Show Dorothy Dixs Dix's Dix s 's LetterBox Letter Box otherl other y EAR MISS You DIX published p a letter are SG men DEAR D three children who asks why married ft a mother o 0 doesn't n ln engage ae her in husband dumb at home bome and who conversaTion conversation says saya that her as he dId be before ore the they were mar married ried I men m don dont don't The reason tit Bl chatter at home horn il i 5 because b cause they dont don't dare to take tako tak the th cnance i- i Every married man with SOUlS some exceptions to prove the tho nile nil knows that the slightest at conversation on the other side Sl o of his doorsill wilt will load lead to acrimonious debate S- S Sif if not Dot open fight Every man Is la born with an in- in instinctive in instinctive desire for lot peace with the theother other sex sex-a sex a peaCe which he cannot enforce by mandate or violence II as can the magistrates and nd nations of the earth Neither can tan ho be b obtain it itI I by prayerful 1 suit luit uit so he h approximates DOROTHY DIX Dl It n by keeping k his hll mouth shut hut around the th house hous which if il a it slavish pro it t least leut l st avoids the alternative The Th whole trouble proceeds froma from a substitution in the th form lorm of legal marriage for tor the natural selection which arises arise through sexual attraction So long as a boy ond a girl are nr trying to please each other with the objective of ot social everything is lovely They each act to the part of ot a congenial companion After the honey honeymoon moon which lance 1 I once defined as lIS that period of at human experience which lies between the last Jast agreement and the first fight light marriage does dou Its stunts In the usual wa way with mighty little variation When her trousseau wears war out and th sh needs new n w clothes hu when the baby comes when law law on either side ld be- be begin be b gin gin their th lr Inevitable encroachment when the th purchase of ot furni furni- furniture tur furni-tur ture proves to have been in excess of reasonable expectations financIally when a neighboring bride ha has a radio set lOt s t and she has haa not when ho he h uses their th lr little automobile for busIness and she sh Isn't in It all the th time when wien anyone any one of a thousand things begins begin to happen then for the first lint time they rulin that life is real life lif is earnest Gone Is the glamour of o expectancy Present Is the stern fact of realization And staring them iu in the face Is 15 the sneering truth that liS as Sherman said something or other Is hell But is Isn't Isn't- war its war married life lite I At this critical Juncture two things happen One She forgets to make a haven of rest Two He stops wondering why and seeks seeka eek most of his hll recreation somewhere else The rhe details would make a a- a book Every Incident would be inter inter- interesting inter esting but you OU couldn't print it In your our space Skipping all ll of ot the contributing circumstances they arrive lve at the lie stage where every coming home coming on his part is the th beginninG of ot a rehearsal a ot of yester yester- yesterday's yesterday's ester days day's comic serio-comic drama ot of d domesticity Its It's the th same sam today tomorrow and evermore Complaint suspicion distrust whining j and on his part first a pleading resistance alibis denials explanations and finally a sullen subsidence into the tho th last remaining refuge which I Is silence Here begins the terrific but Inevitable tragedy tragedy- And believe me melady ot of the lovelorn It is tragedy tragedy-a tragedy a tragedy greater than the lh world war for the loss of or victims dead in that war Is not as great to tt them as the th daily personal suffering and gradual estrange estrange- proceeding logically an and from froni a progressive serIes rf r events event Dismissing all others as of ot minor relative importance the bIg fact Is that the woman forces the man to find his recreation other than at home Protected by a law which has taken the place of love she he proceeds to her marital rights If If- If not in wor words then en fn na action and geler g 1 attitude until she the he has him thor thoro broken to the th despairing fact that he has lost every Vestige of manly independence and of Individuality and that he ha I Is no rio longer a man but Is only a married man which Is vastly different lieis He lie- is precisely in the position of a man locked in jail who given the opportunity and the tools will break out to freedom That Is not an exaggerated comparison it the stern truth At home he meets meeta a woman who Is his mandatory mats mat ehe he is the living presence of ot a compulsion a pen alty Downtown he meets women who have hav no legal hold on him If he does docs not ot employ them then they are arc pleasant ac- ac acquaintances ac acquaintances because they th y have hav no nagging reason for being unpleasant If he h does doea employ them they are ar pl sant be- be because because be because cause he will fire them if it they arc are not II No man with a grain ot or sense will keep a woman In la his employ who nags him finds fault with his personal appearance jumps Into hIm about where he was wu latt night with whom and why or does doeK an any ot or the other things that a complaining wife wHo does regularly and habitually The nagging wife and the smiling woman in the office are established Institutions and the nagging wife may as aswell asWell aswell well realize first last that she Is In competition with the Woman downtown This Interest st in the th woman downtown may be b impersonal al ai and usually Is II but It its it's mighty easy for any man to shift his eager desire for sex association and the woman In the home if she he doesn't know that simply limply doesn't know her business of being a wife J I assert confidently that every overy man who Ih lives 8 would rather havea have llave a happy conversation with tho the woman s-ornan who married him than with any other woman on earth Carth arth Cut But ul you au know and I know that It if he b doesn't its Ita because he be doesn't dare knowing a a fight may break out at any moment and on the most unintelligent basis And you and j 1 what the woman downtown Is not nol going to let any conversation lead Iud to Unpleasantness It she wants to keep her ber job And that's thata that If a married man mn min doesn't chat with his wife at home horn it its it's because he wants want peace more than he wants anything else on earth More even than th he wants wanta want that kind of a wife Answer These are words or of o wisdom wires wire s written by a married man from Crom manfrom a mar married led mans man's standpoint and I commend them to your our prayerful consideration Read this over and cut it out and put and p put t it between th the leaves leavea of your Bible or pasts paste it on your your your mirror or op wherever you will see lee It It may keep you from having one on of f thou those thos husbands husband who is enduring matrimony Instead of enjoying It DOROTHY DIX S S S S S DEAR D marV r EAR DOROTHY DIX My DIX DIX- y t rouble Is that I seem c o m to attract mar mar- marrIed forme torme ried ned men and older men nen while single young men n care car nothing for me I am a n st stenographer and meet many men in business so I dont don't understand why I make a a hit hil with the men who cant can't marry me while hile I never have a date dale with v ipen that could me it they wanted ct to The Tito difference In m my attitude to married men and sIngle men Is that with married men I discuss business Intelligently and andI with Uh single l men I 1 try to be b entertaining 1 dont don't pet with either Why do older men like me and young youns ou g men pal pass me m by B D B Answer Just because you y act naturally and d sensibly y and and Ind like rational a human hutnan being with the men ar not arnot trying to attract while with the men you do t t to at tract you are and silly silly- Many gins make this thil mistake They are so to please P men rIen nTh that the they y same over o a play piSy the th part p rt and disgust them th m I have seen really who every time a man was wa around because acted like simpering I g f fools 00 1 I liked artless maidens I have bae seen girls they who giggled had an Ince Idt ides that lt mend men who screamed hysterically incessantly san f an and over every ery and who h 0 hopped like about Jumping Jacks because they thought men I have d Y vivacious ac ous girls seen girls who thought they had dying calves and other girls who always pretty fes eyes iroll roll them like pose posed 1 movIe tar star they admired languidly u Y like some And men hated them thern a r thy they K would h have them If ave liked they had bun been simple and natural a and n d dave cal common enl sens I S 'S Be st e kid Is II the but best advice that tha t give a girl who wants wanta to b be popUlAr with men nYbo anybody y Can jy ROTHY DIX Copyright by Public Led c I |