Show I I I 1 Doothy Dorothy Dix s 's Letter Box STRAIGHT TALK TO SELFISH WIFE WHO REFUSES TO HAVE HOW CHILDREN HOW TO TELL WHETHER A MAN WILL WILL- RE- RE REMAIN REMAIN REMAIN MAIN FAITHFUL AFTER MARRIAGE MARRIAGE-IS MARRIAGE IS PLATONIC FRIENDSHIP POSSIBLE J DEAR r EAR MISS DIX My DIX My husband says that I have ruined our lives because I will not have hae children lIe He 8 says S 'S that thai be he has nothing to live livo for Cor without a family Dont Don't you think It If he really loved lo me that ho he would be satisfied with me and love me all the morn more for br brnot not cluttering u up our lives Jives with babies Dont Don't U u think that a wife wire has hag a perfect right since ghE ih Is the one to have to bother with them its to decide not DOt to have children My Illy husband 11 l has always seemed Jlko a big biff baby b by to me and andI rp-r rp I have been perfectly happ happy spoiling spelling and baby baby- J In tag him and we are still free to go around and have bave good times timea together He has been L all the baby we need In our t W S Cant Can't you ou write a piece in your olumn Jt will show abow him that It is a II thIng to expect a woman to give up all her freedom t S Saml I good looks and go through U horrible et 11 just to Indulge hIm In his selfish de do- do eIre Bire for a baby TWEENIE I Answer ii You Y are the e selfish one Tweenie iI l- l lu u c it is It perfectly natural and right for DOROTHY DIX your husband to desire delire a family and yearn to hold his children and his hla childrens children's children In his hla arm arms There I is ha something abnormal In a woman something woman something cold rold and hard and unfemInine and aud who unlovable unlovable who does not like babies nor long for fot the cling ot of o little arms about her neck It is no DO wonder that your our attitude altitude on this subject repulses your husband and that he be feels that you ou are not playing the game came For a wife cheats she defrauds her husband ol 01 the best beat thing In life when she he deliberately refuses to give five him chil ill children children dren when there is no reason for her except that she doesn't want to bother with babies babin And believe me Tweenie you are making a great at mistake on your own account as well eli as your our husbands husband's You are paying too high a price for tor the privilege of o being able to go around to parties and have pretty clothes and spending on yourself the time and and money that you you would have hae to spend vend on children In a few years you will tire of gadding about You will lose Interest in yourself There wont won't even be much thrill In buying clothes and Jewels when you have gotten old and have lost your good looks Then if you have no children your life lite will be dull and empty The vital Ital thing In the lite he world to you OU is Bobs Bob's record at college Tom making the fool football ball team Charlie setting gettIng a n rise in his job You live your girlhood over OHr again in your our daughters Romance blooms again for tor you OU in their love affairs and you get a millio million times more pleasure out o at buying pretty clothes coq tor them than you yo ou would In getting something for yourself Dont Don't think about children as a curse to y you yu u They are Gods God's own blessing and when you hold your first born on you will know that for sheer pleasure It beats all I of the cabarets and supper dances and night clubs and bridge parties and shopping hopping orgies in the world Then you ou will get the he real thrill that comes once in a lifetime DOROTHY DIX a a S S SD SEAR DEAn D EAR kEAK DOROTHY DIX I DIX I come rome In contact with men Dlen every day and andI I have about come come to the conclusion that as soon as a ft man gets gelil married he falls out ot of love with his wife and begins looking hooking around for Cor some gome ome other woman to flirt with How Itow in the world can a girl tell it if the man she loves will trill love her until death doth them part partA A WONDERER Answer There There Is no acid test that you can apply to a man before marriage that will determine the percentage of faithfulness and domesticity In hi his nature The best that a girl girt can do Is II to try to get a line upon h L n n hohl n j tI n I If It he Is Js one of oC the chaps who ho Is always swapping from Job to job It if lii his tastes and opinions are always changing and If It he be chases every petticoat that comes by llY he Is pretty retty sure to make a restless husband who will wiil be bored to death with matrimony No woman woman can hold that sort ot of a man long because variety Is Is the spice Of ot life lite to tg him He is bound to have change The minute he possesses a thing je he loses Interest in it and this applies to wives as well as automobiles But on the Ibe other hand there are the settled men who do not Dol like change and to whom everything takes on an added value alue just because it It belongs to them This Thia Is the sort of man who always brags that h he has haa the the best house the best beat gun the best dog the best beet ear car and who even finds superior virtues in a woman just Ju t because she is hi his wife So if you want a husband who will be faithful to you until death pick out a man with stick to qualities and then do your part In keeping him fascinated DOROTHY DIX a S S S SD SEAR DEAR D r EAR DOROTHY A DIX DIX A friend and I have bee been having an argument ment I say that a man and a girl can un enjoy each others other's corn com and be good friends without becoming Involve involved 1 any further He maintains that It Is impossible for tor a man and a girl gl to sustain such a relationship to each other without one or the other T falling Calling In love I think I an am right rl-ht What do you think PAL Answer Platonic friendship Is II possible between the sexes lexes In youth but it Is rare In middle age It is common and I Is one of the most satisfying and sad beautiful relationships In the world Boys Bos and girls who play at friendship usually find that they have drifted unconsciously into love hove However in these days when young men and women work together they stand at on a practical VI platform to Im I'm that does not make so much for sentimentality as 88 It does for un- un understanding inders landing Thus with mutual interests mutual respect and mutual give and take for the time In the world young men and women do have a genuine friendship for tor each other that it is I by warmer any feeling DOROTHY DIX it Copyright by Public Ledger |