acquaint acquaint- acquaintances acquaintances 1 ances getting in with the kind of b ys and girls who would be their ruin Your own freedom even en your own chance ot of happiness Is too high a price to tG pay for or this You must carryon carry on until your job lob is it done until your boys are lre elder and older older- and established in their habits until they dont don't need you so 10 sorely as they do now It wont won't be long three or four years at the most moat and you will be wise if you decide now what you intend to do doto doto doto to support yourself In the tho future and spend pend that time In ac- ac acquiring ac acquiring quiring the trade or profusion ion you mean to follow Take a stock of ot your our talents ald and develop the one that seems most promising to you Experts in any line never have any In getting good situations at good pa pay Also the knowledge that you are arc getting ready to go away and fitting yourself for tor your new life will make mako the time go more swiftly and render your our present situa- situa situa situation lion tion Ion less unendurable We can stand anything if we know there is a time limit on it It I Is only the horror of the tho thing that stems seem to goon go goon on and on on endlessly that saps ups our courage It If what I have said seems bitter counsel to you remember that youl would be even enn more miserable than titan you ou are now if you bad failed your our sons and saw them running wild A mother who loves as you do cannot buy her own hap hap- happiness hap pins at the expense of her children DOROTHY DIX S C C C CD D DAR AR MISS DIX I DIX I am ant a youn young woman 21 years old and am ant very Tel much in love with a young man who is my ray employers employer's son Of OC course I see ace ee him every day in the office but he has never paid me Jy a particular attention and he be does not know that I love him What shall Ido Shall I let hint him know that I love him Is there any way that I J can make him hint fall tall In love with me Shall I go on loving him trusting God to bring us together or shall I forget him and look out for someone else PAULINE rI Answer My tip tip Pauline would be to forget him as soon is as pos pos- possible pos possible sible and bestow your maiden heart on some lame more appreciative appreciative tive young man It Is waste wasta motion to keep on loving a man who sees leu you every day and nd who has not even noticed that you are alive You know Pauline every young girl Is in love loe with love anyway moro more than she is 18 with any particular man She takes taku a lot of o the pink chiffon of oC o romance and embroiders It with her fancy Then she festoons It with ribbons of Imagination and perfumes It with the Incense of ot her dreams and hopes And she can throw this splendid cloak around as any male creature that Is handy and ond mate him look like lIko tho man she wants to marry That's It Is 1 so easy euy for girls to transfer their af If from one man to another All AH they iney n to 00 iS II to drape the ew man In the sentimental trappings trapp-Ings they keep In their hope chests and the trick I Is done This Thle being the case Pauline I should earnestly advise you to quit wasting your fancy fanty dress dreu on a man who doesn't want to play the love game with you and to bestow it upon ulon some Iome youth who will willbe willbe willbe be willing to wear It for his hll wedding suit ZO No o one can tell a girl how to win a man who does want her heror ot or how to kindle the flame ot of love en a cold hearthstone Love Is big medicine that only Cupid knows how to make and he lie has never ne Imparted his secret secret formula to mortals Certainly there Is nothing the woman can ean do ton for the th more mere a 5 girl runs after a man the swifter he flees from her herand and she Sh ah has to te be bl a phenomenally gifted sprinter Ir It the she ever catches him Curiously enough the more mars a girl loves a man generally the less leu he loves her So the wise thing thin Pauline is to cease wasting your sweetness l wherein unresponsive young man abides on the desert air all our Shrug your our shoulders and say EaY with the poet What care I how l fall fair he be it If he be not fair to me and forget him Young men Just at as good come in bunches and any good good- looking girl can have ona ons for the taking DOROTHY DIX C S a 5 S I EAR DOROTHY DIX t DIX I am troubled about my any cousin coutin who is cn- cn en engaged DEAR D to be married to a man who ho makes good money but Is such a tightwad that you would think his hia pocketbook was fastened with a Yale Yalo lock and ond that he lle had bad lost the key leey He has hs never even given her an engagement sing ring He never makes her ber a 11 present nor Dor takes her Mr anywhere that costs a 11 cent o I Do o you think she will be happy If 1 she gho marries him T R- R R Answer No She will be miserable ble She will find herself hersel noth noth- nothIng noth- noth nothIng nothing ing but a drudge who Is I I forced to work without pay and who Js Is expected to slave her life away without reward For the stingy mans man's wife never even gets get the poor return of thinks thanks J for all of her labor and her penny pinching Her husband J always reproaches her for not having made the quarter he h hI I gave her week before last lait go farther A woman with a close listed hu husband b nd always lives In fear tear and trembling because her husband spends all BIl ot of his time a at home homo snoop snoop- snooping InIn tog ing In the tho Icebox and the garbage can aD and r ructions because sho ehe has pared the tho pola potatoes toes too thick or has wasted a spoonful of cold beans And the first of o the month is a terror to her he raves ravel like a madman when the bills come in The woman ith Ith a n stingy husband never has hag any allY pretty clothes or nice furniture 01 or any treats Her ler children never have ha the advantages advantages they ther need or the pleasures they crave She never has any freedom to help her lieI people it if they need It it She is worse oft off than any woman who earns her owa 0 money In a sweat shop The II very ry worst wort fault that a husband can have Is to te be bea bea bea a tightwad and any woman who gets an Inkling that the theman theman theman man she he Is about to marry I Is penurious is an idiot not to te call the wedding off before she gets In hi his clutches DOROTHY DIX Copyright by hy Public Ledger |
