| Show I Dorothy Dixs Dix's Dix s 's Letter Box SHALL THE COLLEGE STUDENT BECOME ENGAGED NOW NOOR NOW OR GIVE THE GIRL A CHANCE TO MAKE MAPE A BETTER CETTER MATCH THE GIRL WHOSE SELFISH MOTHER REFUSES TO LET HER MARRY SHALL MISS SPIN SPIN- SPINSTER SPINSTER SPINSTER STER BE WIFE NO 3 I EAR MISS blISS I DIX DIX I am a young man In college very much In love lo DEAR D with Ith a girl who I feel sure returns my affection Shall we e be- be become be become come como engaged I am afraid to have her ber wait walt for me for tor fear tear that when I h have ve finished my mr college collese career which will take several years ears more my fancy will be turned to a younger girl and that I J will have havo lost my love y 4 for her bel I J do not wish to be unfair to the girl for she she she Is now at the age when she could make maket t- t the best match What advice do you give J J N R fi i k Answer Spoken like a it gentleman I J It Is not often that the man In love considers I the womans woman's side of the case and the injustice that he may bo be doing her by asking her to stake her whole lifes life's happiness on the gamble of what he x mayor may or may not feel three or four years ears hence Yet it Is a vital Ital matter to the girl because her youth OU i Is the brief day of sunshine In which a w woman man must make her matrimonial hay bay and provide herself hersel with witha a home borne and a husband If she sho Is to have them at all From 18 to 25 is il the time when a maiden It Is most attractive attractive tive to men Between those thou two milestones milestone almost every girl can find a husband but after that she he strikes strike the tho trail where eligible eligible men are few and far between It It la therefore it a cruelly selfish thing for a man to prevent a girl from marry marry- marryIng marrying ing while the marrying Is la good In order to walt wait for him on the supposition that ho he may still want her somewhere In the Indefinite future Very VCr often orten he doesn't want her when the time comes for tor him to make good and he ho either olther throws her over os-er a Jilted old maid whose romance days are over o or else ebe he marries her from a 1 sense of ot duty of ot creatures an unloved and she finds herself that most forlorn all and unwanted wife It Is particularly foolish for tor a young man who Is ta Just starting on ona ona ona a college course to tie himself up in a a II long engagement because he be heis beIs heIs is so BO very sOre sure to repent of It The very thing he goes to college for Is to enlarge his vision cultivate his taste give him a broader point of ot view Part of ot his education Is his association with the clever young oung women students he meets In college circles Hi His new environment molds him Into a different man and when lie he goes back home the odds oddi are tremendously against hi looking looking at the girl he left behind him with the same came eyes with which he beheld her when whon he was starting off to college It If It does a n chap any good to get his sentiments off oft his bis chest by telling tolling a girl he lo loves es her well and goo good Let him do so And It ItIs Itis Is 18 always a pleasure and a comfort to a a girl to lend an ear to any allY man who yearns to tell her how he adores her But unless there Is the certainty of the wedding bells ringing In the near future the mat mat- matter matter ter should drop with mere mere soft talk It if Is s bett better r for the man to go unfettered on his way and it Is a million times better for the tho girl not to be bound And if they really have for each other the love that will stand separation and absence then when they finally plight their troth It Is I with the assurance that they are going to marry each other because they want to and not because they are fulfilling an old contract of which one or the other Is weary DOROTHY DiX a S S 5 EAR MISS DIX I DIX I am a young oung woman teaching school I am Inlove In DEAR D love with a splendid young oung man but hut my mother refuses her cof co- cosent con Bent sent because she says that she fihe cannot give me u up as I am an child My parents have always been kind and good to me and gave I me a good education Now they feel that I should stay with them and take care of them them-J them I mean melon to be company to t them em for tor they are only ocly middle aged and do not need me to support them What shall I do LUCINDA Answer and Go on and marry your young man Live your own life and be happy Your parents parenti are utterly unreasonable and selfish In wanting to sacrifice you to their own comfort and pleasure and you will be very silly If you permit them to todo todo todo do so Suppose they are kind and loving to you and did take good care of you and educate you That was nothing but their duty since they brought you Into the world and It gives them no nc right to enslave you for the remainder of your life I You will observe that your mother r didn't consider that she was obligated to stay at home with her mother and cherish and comfort her She married and set up her own home and had the full normal life liCe of ot a woman and she Is cruelly selfish to deny that to you ou It Is not love that makes a mother try to keep her daugh daugh- daughter daughter daughter ter from marrying It Is centered self egotism She Is think think- thinkIng thinkIng Ing of her own comfort and happiness not the tho girl girls girl's It she sho really loved her daughter she would want her to have the bliss of being loved the comfort of having haing a good husband the pleasure of ot her own home the tho Joy of ot a baby's head on her breast the tho certainty of ot having some one to care cue tor for her In her old age She wouldn't want to doom her to a loveless existence In which she would have to support herself and end her days das In an old ladles ladies home And here I Is something funny but true Lucinda If It you listen to your mother and let her prevent you from marrying while you are young and have ve the opportunity of making a good match after you are an old maid and nobody wants want you she will reproach you ou for being single So dont don't listen to her hep wails walls about how she cant can't bear to give you up She will survive the shock and be as pleased as Punch after it Is over and she can brag about her er mar mar- married tied ried daughter DOROTHY DIX S C S S S SD SEAR DEAR D EAR T Yes EAR DOROTHY Please DIX DIX Please tell me what you think of o sayIng Yes to a man who has been married twice already I know him to be a fine nan man an In every respect OLD MAID Answer An Well I be greatly guided by whether he was it a grass or sod widow If It he had d been bun divorced from two woo wo- women wo women men I should be extremely of hIs hi disposition Being of that kind that I li Is unendurable to live with There are plenty of ot men you kno w who are sober and moral and upright eminently good citizens In the community who are areso areso areso so grouchy and cantankerous and stingy that no woman can possibly stand them and so they lost their wives via the divorce route But because a man mn had been bereaved by death of two wives does not affect his hi eligibility On the contrary it adds to his hi desirability because If a time one-time widower Is it a preferred risk In matrimony a two times widower should be bea bea a gilt edged Investment In all sober truth It takes experience In marriage to teach tenth a man how to treat a y-Ife y wife and no men make as kind as patient and as Indulgent husbands as those who have gone through the matrimonial fires and have bave come out pure gold purged of ot a 8 lot of ot their selfishness and combination tyrannies and their theories that wives should be a 1 combine combine- tion ion of domestic slave and plaything The old proverb ny says that three times Is I the tho charm ehm and nd doubtless this s Is I true In a third wife Give It a try anyway DOROTHY DIX Copyright by Public Ledger |
