Show Dorothy Der Dix Talks THE ONE SUR SURE CURE FOR THE WOMAN WHO PINES FOR THE SWEETHEART SHE DIDN'T MARRY IS TO SEE HIM AS ASHE ASHE ASHE HE IS TODAY FOR TODAY FOR THE MAN OF HER DREAMS DOESN'T EXIST HES EXIST HES HE'S ONLY PART OF THE GOLD OLD DAYS FICTION I T GET a great many letters from women who write mo that In their girlhood they had love affairs that came to nothing Sometimes Sometimes it was a case casa of ot bread and butter school boy and girl sweetheart Some Some- Sometimes Sometimes times limes it was a romance that ended In la a II quarrel and andt anda t n a broken engagement Sometimes the men were drunken Immoral and the girls nothing good had sense enough not to wreck their own lives Jives live by y marrying them Sometimes s circumstances drifted 1 a coup apart I However It was loves love's young oung dream just re- re per pe petered out out as loves love's young dream has a way ay of doing r and after a while other men came along with whom y these women fell In love lovo and whom they married Now they think they have havo discovered ered that they arc t A not ot In ln love l v with their husbands t but but ut with these ex ex- ex J lovers They say ay that they can do nothing but of these that they mIssed and that they are of ot all women most miserable J I IShoo Shoo sisters sister dry r d-r dry your weeping eyes and andl l Il III Ilbe be comforted by the knowledge that your grief is a purely imaginary one It is not a aa aa aa a broken heart but Inflammation of the ima imagination that ail ails you ou You are shedding tears over the dream that every woo wo- wooman woman wo woman man ms and from which every woman wakes up with a chock of surprise FOR POR every woman believes that she is getting a husband who will willE willA E be a perpetual sweetie a financial wizard and who will be as I laugh Gough In fit her hands Then when she finds out that Instead of ot hying ot tot got a man who Is Iii an aggregation of ol all masculine charms and virtues she appears to have drawn a husband who seems to her to monopolize monopolize most of ot the faults of ot his sex a man who Is dumb at love love- lovemaking lovemaking making love making and not much of a n money getter who is as irritable as as the fretful porcupine and as stubborn as a mule why then she to think tenderly of the man she didn't marr marry and she Is ver very apt to In cJ the the head head bead of oher her former lormer sweetheart with a halo So she goes on an orgy of self-pity self and spends hours of morbid pleasure In digging up her dead love out of Its grave and holding an autopsy over it and thinking how happy she would have been If she had married the man she didn't marry marry and whom she pictures as a perfect being with none of the faults that afflict the man she did marry SHE QUE lets her mind dwell on this picture of o her former sweetheart 7 until she sho persuades herself that she has a deathless passion for him and that by tailing failing to marry him she wrecked her lier life It would save these ladies who are arc pining away with a agreen agreen agreen green and yellow melancholy barrels of tears if they could only realize that their secret grief Is a purely Imaginary one and that It is rooted In the curious Impulse we all have to extol the past at the expense of the present It Is what v makes us glorify the good old times and sentimentalize over childhood happy days and idealize our our- youthful our youthful chums and pine to go back and live in the old home All of which Is rank nonsense MOST jOST H of us is are aro better oft off now than we ever Cr were before Child Child- Child 11 hood isn't the happiest time of ot life lite because then we haven't ha learned philosophy enough rot not to let things hurt us When we go goback goback goback back back to the old homo home we find it a tumble down cottage Instead of o the halaco alace of o our memories and that the boys bos and girls whom we re- re re remembered as so beautiful and so brilliant are plain homely dull corn com corn men and women No cure could be so to effectual l for these women who are br their h hearts arts in vain for their lot lost loves as Just to see their former sweethearts again Ten to one they wouldn't have them on a bet for there is ro roo more die die- dis disillusioning experience than to find the man who vho we have re- re remembered re remembered as and young and ambrosial curls and bubbling over over with romance changed Into a fat heavy bald headed Gentleman whose only topics of conversation are his busi business ness and hi hit his golf and who Is fussy about his food and sit sit- sitting sit sitting ting in drafts THE T THE HE woman who thinks that she would have o been perfectly happy if 1 she had her married old sweetheart if It also simply voicing the comm common n human dl discontent with our lot and belief we all entertain that everybody's jobs are easier casler ea ler than our own The professional man envies the business man The busIness busInessman businessman businessman man regrets that he did not Dot take up a I profession The laborer thInks that his employ employer r has a soft snap The employer wishes he didn't have hae anything on his mind after atter his days day's work Is over The single Roman oman thI thinks thinks It must be wonderful to have ha a husband to jo support pocketbook rou ou The Tho married woman yearns after freedom and her own pocket pocket- pocket book book And soe goes A woman knows the shortcomings of o the man she married but she doesn't know w those of or the man she didn't marry marry so she imagines that life lICe with him would have been a journey over a strewn rose rose with no thorns in fn It But Dut it she should ask his wife the she tell her a different tale For For there Is no such tuch person as the man she didn't marry There is no no man without nerves and temper and irritating ways wayt No man who is thoughtful always always thoughtful and unselfish and considerate No 10 man who doesn't sometimes fuss about the cooking and nd the bills No man who spends his hit evenings holding hold hold- holdIna holding ing Ina his wife's hand and making her pretty speeches And if there were such a man he would bore his wife to death and she couldn't stand him at any price IT jT IS a foolish and pitiful thing for women omen to waste their hearts In futile regrets for tor the man they didn't marry and who after aCter all 1 a lay figure that they dress up Ul in the chiffons of ot their fancies Far better for them If they made the best of the man manthey manthey they did marry DOROTHY mx DIX Copyright b by Public Ledger |